lilmissmup - the 2010 chapter!

retrocircles

You're doing well!

lilmissmup

No more money making today....oops!

But all furniture is now out of my house so can stop paying council tax now and last months rent goes out tomorrow and then as of 25th Jan I can start saving.

Also met a friend for drink today, hes lovely, a lot older than me at 51 so defo just a friend but he brought me a christmas pressie with a little note in it saying things will get better which really made me smile.

Also emailed a guy on match.com who actually replied! Hes Irish and a bit geeky but thats the ball rolling

Shoe_Gal

Well done you :j And I love an Irish accent :rolleyes:

little_h_2

lilmissmup wrote: »

Its not that I don't love him still co I do, its just I know I don't want to go back to a relationship that was not working anymore

good for you, I hope 2010 brings you everything you dream of and more!

it took me almost 4 years to get over leaving my husband for the same reason. I woke up in 2010 having left everything in 2009 and felt so much lighter in the emotional department. cost me lots of money and almost finished me off but I have moved on now.

be strong and don't rush into anything with match.com unless someone impossibly rich eye candy comes along!

doodledo_2

Good luck on Match.com, I have toyed with the idea myself but I don't feel entirely ready for the whole dating thing to be honest

lilmissmup

To be honest doodles I am not sure I am but was only £20 for six months so not too worried if I don't date a single person in that time.

Hi Little H, I am nowhere near over my ex either really, just seeing how things go on match.com for friends really. Good Luck for this year though, in a way I am grateful to my ex for leaving me as I don't think I would have had the guts to leave ever

Souk08

Lilmissmup that's the 1st time you've said that and actually admitted things weren't great. This is HUGE progress!

doodledo_2

I agree Souk I think huge steps have been made the last few days :T

lilmissmup

Awww thanks ladies. Guess its cos apart from the emails I haven't actually had any other contact with ex for over six weeks now.

In one very weird way I am thankful for the mind games, well sort off cos it finally showed me it wouldn't work and time apart has too.

I should be going to sleep soon as back to work tomorrow but am wide awake still!!!

Oh and tips on how to let nice sounding guys down on match.com too? Cos I have had another email but just don't find him at all attractive but don't wanna be rude.

Had a weirdo too so told him no and just blocked that one, am sure will have to do that a bit too! :rolleyes:

Souk08

Right, here's what I do. Anyone you don't like the look of ignore them. I know it sounds harsh but they'll do it to you too!!! Also don't get too obsessed by it, loads of people email for a bit, arrange to meet then don't get back in touch when you want to sort out places etc! LOADS of timewasters on the net so remember it's not you.
I got all excited and was on all the time at first but it goes through fits and starts so take it easy. Basically don't take it too seriously. I have loads of fun doing it but I've also met some dull guys and /or guys I didn't fancy/didn't fancy me. it's a numbers game love, the more guys you date, the more chance you have of meeting a decent one. I go with low expectaions and if I meet someone I fancy great, if not then it makes a good story!!!! XXX