Partners Insecurities, Pls help!!

vaio

run get my vote too (but maybe get a reference re the high quality sex life first )

zac

jillymit wrote: »

Listen to you inner voice,walk away, failing that, run!

It's the kindest thing to both of you really, Having these problems in less than two months, heaven knows what kind off heartache you will put yourself through in a year.
This lady sounds like she has serious issues it must be awful for her as well but it isn't your job to 'cure her'.
ON the other hand .........
If you have the patience of a saint and are willing to sacrifice your own happiness, and like a bit of a gamble and she if she is willing to get some professional help to work through her problems, maybe then (and only then) she will be able to be in a loving secure relationship, maybe.

You ask what you should do. Hard as it is to advise you, not knowing you or her I would say. Get out now and she will find it easier to move on. (hopefully getting some help with her issues)
I hope you find the strength to do it and find a lady who will be able to share your life without all the stress.

Thank you, just got back from a thoughtful walk on the beach with the dogs, the suns shining (Espana),On the whole my lifes going well, happy in my job, healthy and money in the bank and realised, I Don't need this S**te.

Thanks all for your helpful comments

Emmzi

I am a single lady of *ahem* who doesn't want children so am possibley similar. 6 weeks in I wouldnt be at a dinner party with you and we wouldn't have a torrid sex life to discuss because that's all a bit fast for me!

Possibley od fashioned but have you thought about taking it slower?

Errata

She's a drunk and you'd be wise to get yourself checket out at the local STD clinic.

joshiow

I agree with others, It is very early into your relationship and you already have huge problems, I think it would be best to walk away.

She sounds like she has some really huge issues that she needs to deal with and this relationship is the last thing she needs.

Her trying to control you could very well be a result of her past experience of domestic abuse but she should be aware of this and be trying to control these things. I too was once in a abusive relationship and have to keep myself in check about not being controlling with my partner.

Let her down gently and move on, I think things will only get worse from here on so get out while you still can. Good luck

JoJoB

I've known a few people who have complete personality transplants when thery drink, and so far only one has taken the steps to face up to it and realise that their alcohol dependence is ruining their life. That was after losing the love of her life due to exactly the behaviour you describe.

She is now rebuilding her life, but she needed that shock to do so. You won't be doing this lady or yourself any favours by letting this sort of thing go. The decent thing would be to explain everything in a letter to her and wish her well in sorting hersef out - because only she can.

Firefly

Step away from this person; now!

ttoli

Emmzi wrote: »

I am a single lady of *ahem* who doesn't want children so am possibley similar. 6 weeks in I wouldnt be at a dinner party with you and we wouldn't have a torrid sex life to discuss because that's all a bit fast for me!

Possibley od fashioned but have you thought about taking it slower?

Sorry,, but whats wrong with a dinner party within 6 weeks of meeting someone?

Emmzi

ttoli wrote: »

Sorry,, but whats wrong with a dinner party within 6 weeks of meeting someone?

I pick very badly and for me six weeks is too soon to meet friends/ colleagues.

I might end uo in a social situation with someone who wanted to discuss our sex life, for exampole, and thought that was ok - when to me it isn't.

I want to know the person first, maybe 1 or 2 dates a week for a while, beofre they become part of my whole life.

Just me tho!

pelirocco

Can you be classed as partners after just 6 weeks?