Hurting like hell at the mo!

shellsuit

Agree with the others.

If he truly loved you, he would have no qualms in telling this girl that he is back with you. So what if he told her at the time he would never get back with you, he owes her nothing now!

If he wants to make you happy, he should tell this girl or let you tell her.

Sounds to me like he's having his cake and eating it too sorry.

Do you see any of the texts/hear any of the phone calls?

Primrose

I am sorry that you are hurting but you are back together, at least for the time being. However hard this may seem, you have a very important career issue at the top of your agenda at the moment and that is to complete this year at university and get your degree. The more time you fret about this other girlfriend, the more you are allowing her to distract you and have a chance of wrecking your future earning capacity and career. You boyfriend may, or may not, still be with you in a year's time, judging by the sound of his behaviour as it rather sounds as if he's still hedging his bets. However, if in a year's time you have lost both boyfriend and failed your degree, this girl will have won a double victory. Is this really what you want?

Minimum_Wage_2

Ok so he is stopping you from going to see her! why not go out at the weekend whether it be a club. either tell his work mates to be there or some how tell her that he is going to be at this place! 1, you can either keep a close eye on him and see what he does. 2, you could be all over him to show her that he's back with you. that way you wouldn't have told her but you'll be getting your message to her that way.

bestpud

It's not the girl's fault.

He is a cheat and you are best shot of him!

Tell him to go forth and move on.

Doesn't sound like you want him anyway - you just think you do because he has someone else now!

Bennifred

foxyd3vil12 wrote: »

This hurting like hell at the mo and i really cant be dealing with this as I have a really important year coming up with it being my final year in university.

Split up with my other half in July but we carried on sleeping together. love has never died, its just certain things never worked. Now in October, we had a bit of a bust-up and i literally told him i never wanted to see him again as it just hurt too much. I realised though in coming weeks though, that it was him i wanted and i did want to work on our relationship.

Thing was in that time period, he started seeing someone who he works with. hes 27, shes 17/18! couldnt really believe it at first. he reckons he was only after sex but it turned into feelings. He eventually told this girl he didnt want a relationship and we have since got back together.

The problem I have is that she still phones and texts. Most of the time he doesnt answer but its still eating away at me. The fact they see each other in work every day is enough. He has told her he is with someone but wont say its me as he told her that he would never get back with me again. I really want to tell her but he reckons if i tell her to leave alone, then she can get him sacked! hes senior sales and she is just retail staff. I am so tempted to walk in the shop and tell her but he says he will never speak to me again if i do. All i want to do is tell her to stop the calls and texts and that we are back together. It hurts like hell as he seems to be siding with her but tells me he loves me and that if he wanted to be with her, then why would he spend so much time with me?


Please help!

Are you sure about this? I don't think I would be.......

foxyd3vil12

spoke to his parents today and they think he's just doing it to wind me up.

i really dont know what to think

mrcow

Seriously - he sounds like a complete nightmare.

He doens't love you.
He's using you.

Simple.

The problem is - you want more so you don't want to believe it.


You might think you love him - but it's probably because you don't realise that you can do (SO MUCH!) better. THe quicker you file him under "L" for loser, the better.

Move on, get on with your life and forget about him. You're 18 for crying out loud - why would you want to waste your time on a two timing old git who just thinks you're a cheap shag?

foxyd3vil12

thanks for the advice everyone.

thanks mrcow. im 24 though! wish i could go back to being 18! :rotfl:

i do love him and in the time we split up, i was miserable. suppose you can feel like that when people seperate.

thanks again though guys, advice is much appreciated

Maz

foxyd3vil12 wrote: »

spoke to his parents today and they think he's just doing it to wind me up.

i really dont know what to think

If he is doing it just to 'wind you up' then he isn't exactly showing much consideration for your feelings, is he?

If he isn't doing it to wind you up, then he isn't showing much consideration for you feelings either, is he?

He sounds like a bucket of sh0ite to me.

Marcheline

Stop sleeping with him: you'll see how quickly you don't hear from him once he's not getting the only thing he's after from you. I know it sounds harsh, but from what you've said, it's true.

You're the same age as me and you really could do so much better. Work on your self respect and you'll soon be happy with someone else. Move on.