Potential engagement Ring

Primrose

One small thought. I know you want this engagement ring to be a lovely surprise, and I do hope your girlfriend loves it when you propose. But cementing a relationship is all about mutuality and consultation so I do hope that just because you've got a lot of money to spend on an engagement ring, you don't think that automatically conveys the right to impose your choice on somebody else without consulting them. Have you thought for a moment what you would do if she said "Yes, I'd love to marry you but I hope you won't be offended but I don't want to wear the ring because I really don't like it" or "Would you mind if we changed it for something else because it really doesn't suit me". It would be devasting for you if you'd gone to all this trouble and it didn't have the result you expected.

Pollycat

Primrose wrote: »

One small thought. I know you want this engagement ring to be a lovely surprise, and I do hope your girlfriend loves it when you propose. But cementing a relationship is all about mutuality and consultation so I do hope that just because you've got a lot of money to spend on an engagement ring, you don't think that automatically conveys the right to impose your choice on somebody else without consulting them. Have you thought for a moment what you would do if she said "Yes, I'd love to marry you but I hope you won't be offended but I don't want to wear the ring because I really don't like it" or "Would you mind if we changed it for something else because it really doesn't suit me". It would be devasting for you if you'd gone to all this trouble and it didn't have the result you expected.

Primrose, although I agree in principle with what you're saying about men choosing rings without consulting their prospective fiancees - I think you've missed one important post from the OP:

weewizard69 wrote: »

One more thing, we both have had our pennies worth of picking the ring and I know 110% its what my other half wants.

:-)

so I don't think this will be a surprise, the OP isn't imposing his choice without consultation and it's highly unlikely that, after being part of the choosing process, his girlfriend will say 'no'. :rolleyes: