Man's perspective please?

zincoxide

If he is on depression medication then probably is what is causing it! Without going in to too much detail, these types of medication can send your drive in 1 of two ways, either it never happens or it happens too soon!

You might get some joy be looking up ways of delaying the moment via google - there are several techniques!

Is it over too quick because you both know what buttons to press and how you like it? - if so, try something different!

nelly05

@ Annie, as said above we have to be careful not to go too far on a open forum so poeple probably cant say too much!!

Are pms an issue as some people may be able to offer more advice via that method?

I can guarantee it will be frustrating for him also and the more frustrated he becomes the more difficult things become. Self confidence is a wicked wicked thing. It can play hell with people if they have very little of it.

Regards

bumpybecky

there are condoms that have a magic slowing you down chemical in them which might help

I can't remember the name, we got them in as a freebie in a normal box (which were probably durex). DH found they slowed him down too much though!

Hope you can get it sorted soon

AnnieH

Thank for all the good ideas. They are worth a try. I really don't know how to broach the subject with hubby though. That's the main thing as I don't want to dent his male pride.

wigginsmum

Does he notice that you're not 'satisfied'?

AnnieH

To be honest WM, I don't know. I don't 'fake it'. It sometimes feels as though I'm too much like hard work to please. But it's a vicious circle - the less I'm getting out of it, the harder it is to please me, if you know what I mean

wigginsmum

Yeah I understand - maybe you can introduce some new activities by saying you'd like to spice things up a bit, and then gently instruct. Or are new things out of the question? By the way, I wouldn't advocate going on strike on the issue - that way lies resentment.

AnnieH

Yes I can see that it would. I wasn't thinking of going down that road really, I do want this to get better. I did get a PM with a good idea from someone, so I might give that a try (tactfully) and see how we get on.

Here's hoping

Miroslav

Annie, as a man, well, a male, I really suggest foreplay and introducing role play/games etc.

Sex is a fun thing, and does not neccesarily mean penetration.

You can have so much fun before he even needs to use his 'bits'.

You really need to talk to him, try and find out about all those hidden fantasies. Who knows, it may be that by talking, you find out something new and your love life will take a huge boost

zombiecazz

Just a suggestion from a fellow hard to pleaser. Have a go at working on yourself so that you are reallllly in the mood. I found that reading certain interesting free sites worked for me. It may help to boost his confidence if you can get there.