OH in cloud cuckoo land

jcr16

sounds like he has alot of dreams . and there is nothing at all wrong with having dreams and wanting to better youself and achieving your dreams. however from how you have worded it , it sounds like he is getting to the point where is so wrapped up in his dreams he is forgeting the present.

Just have a word with him, there is nothign wrong with havign dream but say you would like to be part of his dream and how can you work together in achieving them. let him know about what your dreams and aspirations are.

Hubby and i always dream of moving to canada, but i think were more likely to be moving down west country. but as long as you talk about it and work together as a team your more likely to get there.

Molly41

You are being very disrespectful to this man. he earns a good living and has no debts - you on the otherhand have debts and you want him to wake up and smell the coffee? He lives within his means whereas you didnt. Im sorry if that is harsh but he has not accrued debt living his dreams has he? he has been responsible.

RadoJo

I have to agree that I can't see the harm in your OH's way of thinking. If you want something, aiming higher than that thing, knowing that you would be pleased if anything came of it at all, is a healthy way to go about achieving it, and if he's working, earning and contributing to the household then I can't see the problem.

Does he get depressed when nothing comes of his plans? Are you just sick of hearing about things that you know won't happen? Does he neglect his other responsibilities to chase the dreams? I'm just trying to work out what it is exactly that you object to - how does his dreaming of better things impact negatively on you to the extent where you are so unhappy about it?