what would you say

Fluffi

I still don't understand ... from your posts it seems that you think people who are up need help but get ignored or not helped? Why would someone who is already up need help?

Of course I'd help old ladies (and men) that had fallen over and help people struggling to read menus.

Mrs_Ryan

Id be shocked - OH doesnt have an email address and doesnt know how to email or text for that matter) :rotfl:

Lunar_Eclipse

You want to know what people would feel and do if they received that message.

I would feel that someone was flirting with me in a serious manner; that they wanted me to love them. They wanted me to take a leap of faith in loving them, in return for which I would be loved by them. Personally, I prefer flirting to either be more light hearted and open to innocent interpretation (eg double entendres), or if this is the intention (it might not be?) it should be the other way round: ie tell me how I make you feel, what you love about me etc; not what I can get in return for loving you. It's all wrong!

What I would do depends on how much I like you, whether we're just flirting, involved, committed elsewhere etc. If I'm interested and single, I might reply along the lines of "so when would you like to see my smile?", hoping to be asked on a date.

Does that help?

If it's not meant in a 'flirty' way and isn't lyrics for a song being written, then the sender has mental issues IMO.

MrsTinks

I still have the first "flirty" and cute mails from my now husband saved away I'm glad to say there isn't a single song lyric in any of them though... Many years ago I had a brief fling with a guy though who'd send things like lyrics and poetry every day - I found it a VERY suffocating relationship and it didn't last long!
I still send my gorgeous husband little mails telling him how much I love him, what funky new thing his daughter has mastered today and ask him what he wants for dinner even though I know the answer is and always will be "Oh I dunno - what do you fancy?"... the day he has a proper answer I will probably keel over with shock! But if he started sending me lyrics I'd worry... He's sent me mails telling me to listen to songs though - with a little note on the mail saying "This made me think of you xxx" THAT makes me smile... and feel all warm and fuzzy

Zazen999

Minimum_Wage wrote: »

kay peel,
im not after any help. just wondering if the love would be returned or not is the base line
fluffi,
(example) if you see an old lady who has fallen over, everyone will rush to help. yes?
if you see someone having trouble reading a menu how many people would help them?
cranky40,
i would thank you twice if i could. sorry to hear though.

I think the problem for me is that the lyrics quoted are too contrived; whereas for example, Cranky's emails are from the heart.

Minimum_Wage_2

cranky's reply was what i was looking for its there replies to nice emails of feelings.
why people are still commenting on the examples i dont know!

Lunar eclipse, its close enough.

scubaangel

Minimum it depends on the person, you might appreciate that someone has c&p'd some song lyrics/love poem another as MrsTine said might find it suffocating and feel uncomfortable with it, the entire reaction is down to how it makes you and your partner feel, has nowt to do with anyone else.

For me I much prefer to have things in my oh's own words to show how much he cares - in our case silly little insults which usually end up as an exchange of other silly little insults ending with but you're my *list of silly insults* and I can't wait to see you again.

I had an ex who liked to email/text snippets of poetry to me, but I was always left feeling that he was trying to show how much more intellectual than me he was because I never knew the poems or poets he quoted, ok other than that it seemed like he'd made an effort to seek out things which explained how he felt but I would have preferred it if he'd tried to explain it in his own words.

vik6525

Minimum_Wage wrote: »

cranky's reply was what i was looking for its there replies to nice emails of feelings.
why people are still commenting on the examples i dont know!

Lunar eclipse, its close enough.

Because theyre what you wrote you wanted advice on?
We gave you advice, and you chose to ignore it and get all humfy. If theyve already been sent, and you got no reply, then maybe you should give up eh? Cause theres a very fine line between 'romance' and 'creepy' and it sounds like you're about to cross it.

jinky67

vik6525 wrote: »

Because theyre what you wrote you wanted advice on?
We gave you advice, and you chose to ignore it and get all humfy. If theyve already been sent, and you got no reply, then maybe you should give up eh? Cause theres a very fine line between 'romance' and 'creepy' and it sounds like you're about to cross it.

Vik, this is exactly what he did last time on the thread I referrred to earlier:rolleyes: