Man's perspective please?

sheeny_2

I've tried posting twice (edit: three times) now but without success. So this is just to test if it works, if it does I'll edit it later.
Could the reason be that some words not permitted on here?

Edit: I'll try again: those slow-you-down 'thingies' bumpybecky mentioned are called Durex Performa. LOL they worked rather too well when we tried them too!
I'd suggest just using them to help him through a few critical minutes, IYSWIM.

As a bloke, I reckon your hubby knows full well that things aren't good. What could be worrying him is: who else knows?
Now rack your brains, be honest with yourself. Have you ever told him any bedroom secrets you may have heard from your friends or relations?
If you have, then he'll be worried sick.
Because he knows that when women talk, the information has to flow both ways. That's the deal. Just like blokes in a pub buying each other drinks. It's an unspoken rule. You do it, or you leave the group.
So if you have told him about anyone else's love life, then you have one hell of a job ahead of you IMO. The thought that someone else could be gossiping about his 'failure' could be driving him mad.

If you honestly haven't told anyone else, then you're a woman in a million. If you can look him straight in the eye and tell him no-one else knows, that it's your secret, and that you'll both work together to make it right again, then that would work for me.

And I'd second the post about not going on strike. 'Unsatisfactory' is far, far better than 'none'.
Men are simple creatures (I know, I am one).
If you give up he may simply decide 'no joy = no future'.
Don't allow him to make that simple decision.

Just a wild guess: is one of you hoping that you'll get pregnant?

Tom_Saunders

we should swop, I can last for ages and my wife usually about 5 minutes! she gets annoyed with me but I think it shows excellent staying power.......

Seriously tho, perhpas he or you could relieve him and try again 30 minutes or so later, I don't know how old he is but i'm 34 and things are getting worse, if I could have an anti erection drug I'd be happy, to much bloodt testosterone me things.

Good luck.........:p