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mclaren_2

tbh i do need some advice on this

My gran has been diagnosed with althiemers and its hard cos every 5 mins, she will call up asking what date it is, and what she is doing tomorow. She has medication to take but sometimes will fortget. She has a tablet box but she gets annoyed with it and has already thrown it out twice.

but every day, without fail, she will ask no less than 8 times in a day what day / date it is andits starting to get not so much heartbreaking but kinda - dont even know the word.

ive thought about a big digital clock with date in it - anybody here got any ideas?

also - on the same subject, she has a male friend, and he comes up to my grans house every week without fail. both myself, auntie and mother do not like this man, but my gran is keen on him in a friendship way.

My gran used to get paid, on a tuesday, and he would ALWAYS come up on a tuesday evening, and my gran would call me up on a wednesday and say she has misplaced her money and it was making her worried. My auntie has since taken control of her payments and only gives her money when she needs it. She then started to give my gran money on a wednesday, and lo and behold, this man changes his date to a wednesday, and same thing happens.

Personally, i think this man, is taking advantage of my gran, and is taking her money but the problem is, we have no proof. I have thought about, and discussed CCTV with my auntie but we thought against it due to the fact my gran sometimes gets dressed in the living room so would be invading her privicy - my auntie has full control over the house etc...

2 problems of which i dont know how to solve. i think he is using her but i cant prove it - anybody got any advice?

i have not spoke to this guy - he used to drive a minibus for a place in edin that old people used to go to, a day group type thing untill they closed down. he is about 60 and my gran is 78 (79 in december).

now my auntie only gives my gran a small amount of money when she needs it so he cant take it ( as we suspect he was doing) but he is still hanging on - apart from last tuesday when he didnt come up - cos my gran had no moeny? i dont know....

any advic eon this would be good - its quite worrying but more annoying than anything else and any advice on the time clock thing would be helpful

urban_spirit

mclaren wrote:

tbh i do need some advice on this

My gran has been diagnosed with althiemers and its hard cos every 5 mins, she will call up asking what date it is, and what she is doing tomorow. She has medication to take but sometimes will fortget. She has a tablet box but she gets annoyed with it and has already thrown it out twice.

but every day, without fail, she will ask no less than 8 times in a day what day / date it is andits starting to get not so much heartbreaking but kinda - dont even know the word.

ive thought about a big digital clock with date in it - anybody here got any ideas?

also - on the same subject, she has a male friend, and he comes up to my grans house every week without fail. both myself, auntie and mother do not like this man, but my gran is keen on him in a friendship way.

My gran used to get paid, on a tuesday, and he would ALWAYS come up on a tuesday evening, and my gran would call me up on a wednesday and say she has misplaced her money and it was making her worried. My auntie has since taken control of her payments and only gives her money when she needs it. She then started to give my gran money on a wednesday, and lo and behold, this man changes his date to a wednesday, and same thing happens.

Personally, i think this man, is taking advantage of my gran, and is taking her money but the problem is, we have no proof. I have thought about, and discussed CCTV with my auntie but we thought against it due to the fact my gran sometimes gets dressed in the living room so would be invading her privicy - my auntie has full control over the house etc...

2 problems of which i dont know how to solve. i think he is using her but i cant prove it - anybody got any advice?

i have not spoke to this guy - he used to drive a minibus for a place in edin that old people used to go to, a day group type thing untill they closed down. he is about 60 and my gran is 78 (79 in december).

now my auntie only gives my gran a small amount of money when she needs it so he cant take it ( as we suspect he was doing) but he is still hanging on - apart from last tuesday when he didnt come up - cos my gran had no moeny? i dont know....

any advic eon this would be good - its quite worrying but more annoying than anything else and any advice on the time clock thing would be helpful

Hey McL (wave)

So sorry to hear your gran has been diagnosed with alzheimers. I lookd after a friend who had this so I understand about being asked the same thing (or having the same conversation) many times.

Why does she get annoyed with her tablet box?? Is she having problems opening it or is she frustrated taking the tablets??? If probs opening doctors can prescribe ready made weekly blister packs that are easy to open and tell you when the tabs should be taken (printed on the pack). If she's frustrated with taking them have a chat with her about how they help, but she may not remember or ask the same questions again.

The big clock might help but she may forget to check it for the time/date (probs with her short term memory) or it may be that she only asks these questions when she's less lucid than normal and unsure of things around her. My friend used to ask about 8+ times in 5 mins what day it was - I know its frustrating being asked over and over but take a deep breath.

Your grans friend - My friend always thought she had lost her purse and cash/had it stolen and was always adamant about this but we used to find the cash in her house or bag in the most unusual places after a good root. I'm not saying this man isnt taking cash from your gran cos I dont know that, but check to see if its gone too. My friend was also adamant she was broken in to on several occasions and people were walking round her house, when the police could not find any signs of break-in and we changed the locks several times. He could genuinely like helping older people.

If it IS going to him, can anyone drop in unannounced when he's due to be there?? Or can your auntie give your gran a very small amount on the days he's due??
Does your gran have someone (sorry cant remember their title right now!) dropping in to see her??
There's a specific organisation that help older people at home when they need a bit of extra care. How is she cooking/making drinks-eg does she forget she's boiling a kettle or that a pan is on????

I agree that cctv isnt the best thing in your grans house as you dont know what her habits are (in the nicest possible way!).

