Weekly Flylady Thread 16th November 2009

wilf55

carlsbergal hugs babe

dont worry
my daughter did a similar thing 2 years ago well 3 now cos macie is coming up to 2yrs

firstly
she needs support and will feel so relieved that you know
she must have felt really bad with the burden on her shoulders
she can defer with uni and pick up next year if need be (nursery at uni an option)
she may want to move to a uni closer to home
it has happened now and not much can be done to turn the clock back

sit down and write down the options good and bad
then rule out any options which arent realistic options

then plan out the realistic options and work out which is best
try not to take over the decision making but give loads of support and hugs- dd will have to live with it whatever so it must be her decision in the end

i was devastated when i got told i was going to be a gran....but before you know it if thats what you decide between you ...you will be looking at baby clothes

when it sinks in you WILL feel better...her life and studies are not ruined..but will just happen differently now...

take some time to get used to it yourself...and you will be in a better frame of mind to help with some decisions

she needs you right now whatever she choses - a termination is traumatic but having a baby is a life long thing...

MissHiggerty

OK - have done 4 urgent e-mails that were gnawing away at my conscience (yes, I have one, ladies ).

So I guess that there's nothing for it but to tackle the sitting room now.

Hey ho. Will start at 10:45 and aim to finish by 11:30.... (Well, I can dream, can't I?)

Anyone coming to join me?
Back in a mo to see if I've got company....

MissH
xxxxx

ETA carlsbergal: hugs from me, too. Nothing to add to what Wilf has said - great advice.

wilf55

me miss H..

macpep1

carlsberggal wrote: »

DD2 is pregnant. She’s only 18 and just started uni and she and boyfriend no longer together but still friends.

As you can imagine we were floored, but remained positive as you have to don’t you? From what we can gather she had her last period in August – she thinks (!!!!!!?) – so could be coming up to 4 months, so even if she wanted to not have it it’s probably too late. They are booking her in for a scan to determine how far she is. Basically she wants the decision to be out of her hands as she says she can’t make it. She had test done at doctors at uni and they are booking her in for the scan down there, but we want her at our doctors and up her with us.

Am sat at work and just want to cry, trying to keep it all together, my bottom lip keeps wobbling and I HAVE to get a grip. She’s just rung her portfolio manager at uni, who was lovely, told her to take week off and that to see her next week and talk through her options. She’s now ringing doctors for an appointment. Update – she’s just rung them and she’s no longer registered as she has registered with uni doctors!!! !!!!!!!!!!!! So she has to go and register today and then they will make an appointment for her tomorrow.

Sorry for the telling you all, but there’s no-one I can talk to at the moment. Even my sister doesn’t know yet. Don’t even want to think about my mum and dad or her other grandparents yet. Her Dad is coming back today from golfing in Spain, we’ve told her that we will be there if she wants when she has to tell him. I said I’d tell him, but she feels she has to.

Love and hugs to those that need them, sorry haven’t caught up from old thread so don’t know what’s happened

A xxx

What a horrible situation to be in ((HUGS)) it will be all thats going through your mind at work, try to be strong xx

tinkerbellsmum_2

hhc at 10.45-11.15 for me

MissHiggerty

OK - off we go then!

MissH
xxxxx

Lady-Liberty

carlsberggal big hugs to you & DD.....take a deep breath......she has done the hard part & told you.....wilf has given some excellent advice. I am on here or FB if you want to chat.......xx

Going to get the dyson out now.......

carlsberggal

Wilf55 - thanks my love, wise words. We have talked loads and will always love and support her. DD1 even on about moving out so more room for her and baby if that's what she decides, but we have told her no way, we will manage, will be cramped but not the end of the world xx

mumoftwo

I am in again this week Toots

Getting stuck in this morning, hopefully I will get more than a few starts this week.

dollydaydream07

Monday ~ Living room, hall and stairs :j:j DONE
Extras
HHI

did the house from top to bottom yesterday so not a lot needs doing this week!!:D:D

got my christmas lists sorted - cards and pressies so can probably make a start on that this week, currently listening to my christmas cd while pottering around doing a few bits and bobs!!