Weekly Flylady Thread 7th December 2009

De.Nattom

Ah, new thread~ Morning everyone. Toots, that sounded like a really horrible visit - hope you feel better soon. And honestly, "You look like you've put on weight!" What nice person says that?!

(Obviously, not such a nice person...)

Don't worry - I've broken down this morning, cried my eyes out and decided that I hate my life, and stood wondering if I could be bothered to even make it out the door this morning. Answer? No, I can't.

My mother and my grandmother have been on the phone, nagging me about my 'education' and how I'm neglecting it because I can't cope at the moment with life and finding a house, and dealing with my grandmother's depression plus my mum's nagging and do gooder tendencies.

My grandmother get's all weak and wibbly and "I can't cope..." and "Come down and help me clean out my house...". She's a chronic hoarder and she's just too bogged down to do it herself. Me and my SO have been helping but she just aquires more stuff to replace it.

Example: I threw out forty one hidieous handbags a year ago. A few months later I went back, found about half the old ones back again and another fifty or so on top of them! It's like it breeds and mulitplies and I have too much to do to be doing with breeding handbags and hoarding. You throw it out? She gets all teary and "NO, YOU CAN'T THROW THAT OUT. I WANT IT!" Oddly enough, I ask her to describe four handbags in her cupboard?

She couldn't manage one. Some of them have been in there for years. If not decades.

Err...no. I have work and other things to do and MY OWN LIFE TO LIVE, since if I go down there, I'll end up staying not for a few hours, or even over night, but for weeks at a time. I can't afford to miss that much work.

Mum? She does the whole "you're neglecting your education!" and "shall I come up there and have a clean out for you?" and my personal unfavourite "If you lend me your card, I'll order your food shopping for you...."

No, mother, if I lend you my card, I'll never see it again, because you'll hold it hostage and only give it back when I threaten you with never coming up for Xmas ever again and going down to my father's instead. You'll clean out my accounts out of your good intentions due to your hatred of the banking system since your council lost lots of money due to investing in Icelandic banks, and then you'll only buy me health food stuff in vegetarian and vegan forms and say that you're keeping me healthy.

And then you'll buy another sofa for yourself on my card.

No. Not happening. She has good intentions and I love her, but sometimes she just makes me want to throw the phone at the wall and scream. She's a veggie and thinks that I should be too which is just one example of her control freakiness.

(Ironically, I was one until my SO introduced me to the wonders of the bacon sandwich. Eighteen years of Veggie-ism flushed down the loo thanks to the bacon buttie!)

If she has a 'clean out' she won't just do my room, she'll do everyone else's and since they're studying really hard and have piles of paper that look messy but are actually really important and absolutely imperatively placed in the right order, I can't risk it - if she touches them, she could put them back a lot of marks - and as for the common rooms in the house - I do not want her anywhere near them. They are comfortably untidy and she's obsessive. Put ONE magazine out of place and she turns into a screaming harpy.

PLus she will want to stay overnight and that will turn into two days, three days, a week....

I can't take it. It's like I've got everyone pulling on me from every angle and I just can't live with it right now.

Blergh. I think I may call in some of my days off and take a couple of weeks with the SO (he's a freelancer photographer so he works his own choices) down somewhere nice.


(And that was a very long ramble about the suck-tastic ness of my family issues)

embb

pigpen wrote: »

*GLOATS AT NOT HAVING A PARTICULARLY TOXIC MOTHER* ... and if I did have she would be told quite clearly where to get off and if she had nothing nice to say then to shut the f*** up or else face the consequences!! :rotfl: I wouldn't have expected anything less :rotfl:

TD on
Face filled with toast
cuppa made
1 ebay thing revised.. 40 to do!! :eek:

I'll do this then I want the landing ceiling painted, when I stop feeling quite so sicky, and while OH does that I'll do some undercoat I think Hmmmmmm feeling sicky again huh?! something your not telling us?

Gonna do some more list now then prep corned beef hash for the SC, then wipe the benches down again, got things backwards didn't I. sheesh!

De.Nattom

Another quick post for today. I feel a lot calmer after posting that. Less angry at everything.

