3 days off for a funeral

anotherginger

some people here are so heartless!

my gran (my last grandparent) passed away earlier this year and my employer gave me three days off with no questions asked. the funeral was on a monday, so i got the monday-wednesday off work on compassionate leave. i had said i would use annual leave, but they were fine with giving me three days, and would have given me longer if i had requested it.

one day is not enough. what would be the point in a member of staff coming to work if they were grieving and weren't going to be productive anyway.

for me, being given one day would have made my situation worse.

Bogof_Babe

anotherginger wrote: »

some people here are so heartless!

my gran (my last grandparent) passed away earlier this year and my employer gave me three days off with no questions asked. the funeral was on a monday, so i got the monday-wednesday off work on compassionate leave. i had said i would use annual leave, but they were fine with giving me three days, and would have given me longer if i had requested it.

one day is not enough. what would be the point in a member of staff coming to work if they were grieving and weren't going to be productive anyway.

for me, being given one day would have made my situation worse.

Obviously your job is not as critical to the running of the company as the OP's employee's is. Or you work for a large company that can absorb absences easier.

The OP is not being awkward for the sake of it you know.

Heliflyguy

Errata wrote: »

This isn't about the death of a partner or parent - it's a grandparent. Very different.

What are you talking about ... I know that and was commenting on the facts of the other post about only allowing time off for the death of a child and why have you edited my post, I did go on to add advice as I see it.
What have you added apart from a crap joke and 2 lines saying how you can travel from Manchester to London and back in a day and attend a loved ones funeral.
What are you the forum evangalist or something, get a life. :mad:

Reverbe

nearlyrich wrote: »

I have lost both parents whilst working fulltime and on both occasions I was told to do whatever I needed to do in regards to work, I had just gone back to work after my mum's funeral when my FIL died the next day and this involved travelling to sort out arrangements and attend another funeral. I was probably off for around 3 to 4 weeks overall,.

No disrespect but 3-4 weeks off for a father in law seems a bit excessive. If your OH had to arrange funeral that is one thing because he is actually family.

I was once refused time off for my Grandmothers funeral and had to take a day out of my leave for a close friend who I considered family.

Errata

Heliflyguy wrote: »

What are you talking about ... I know that and was commenting on the facts of the other post about only allowing time off for the death of a child and why have you edited my post, I did go on to add advice as I see it.
What have you added apart from a crap joke and 2 lines saying how you can travel from Manchester to London and back in a day and attend a loved ones funeral.
What are you the forum evangalist or something, get a life. :mad:

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ceecee1

Finding out if the funeral is actually true might just put your mind at rest. Last year I had to send flowers to a funeral for someone whose family I didn;t know how to contact.

I knew which town he lived in, traced the local paper on the internet and looked at the obituary notices. It was really easy.

Even if you dont know his surname the local papers list them all and there might be a mention of grandchildrens names.

Bogof_Babe

ceecee1 wrote: »

Finding out if the funeral is actually true might just put your mind at rest. Last year I had to send flowers to a funeral for someone whose family I didn;t know how to contact.

I knew which town he lived in, traced the local paper on the internet and looked at the obituary notices. It was really easy.

Even if you dont know his surname the local papers list them all and there might be a mention of grandchildrens names.

Assuming the family have put a death notice in.

nearlyrich

Reverbe wrote: »

No disrespect but 3-4 weeks off for a father in law seems a bit excessive. If your OH had to arrange funeral that is one thing because he is actually family.

I was once refused time off for my Grandmothers funeral and had to take a day out of my leave for a close friend who I considered family.

I had already had a couple of weeks off as my Mum died really suddenly and I was completely devastated as well as having to arrange the funeral etc, my FIL died the day after I went back to work after my mum's funeral, can people not read????

moneypooh

If she has had quite a poor history of being off sick, she'll probably take the three days anyway, just as sick leave if you don't give her time off. In that case you won't have protected your business by getting cover. If she calls in sick you'll be stuck with such short notice.
just a thought..

looktothefuture

My mother-in-law passed away 1 year ago yesterday. I was allowed 1 day off when she passed away and 1 day off for the funeral!

My boss WAS heartless and asked me to prove she'd passed away - as if spending every evening at the hospital for 12 weeks (whilst working normal hours), and her actually being next to me when the hospital rang to say "get here now... she's not going to be with us much longer" wasn't proof enough for her! I left the company 2 weeks later!