Better to go with CSA in these circumstances

speedster

marshmallows wrote: »

As she is !!!!ing about with contact then his only option is to go through solicitors/ court

make sure he keeps the messages where she says if i dont have x amount of money you will not see your daughter, these will help you immensly

as for the money i would say stop paying and go to the csa but then she may try to use it against you in court , not that the majority of the judges will listen you only need one who will

Get your oh to write a letter stating he will only pay what the csa expect him to pay which is x amount.

What are the current contact arrangements?

all good points, except..............

MONEY. let her mention it in court and see how far it gets her she'll get an earful of the judge.

seriously, judges HATE money matters being dragged into court. if she starts, just say "child support is being sorted by the CSA, when they tell me what my assessment is, i will abide by it"

oh, and any proof you have of her operating a "pay per view" regime for the children, take it with you and she'll get another earful off the judge. bring it up as a specific point that she is offering more contact for more money.

maggied_2

Thanks all - well solictor has written to the court today so we'll wait and see. He's spoken to someone there who says it should now be seen before Christmas.

Think X will get letter Fri / Sat - we're going away for the weekend, don't think the phones will be going with us!!

Fingers crossed and thanks again for all the useful info....something tells me I'll be back soon

pd001

speedster wrote: »

oh, and any proof you have of her operating a "pay per view" regime for the children, take it with you and she'll get another earful off the judge. bring it up as a specific point that she is offering more contact for more money.

Totally agree

Kimitatsu

speedster wrote: »

all good points, except..............

MONEY. let her mention it in court and see how far it gets her she'll get an earful of the judge.

seriously, judges HATE money matters being dragged into court. if she starts, just say "child support is being sorted by the CSA, when they tell me what my assessment is, i will abide by it"

oh, and any proof you have of her operating a "pay per view" regime for the children, take it with you and she'll get another earful off the judge. bring it up as a specific point that she is offering more contact for more money.

Careful now speedster we are starting to agree more and more :rotfl::rotfl:

Maggied enjoy your weekend away - leave the phones switched off because you can guarantee there will be a reaction :eek:

speedster

great minds think alike! :T