Today I have this list -

Post on one of my websites x 2
Post on another of my websites x2
Write a b_s about Other Store
List all X-Mas presents currently brought
Write out shopping list (1 food, 1 Xmas pressies!)
Write letter to A
Reply to email from J
Reply to email from R
Reply to email from E
Reply to email from D
Send message to E about Transformers Evening
Sort email
Write out list to do today
Charge Mp3
Copy music from CDs to mp3
Write congrats message on forum
Finish new fchapter
Reply to W
Drop five reviews
Save all vouchers from MoneySavers
Send R an email about Bday and Nic's birthday
Wrap own DVD presents (I have had it with no presents to open on my birthday - I've brought, am going to wrap and will open those DVDS on my birthday!)
Write list of rules to give to grandparent
Post entry on blog
Use WMP not iPod
Finish watching NCIS
Put uniform into wash
Check out new work
Put new Jewellery away
Have lunch
Shower
HHC in room.

Triker

Yey I.T. have sorted me out, oopsy I was inputting my password the wrong way, **slaps head** what a dufus. Ahh well that's what I get for being off for 4 months...brain drain.

Miss A, glad you enjoyed the Quo, sounds like a rockin' night.:T

Ooh I'm going to be creative and actually get today's list and cross out what I did at 1am this morning, not cheating as such because I did do these jobs today.

Monday ~ Kitchen of Grot and Dining Room of Gloom
Level One
[STRIKE]Declutter and mop/vacuum the floors[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Find and wipe the worksurfaces[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Wipe the big appliances and units.. [/STRIKE]don't forget kickboards!
Wipe small appliances and replace.. do one thoroughly.. descale or [STRIKE]decrumb[/STRIKE] or degunge! I decrumbed the toaster.
Clear and wipe a shelf or window sill
Level Three
[STRIKE]Wipe the table [/STRIKE]and replace the cloth if necessary.
[STRIKE]Sort through [/STRIKE]and clean out one cupboard
[STRIKE]Clean [/STRIKE]the oven and[STRIKE] hob[/STRIKE]..

Extras

1. Clean out the fridge.. make use of anything almost past its best
2. Wash the windows
3. Clean the top of the kitchen wall units.. if you can reach.. no accidents please!!
4. Dust and Deweb

Craftyscholar

Monday ~ Kitchen of Grot and Dining Room of Gloom
Level One
Declutter and mop/vacuum the floors
Find and wipe the worksurfaces
Level Two
Wipe the big appliances and units.. don't forget kickboards!
Wipe small appliances and replace.. do one thoroughly.. descale or decrumb or degunge!
Clear and wipe a shelf or window sill
Level Three
Wipe the table and replace the cloth if necessary.
Sort through and clean out one cupboard
Clean the oven and hob..
Extras

1. Clean out the fridge.. make use of anything almost past its best
2. Wash the windows
3. Clean the top of the kitchen wall units.. if you can reach.. no accidents please!!
4. Dust and Deweb

Crafty's Dec List
Finish decorating tree - DONE - I have never put up my tree as early as this
Cards - of course
Wrap presents - only two to do
Cut and seam quilt backing
Book Gammill slot - BOOKED - 17th Dec
Check WIPs and batting - buy extra batting (remember to take voucher)
Set up ebook reader
Studying - make a plan for rest of month - or look into giving up (OK I am just feeling grumpy about it) No sod it - I am not giving up - Think about toots and Lady-L and stop being so pathetic.

thifty - fingers crossed
sexymouse - positive vibes
pink - healing vibes for your MIL - that sounds nasty.
Hugs for those with unhelpful/irritating OHs
Toots – hope you feel better this morning. Don’t even think of apologising. Rant away – you have far more right than any of us. And yes we all spotted the reference to Mr Toots.
JillD – hugs – she probably praises you to others
“She had a huff in the middle of DD1's birthday party yesterday. !!!!!! ??? There were 12 5 year olds here and the 69 year old is the one having a strop.”
MissA – :hello:Glad you enjoyed your gig
SS – Oh dear – poor bully :rotfl:
De.Nat - mega hugs - rant away my dear (it's amazing how it helps writing it down) We only nag when someone needs support to do things they want to do.
Special vibes to toots and Lady-L

