Guest wants to bring boyfriend

superfran_uk

My invitations are going to have some kind of caveat to the tune of 'Unfortunately due to space restrictions we are unable to invite partners of guests to the ceremony, but they are welcome to join us from 7pm'.

It is the truth though, we're currently at capacity! Hopefully not too many people will take us up on the whole bringing their partner thing.

talulahbeige_2

How many people are you over venue capacity? If its quite a few you will have to be careful of the dreaded health & safety, the venue will have limits for a reason and they might turn your guests away or receive a fine if anyone finds out they we over full.

Rosie75

talulahbeige wrote: »

How many people are you over venue capacity? If its quite a few you will have to be careful of the dreaded health & safety, the venue will have limits for a reason and they might turn your guests away or receive a fine if anyone finds out they we over full.

That's a good question. We're ten people over what we had originally agreed with the venue. They haven't said anything about health and safety but I might check this with them.

superfran_uk

It could also be something to do with their licensing restrictions. If they give you a limit then they're unlikely to be able to let more people in - you really do need to check.

Tigerlilley1980

Hi there, the way we have done it is we only invited boyfriends if they live together or they are both friens of ours. We have had to be very restrictive on our guest list because we can only have 70 at the night do. If you can I would say that they can't come. Although we hve found that a few of our guests have had to drop out due to illnes but we have invited others in their place. This might happen with you aswell. Tiger xxx

frannyann

I would check with the venue, before you tell anyone else they can come. As the venue will have a max number allowed and if you go over they may turn people away!
ETA However if it the cost per person (eg for the buffet) our venue allows us to go over by 20% of guests catered for because they assume roughly thats how many don't turn up or leave early!

Miss_Stellerstar

My sister let a friend of her husband bring a guest and it turned out to be a big mistake. He ruined all the table centers in half an hour (they were ballons so you can guess what happened), spent a great deal of time moaning about the wedding and insulting the bride.
My sister got very upset and alot of the guests didn't know how to deal with this man because they had never met him before.
So I would think very hard about it, it might be just one person but you dont know anything about them and what kind of drunk they are.

superfran_uk

Miss_Stellerstar wrote: »

My sister let a friend of her husband bring a guest and it turned out to be a big mistake. He ruined all the table centers in half an hour (they were ballons so you can guess what happened), spent a great deal of time moaning about the wedding and insulting the bride.
My sister got very upset and alot of the guests didn't know how to deal with this man because they had never met him before.
So I would think very hard about it, it might be just one person but you dont know anything about them and what kind of drunk they are.

Oh dear god! I imagine that your sister's husband and his friend had words afterwards but seriously WHO does that!

hunnycat

Even though no one has declined an evening invite yet does not mean that they are coming.

Until recently i have never R.s.v.p to a evening invite, now planning my own wedding i realise how important it is! A lot of my friends have said the same that they would never think to reply to an evening but would to a day.

I would just invite him and i also echo what others are saying about the venue to check limits.

shellsuit

I can understand where you are coming from and I'd just tell the guest that you can't accomodate their BF as you have strict numbers you have to stick to and that you already can't invite every family member who you would like to be there.