Choosing not to see your child at Christmas?

Bitsy_Beans

I do think your sister is odd not wanting to spend Christmas with her son (and dare I get flamed for it a wee bit selfish, especially since there seem to be no major clashes of personality to prevent her from sucking it up and just going along for the sake of it) but then again if it happens when her son is older she's the one who's got to explain the reason behind it.
I can kinda see OP is upset, probably from the point of view that her nephew might miss his mum on what is traditionally a family day but it's her kid and it's her right to mess him up the way she sees fit

Claire2831

People are different, what works for one family doesn’t work for another. We all have different values and opinions.

I don’t understand why you are so annoyed/angry at your sister? As long as your sister and her husband are happy with the arrangements for this Christmas then really that’s all that matters….. It’s nobody else’s business quite frankly.

LJM

i personally couldnt imagine not spending quality time with my children over christmas,except if i really had to work,but out of choice definately not i find it selfish

isitenough

Definately her choice, but I find it strange as he's only 2/3 yrs old. The way I read it is they have to go up Christmas Eve do they? (as 200 miles away). So she wouldn't see him on Xmas morning to open his gifts? Or am I reading that wrong?

Kaz2904

No, you're reading it right. She's coming down here on Christmas eve. I'm not sure when they're all going home. I don't think it's until after boxing day.

Rockporkchop

What about the husband in all this? He is the one choosing his family over your sister at Christmas by insisting on taking their son to visit on the day. Your sister already spent previous Christmases with the in laws and has said she doesn't like doing it - I can totally understand this because I would rather have root canal work than spend time with my in laws.

Maybe she is testing her DH and will change her mind nearer the time. Even if she doesn't, her DS won't know that it is Christmas Day and they can always celebrate a few days later.

I can't stand Christmas myself - it wouldn't bother me if the whole occasion was cancelled permanently.

*Louise*

I guess some people just don't see Christmas day as being such the big deal that others do.

Personally, I love Christmas and could never be seperated from my children on Christmas day, but if another member of my family chose to do their day differently, it really wouldn't be any of my business to coment.

But then, I'm the 'bad mother' (according to one of MY sisters) who went away on honeymoon for a whole 5 days earlier this year without my children. My other sister moved into my house to take care of them, but I was still in the wrong. *shrugs*

Families eh...sometimes I think we should all relax a little worrying about what other people are getting up to and just concentrate on our own lives .