lala1974

Hi everyone,

Monday ~ Kitchen of Grot and Dining Room of Gloom
Level One
Declutter and mop/vacuum the floors
Find and wipe the worksurfaces
Level Two
Wipe the big appliances and units.. don't forget kickboards!
Wipe small appliances and replace.. do one thoroughly.. descale or decrumb or degunge!
Clear and wipe a shelf or window sill
Level Three
Wipe the table and replace the cloth if necessary.
Sort through and clean out one cupboard
Clean the oven and hob..
Extras

1. Clean out the fridge.. make use of anything almost past its best
2. Wash the windows
3. Clean the top of the kitchen wall units.. if you can reach.. no accidents please!!
4. Dust and Deweb

Will be lurking more than posting this week. DH has a week of leave so we're going to chill out together and just do our own thing

Thank you to the usual suspects for lists and efforts to keep me on track

Sorry, I've not had the chance to read the thread, hope you're all ok.
Special thoughts and hugs to Lady-L and Toots :A:A

Lala x

Nomoneymummy_2

Hi All......

Have been meaning to join the FlyLady thread since finding OS and MSE but have been making naughty excuses to myself

So finally for the first time since we moved in (3 long years!) the entire house is now refurbished properlly, and there are no more excuses!

Started a new job about 2 months back, which has odd hours, and have still been finishing off bits and bobs in the house.
Last room was finished 2 weeks ago, all new plastered and painted, and last week I got binbag happy and starting from the top of the house gutted the place, no more clutter, no more mess, no more unworn clothes, unplayed with toys etc etc!!

So now its all down to keeping on top of it ...

Feel so much more relaxed than I have done in a long time, we moved into the house 2 weeks before xmas 2006, with my dd2 just 4 months old and me with a bad case of mastitas, and ever since its been a struggle to get everything done! (I actually went 4 months without a kitchen at the worst point!)
Silly me for falling in love with a house that needed so much work , but looking round it now it was very very worth it!!

So I'm now using the FlyLady thread as my cleaning bible and hopefully it will stay as spick and span as its looking now!

Sorry for the ramble!

RIght tody my plan to do/have already done:
Monday ~ Kitchen of Grot and Dining Room of Gloom
Level One
Declutter and mop/vacuum the floors
Find and wipe the worksurfaces
Level Two
Wipe the big appliances and units.. don't forget kickboards!
Wipe small appliances and replace.. do one thoroughly.. descale or decrumb or degunge!
Clear and wipe a shelf or window sill
Level Three
Wipe the table and replace the cloth if necessary.
Sort through and clean out one cupboard
Clean the oven and hob..


Extras

1. Clean out the fridge.. make use of anything almost past its best
2. Wash the windows
3. Clean the top of the kitchen wall units.. if you can reach.. no accidents please!!
4. Dust and Deweb

Am leaving the windows for OH on the weekend, as they are big sash ones and I'm a clumsy so* and would only fall out! Ditto the top of the kitchen units!
Thankfully all the cupboards are decluttered so its keeping on top of it now.
:T:T

greenbee

Lady-Liberty wrote: »

Toots You moan away Sweetie........this "new life style" we have is cr*p sometimes.......I so know where you are coming from..........BUT Mr. Toots why have we not been told about him xxxx

She has mentioned him before... as a potential Mr Toots... I think she should tell us more :D:D
Wasn't going to bother to drive into the office this morning as I only have one call... but have just heard that my boss's boss is in today and tomorrow, so i'd better get dressed and into the car!!!!

ajmoney

HHC 10.10-10.40 anyone? I need to get today's list done so I can do my own!

embb

Welcome nomoneymummy :hello: your house sounds wonderful.

I've concocted a 'my list'

make beds (I'm late today)
empty TD
^^fold contents
prep SC
nip to shop
tidy LR
parents evening @ College
rubbish in bin outside
see to cat
wash hair and straighten
meal plan
write shopping list
empty DW
quick hoover through.

De.Nat ((((((((hugs for you))))))