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mclaren_2

Careful_girl wrote:

Yup I am fine. Thanks for all your support. He has written reams down and I have to read it now and try to make some sense. Why can't I just walk? Flippin heart. I don't even think I would always be on my own. I pullled the Gatcombe guy-didn't have the guts to see him again, but have his friend's email address. I might just get in touch!!!
I have to do a chart of solving our relationship now. Dunno. Head taking over. I sound nuts!!!!!!
Glad Urbs and P had a great time. Nice people. Mc and Twink watching the racing and KP is back!!!!!!!!!!!:j Our lovely group. Shame Messy is at work.:o .
I will hang around.
Oh I am speaking to the Scottish one now. He was so nice to Messy and Twink that I might have forgiven him. Perhaps.:rotfl:
So..
Hi Mclaren!!!!!!!:T
CG.

well, CG might be talking to the Scottish one but i dont know if the Scottish one wants to talk to CG now (i love tit for tat )

actually - i typed in careful girl in to google and got this



:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:

mclaren_2

twink wrote:

careful girl, has oh written everything down instead of talking it over with you? hope it gets sorted for good either way as i said life is too short
mclaren will get my knitting out and settle down for the next race when its on:D

Sunday Aug 27 - istanbul, turkey as for knitting - how can you knit when there is such an exiting race going on lol

twink

ok mclaren will remember that date, i can knit and watch telly too, the needles will just go quicker at the exciting bits:p

mclaren_2

Careful_girl wrote:

We don't talk well. I always initiate talking either to say how I want something or to say how I don't like something. He always answers with how he is cross about x. I feel not listened to and try to discuss my thing and he feels shut down. I ask him to say stuff not keep it until I am saying something but he doesn't. So I have suggested that he writes things down as they happen. He feels listened to and I can read all of what he writes. will write down my stuff and he can read it. Sounds funny. But I want him to understand i want him to communicate. He can't do this. This is why he is out of work. He won't listen to others and won't say whaen things are wrong other than as a defense.
He has found it cathartic. It isn't very logical but now i am going to try to get us o agree some solutions. Again this is how he is at work. His staff must solve his problems for him. He views me as his staff!!!A problem in itself but at least I have understood some of his behaviour!!!!
CG

both parties have to beable to talk to each other about every problem otherwise there isnt much base for relationship i think :S

mclaren_2

Careful_girl wrote:

That is the Rav after i drove it into his Merc!!

your OH has a merc - can i have it?

Careful_girl

I put my name into Google and got this. http://www.flickr.com/photos/16881220@N00/187208936/
Thought it might be really scary.

mclaren_2

Careful_girl wrote:

Actually it is ours. The GTi is MINE. The other 2 belong to both of us. If we split I will offer the Merc to him and I will keep the Rav. I will sell the Rav. It is worth more than the merc. We love cars.
I agree with your sentiments Mc. However I can only try my best. I want this thing to work. My vows are very important. I will only go if i really think there is nothing left. There is something still. i am a very determined worman!! We'll see. At least we have started thrashing it out. He knows i will go unless things change. He has more to lose than me and he is trying. I have acheived quite a lot. Still may go though.

i dont quite know much about these things but all i can say is have you thought about some sort of marrage counciling services? they can give you information and advice

so you drive a git and you have a Rav 4? - nice car tho i prefer mercs tho i av looked at the freelander LOL

KathrynPenguin

Well I got back yesterday and I've been reading up on what I've missed. Welcome to all you newbies :wave:

Had a lovely time apart from when DS was being a pickle, nuff said abut that he's beig a pickle again now, should be asleep but is here stopping me typing

OH has been a S**t again, lots of things most peculiar is that he reckons he was mugged (he owes me money) and had 200 quid nicked but not his mobile (despite being glued to his hand he didn't have it at the time ) Hasn't and won't report it to the police, even though I told him he could then claim on my household insurance. I don't believe him. Oh and this happened the night I went on holiday, he then texted me just to make sure I would worry.

QE2 was amazing but I'll tell you more about this soon. Food was fantastic and so was the service.

gonna try and get ds to bed again now......

twink

i wish you well careful girl tho i dont know if your dh would be able to change how he is would he? as long as he is there for you and supports you and shows he loves you thats the main thing

whatamess_2

Hi all:hello:

Hi kp glad to hear you has a good time.:j :j

Urbs and phillipa :j way to go with the nbf.

twink I stopped watching the gp when schumac was winning all the time too.;)

cg so sorry to hear about you and oh, find it quite funny that the visual impression he gives is so different.:eek: but then dont we all give a different visual to the real us.

At least you are communicating in a fashion now.:rolleyes:

`it` sent me a text today asking for an account pin number, he knows I have a very good memory for numbers. Can remember a phone number from when we had our first phone installed at home when i was a lot younger.:eek:
Think he is trying a head screw he didnt need to have the number the money in that account could have been transfered by internet :mad: Unless he has found out about Mr 4x4


went to meet Mr 4x4s ds1 and grandkids today.:D gs1 2.5 get calling me a lady:rotfl: :rotfl: he couldnt say my name:rotfl: gd1 4 mths is gorgeous held her for ages.:D What he didnt tell me was that ds2 and ds3 were there as well. Felt like I was being seriously weighed up as to my suitability to be with their dad:D :rotfl:

Love all Messy