Cg - I agree we should value older people - goes without saying - but its EQUALLY important to recognise that McL's gran is having problems connected to her condition. If this is played down or ignored she'll feel more frustrated and isolated. Its important that the person can talk about how they feel about whats happening to them.

Have you had a look on the web McL for alzheimers info/advice and what support is available??? Also for advice/info on the possibility of someone taking advantage of an older person??

My friend is in full time care as her condition progressed. She hated it at first - its a huge ajustment - but has made some good friends and is physically much healthier than i've seen her for a long time.

If you want to chat you know where I am

urban_spirit

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whatamess_2

Hi urbs, road rage but dont people p!!s you off at times, glad to here you had fun. you going to phillipas get togeather?

zcazz way to go with the plumbing :j I do lots of my own diy, no kitchen :eek: have done a house up it drove me :mad: .
Mr 4x4 is lovely not sure if I fancy him though bit of a saddo in that I still fancy `it.` after all thats happened as well. Must have a few screws missing.:rotfl:.

cg you are a very lady.

mcl so sorry to hear about your gran, mine has dementia she is 93 this year. Havent got any other suggestions than what has already been said. Are you having input from social services, occupational health?

Love all Messy

mclaren_2

thanks cg (who aint talkin to me) and urbs

the problem with the box was both that she was getting fustrated with havng to open it up every 5 mins to see, remembering to open it and remembering to refill it... even tho we said we would do it.

i talk to ma gran every day - and so does ma auntie and ma mum so she does get people to talk to. the problem is is that my gran is so lonley (ie she wants to have other people apart from family) she would invite a person in from the street! - she only done this once - her neighbour from upstairs but i explained the problems wiht that.

with my grans "friend" jim - the problem with that - its not the purse that goes missing - its the money. the purse is alwayss there but empty - even althuogh once my auntie put in £60 that afternoon.

my auntie will never put more than £10 in there now incase he does it but i do wana set a trap to catch him out.

tried in thte past to drop by unannounced but my gran will always get nippy, defencive and basicly say go away, because he is there....

one thing which did worry me though - 2 weeks ago, my auntie went on holiday, now she usually deals with ma grans tabs, but i went along. now i know what her tabs look like - but last week, i walked in, day after he had came up, in the morning, and she had a long brown tab on the table. now this is a new one to me. i asked her where the box for it was and she didnt know. she said she didnt have anymore - now i KNOW she never took any of these before..... my auntie is also confused over this. ive thought about everything it could be but i just dont know. its hard and about 1 inch in length. - sounds strange but we are all starting to worry about this guy.

theres a few other things but at the mo, i dont have proof or evedance to back up my alagations so wont put them officially but i do think he is a worry - my grans memory gets worse on a tuesday night / wednesday more than any other night. - he always makes her a cuppa t be4 he goes..... i have my suspitions but i dont know .... need to see what he does if you know what i mean.

its not that - he seeminly visits other oaps - every night he visits sum1 else.... and whats more - he told ma gran that he couldnt visit her about 2 month bk cos he "had to sell his car because of money issues" - now, at the age of 60, what money issues? also - why would you say to sum1 who is a friend about money issues... my gran likes him to visit anaw......

we did think about a care home but we realised that if a carehome is put in to place - the problem could be that she just gets that upset, that she cant cope and passes on and we dont want that.

with the tabs - she seems to take them when we remember her.

not spoke to Occ health yet but auntie spoke with doc - who said keep remembering her to take her tabs.

i have been trying to find places in Edinburgh for her to go cos she loves art so was looking at art classes n that - need to see though

thanks all btw

urban_spirit

Can someone please come and short-circuit my neighbours karaoke before they murder all the pop stars in the charts from the last 20 years.

I am - sitting in my kitchen with music on.
They are - 3 roads away. I cant hear my music. Now thats loud.:rolleyes:

mclaren_2

urban_spirit wrote:

Can someone please come and short-circuit my neighbours karaoke before they murder all the pop stars in the charts from the last 20 years.

I am - sitting in my kitchen with music on.
They are - 3 roads away. I cant hear my music. Now thats loud.:rolleyes:

http://www.direct.gov.uk/CrimeJusticeAndTheLaw/CrimePrevention/CrimePreventionArticles/fs/en?CONTENT_ID=4001652&chk=NAFg8m

http://www.bbc.co.uk/dna/actionnetwork/A1174727

tis theonly 2 things i could say but ASBO would be given after a warning

mclaren_2

urbs, messy twink, cg (who aint talkin to me) where are ya all? ya all out havin fun leavin me behind again?

whatamess_2

hey Mcl just got in. How are you?
Been to mr 4x4s house, had dinner watched a film, fell asleep towards end of film.:eek: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Very tired, worked this morning:eek:

Kissed him:eek: why does it feel like I am being unfaithful to my soon to be ex husband

Love Messy

mclaren_2

whatamess wrote:

hey Mcl just got in. How are you?
Been to mr 4x4s house, had dinner watched a film, fell asleep towards end of film.:eek: :rotfl: :rotfl:
Very tired, worked this morning:eek:

Kissed him:eek: why does it feel like I am being unfaithful to my soon to be ex husband

Love Messy

im fine = you fell asleep before the end of the film? what film was it? if it was boring then ya ok but if it was die hard then OMG!!! as for tired - well, im not suprised, its 1am and as for snoggin this bloke - so? you said it yourself,your soon to be EX enjoy your life.... life is short, you should grab every moment and cherish it