Hurting like hell at the mo!

foxyd3vil12

This hurting like hell at the mo and i really cant be dealing with this as I have a really important year coming up with it being my final year in university.

Split up with my other half in July but we carried on sleeping together. love has never died, its just certain things never worked. Now in October, we had a bit of a bust-up and i literally told him i never wanted to see him again as it just hurt too much. I realised though in coming weeks though, that it was him i wanted and i did want to work on our relationship.

Thing was in that time period, he started seeing someone who he works with. hes 27, shes 17/18! couldnt really believe it at first. he reckons he was only after sex but it turned into feelings. He eventually told this girl he didnt want a relationship and we have since got back together.

The problem I have is that she still phones and texts. Most of the time he doesnt answer but its still eating away at me. The fact they see each other in work every day is enough. He has told her he is with someone but wont say its me as he told her that he would never get back with me again. I really want to tell her but he reckons if i tell her to leave alone, then she can get him sacked! hes senior sales and she is just retail staff. I am so tempted to walk in the shop and tell her but he says he will never speak to me again if i do. All i want to do is tell her to stop the calls and texts and that we are back together. It hurts like hell as he seems to be siding with her but tells me he loves me and that if he wanted to be with her, then why would he spend so much time with me?


Please help!

Mely

Hi Foxy, do you know what she says in the texts,perhaps she doesnt know he is with someone else now? It would be a good start if your bf changed his sim card, so that she doesnt know his number.

foxy-roxy

Are you 100% sure he has definitley split up with the other girl?
Seems like he is desperate to keep you away from her, and not wanting her to know that he is with you is dodgy as well?

Penny-Pincher!!

Sounds like he is still seeing her and using the excuse that he may get sacked to you, so that you dont go in and tell her to stop!

It isnt the poor girls fault. They got together when you were seperated.

He has to be firm and straight with her if he does want to stop the girl contacting him.

Mely

Yes i agree, there is no valid reason for your bf not to tell her now that he is back with you, and it does seem like he is trying to keep you both apart.

Silverbird

It all sounds a bit strange to me!

The test will be to ask him to change his SIM card (as I believe a previous poster has already suggested). If he refuses then I think you have your answer.

kitka

if its you he really wants, he would tell her the truth, no matter what the consequences...

instaunt

foxyd3vil12 wrote: »

The fact they see each other in work every day is enough. He has told her he is with someone but wont say its me as he told her that he would never get back with me again.

He kept his job working with her?!?! How low is your self esteem exactly that think such a guy is the best you can get?

Nomoneymummy_2

If he is senior and she's retail (and quite a bit younger than him!) he could get into trouble....

If you love and TRUST him it should be ok, but I do agree with the poster about getting him to change his number, even if its just to give you piece of mind...

BitterAndTwisted

You either trust him or you don't but for an insecure person no amount of reassurance will suffice. The only person who will look like a fool is you if you do decide to invade his work-place and cause a fuss there

Cassa

Hi. Sorry for your pain.

Please read the book 'He's just not that into you', and move on.

Take Care x