MSE Parents Club Part 9

3onitsway

emlou2009 wrote: »

I've PM'd you

I think I need to develop a cleaning obsession I used to pride myself on being a Monica but since Seth was born I CBA!! I only really hoover every couple of days, and rinse the bath and sink out every day cos the cats like to get in them and drink the water straight from the tap, I'd be so ashamed if someone came round before I'd had a chance to gut the place!!

I'm sure you meant to say you haven't got time!


Tia Not sure if you've already said, but how far away is the school? Will DS need transport for it?

And while i'm here, i'm going to have a moan.

DS gets transport to his school which is 12 miles from home. The provision of transport is part of his SEN.

Since before christmas he's being a bu66er! He gets on the bus absolutely fine in the morning, links the arm of his escort and goes quite happily. But, when it comes to coming home he goes nuts, kicking, throwing himself on the floor so much that the bus have refused to bring him apart from one day last week.

So, they phone me to go and collect him so i'm getting DD from school and then driving us all the 24 mile trip to get him home. I've spoken to the transport department and the school who both say he may be better in a taxi with escort, rather than a bus setting - but transport babbled on about funding and said to leave it til the end of the month. So potentially I have another two weeks of collecting him, 24 miles a day, 5 days a week (how much is that in diesel?) See, it is a MSE post in a round-about way! :money:

I can't get hold of transport again today, or the school head and the teacher is off sick. Mum said I should keep him off school until transport get their asses into gear and provide what they're supposed to....but i'm not sure. She sees it that as long as i'm there to collect him, they won't bother to get other arrangements in place!

Any opinions?

ETA: I also think me collecting him has encouraged him to kick off - cos he knows that means Mum will come. His TA said yesterday that as they walked down the corridor she was telling him they were going to the bus and signing bus to him. He, with a huge grin on his face signed back 'mum, red & car!'. Little booger!

jillie1974

i only iron the essentials. DH is currently ironing his own work shirts as he needs them as i [STRIKE]cant be bothered[/STRIKE] am too busy looking after Kian.

hi mm!!
was wondering where you were hiding?

feelinggood_2

3, how does he find a change in routine? Is he okay with normal school holidays?

Krystaltips

3, what would happen if you didn't have a car and therefore couldn't get to the school and collect him?

My friends boy goes on the bus and went through a 'phase' last term... It turned out that the bus that takes him to respite care was in view when they were taking him to the bus home and he would throw a fit because he wanted to go to respite... They managed to overcome the problem and he's behaving again, but they never asked my friend to come and collect him over it... Although he is still small and manageable at the moment... I don't know how long that will last...

SugarSpun

3, the next time they call, could you tell them that your car's not running at the moment and they need to get him home some other way?

They don't need to know that it isn't running because you're not in it and it's sitting in your driveway. But it might drive home the importance of having a plan in place for a child who has a long drive each way.

SusanC_2

I almost never iron anything. I iron things for weddings and OH sometimes needs stuff done but since he never decides something needs ironing until he's about to put it on, he just does it himself.

3onitsway

money_maker wrote: »

You forgot the necessity to drive a 7 seater people carrier when you have 2 children !!

Is it acceptable when you have 3 children?

Hope your today was better than your yesterday.

feelinggood wrote: »

3, how does he find a change in routine? Is he okay with normal school holidays?

He doesn't like changes to his routine, but seems to accept the week long school holidays now. He gets really irritated/stressy when they have longer than a week off.

Part of me is also thinking that a taxi & escort isn't going to help because its not me in my red car! Also, its another change which will be totally new to him.
I don't get how the bus is ok for him in the morning, but not at home time. Same bus, driver, escorts and children!

3onitsway

Krystaltips wrote: »

3, what would happen if you didn't have a car and therefore couldn't get to the school and collect him?

My friends boy goes on the bus and went through a 'phase' last term... It turned out that the bus that takes him to respite care was in view when they were taking him to the bus home and he would throw a fit because he wanted to go to respite... They managed to overcome the problem and he's behaving again, but they never asked my friend to come and collect him over it... Although he is still small and manageable at the moment... I don't know how long that will last...

Thats what my mum said!
She works in a special school for children with behavior issues in the crappiest part of town, and when we had the bad snow the transport cancelled so they called all of the parents to collect the children. Some had no cars, some couldn't [STRIKE]be ar5ed [/STRIKE]and some were to pi55ed to drive! :eek: The head ended up taking the last remaining child home at 8.45pm!

SugarSpun wrote: »

3, the next time they call, could you tell them that your car's not running at the moment and they need to get him home some other way?

That was another plan. It is actually going in for service next Thursday so I could bring it forward!

tiamai_d

MM, aww! I can totally tell you're excited, thank you! Hows you? Recovered?

3, it's far away, in Ayr and we are in a village outside there so it will be a taxi. Not enough children for a bus, sometimes a mini bus, but most likely a taxi. And he will get it all paid for. If I were able to take him there and back I would (top appease DH) but with DS1 going to the school here, I can't. Plus 3 days a week Amber and I shall be at college, course, Amber will be at the nursery there but you get the idea.

Shame he's kicking off, they need to get him on the bus to break the habit by the sounds of it. Any way you could go down one day and get the bus home with him?

By the way, quick question, when your DS was learning his signs, did you get a book so you could learn? Chris knows so many and I know a handful, looked at Makaton.org but no idea what book to buy (plus they are a lot of money).

ETA, I have a 7 seater too, well, right now a 6 seater cos one seats out so I have a boot like

money_maker_3

3onitsway wrote: »

Is it acceptable when you have 3 children?

Hope your today was better than your yesterday.

ummm, well OK then you could argue that it is hard to fit 3 kids in the back seat of a normal car esp when 1 is in a car seat .... maybe :rolleyes::p

Was a bit better today thanks, I had my duck dinner and birthday cake (which I went and bought for myself this morning !!)