Help!! Grooms wedding speech!!!

trigger_mike

Hi, Im getting married on Saturday and have to do a speech and im really Packing it!
The trouble is im quite shy when it comes to talking infront of groups of people as i gabble and talk drival.
Been looking on https://www.hitched.co.uk at speeches and the ones on their are really funny and clever and something im no good at in front of people.
Anybody got any good advice to help me get though this?
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southernscouser

Congratulations btw! :beer:

Firstly I would say have a drink! But not too many! You don't want to slur!

Don't they say to try and imagine everyone naked when your talking. Try and avoid looking at the attractive females though in case something pops up that you can't control! :rotfl:

Just practice it over and over! Have you got anything together yet? Why not post it on here!

mellyp

First of all, congratulations.

When i got married, 4 and a half years ago, hubby was bricking it too, about the speech. He is very shy, and even hates talking on the phone to people, i.e. renewing his car insurance, stuff like that, he gets all tongue tied.

He went onto https://www.hitched.co.uk and cobbled together a speech made up of bits he liked from some of the speeches on there and sort of fine tuning it to suit us, if you see what i mean.

If i can remember correctly, (seems like a lifetime ago now:rotfl: ), him and his best man spent an evening on the net doing the above for both their speeches.

He then had a small piece of paper with about 7/8 keywords on it to jog his memory on the day. He just placed this on the table in front of him and referred to it when he needed to.

Good luck with everyhing and try not to stress - easier said than done i know - the day will go so fast, try and enjoy it!

I made an off the cuff speech in my wedding, wasn't planning to do one, but then i've always been the gobby one of the two of us - well one of us has to be!!;)

mountainofdebt

Might be an idea to write your speech down.....index cards are small enough to be put in an inside pocket but large enough to be useful.

Otherwise if you don't want to write the whole speech down, right key points so your memory can be jogged about what you want to say.

Don't rush ... take your time ........

I seem to remember my husband ending his speech by saying something like "as I mean to start my married life as I mean to go on, I'll let Mountainofdebt have the last word"

Wouldn't have minded but he didn't tell me he was going to do that so I was the one waffling on!

mountainofdebt

Meant to say congratulations as well!

dwsjarcmcd

My advice is to do what your good at and if your not good at public speaking then accept it. If your not good at telling jokes, then don't try to be funny, just write it down, highlight the bits you need to remember and speak from the heart, it'll shine through!!

Good luck and congrats, I do know what your on about, I got married 4 weeks ago!

Glad

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trigger_mike

The trouble is when I'm in front of a small group i am quite funny and very chatty but I'm so nervous about being in front if 90 people that I'm scared that if i did try and be funny it will just full flat on it's face and I'll end up looking like a prat! Thanks for your advice, i am listening, trying to jot a few ideas down.
It's took me 2 Hours to write Ladies and Gentleman so far!

littlejaffa

Keep it basic, if you know your not good at it don't do it.

So your not giving a speach, calmer already?

Start by saying on behalf of my wife & I, then stop everyone WILL laugh, it's a promise. Then say you thank everyone for coming, thank your bride for making you the happiest man in the world (pause) then thank the bridesmaids and say how nice they look - look at them (your bride, the bridesmaids) when you say it, your talking to them NOT giving a speach or talking to anyone else in the room.

It'll take minutes, it's not a speach, your talking to one person at a time, your bride, the maids etc..but standing up.

People are never so generous in spirit as they are on your wedding day - no matter what you do people will you to get it right, really don't worry, and don't do it if your not comfortable.

trigger_mike

I want to add the fact my father-in-law cut his comb over of yesterday for the wedding, he's had it 30 years!, got to think of a funny way to add that in.

The_Saving_Man

Congratulations. I used to also be a shy guy who would always avoid public speaking, but then I made a conscious decision to try and challenge myself and speak more often in public. Net result, I ended up MC'ing my sister's wedding, which I never would have done a five or ten years ago.

First of all, accept that you're nervous, but try channeling it. Even the most competent and eloquent public speakers 'brick it' before they speak. But try channeling those nerves into excitement and adrenalin. Also, pretend that you're acting a part, and that all you are doing is performing a role. Think about what sort of character you are, and you are now acting out that role.

But above all else, have fun. This is your day (and the missus), and it's your speech. There are only two people in the room that you have to entertain. One is you, the other is the person you just married.

I hope you have a great day and congrats again.