MSE Parents Club Part 8

carlamagee

csh wrote: »

Hi Krystal, i read your orginal post last night about posts being acknowledged. After everything that happened the other day, I'm now not sure what to do about thanking posts? Sometimes I log on and read 5/6 pages and don't thank any, now I feel like I need to thank every post I read in case people feel ignored!! ( Not meaning you btw, its just that you've mentioned it!). When I'm on I thank every post when I'm actively reading so I know where I'm up to but tbh I get bored of thanking.
I was thinking that now I'll only thank the posts that make me laugh, are directed to me, answer a question thats useful to me or has cute baby photos.
I don't have facebook so can only see photos posted on the board, I'm missing lots of cute pics :mad:

i do the same csh - thanks every post if im actively reading but if im catching up, its just the posts that have helped me/made me laugh etc

it was me complaining last night about nobody talking to me. i explained later on it was hormones talking and i apologised. but last night i felt that its more the fact that nobody actuallly respoonds to the post rather than being thanked IYSWIM?

csh_2

Carla, I don't ever hug/kiss. It makes me really uncomfortable! I am not a tactile person at all!!! At my work (bloody germans and their handshakes) all the managers/area managers have to shake hands upon meeting which is totally gay and makes me feel like a d i c k !
I have a good firm handshake tho lol

SugarSpun

csh wrote: »

I'm now not sure what to do about thanking posts? Sometimes I log on and read 5/6 pages and don't thank any, now I feel like I need to thank every post I read in case people feel ignored!!

I do it so I know where I'm up to

Whinge ahead:

Molly's down for a nap and is rather unhappy about it. Husband's sore in his tummy and upset because Molly's not terribly interested in him and is being incredibly clingy with me. He's also annoyed because he claims I'm being snippy with him. I'm tired even after my sofa-sleep (can't sleep as well with those two wiggle-worms in the bed) and sick of things being messy when they were perfectly clean and tidy when it was just Molly and me in the house so perhaps I am being snippy. But I also know that he's really sick and could easily have died so I'm trying not to be snippy. But I still need to get this stuff done and bizarrely I've even less time with him home than I did when he was in the hospital.

Whinge over. I feel better for letting it out, and really I'm not mad at him, just frustrated with circumstances and his lifetime habits that don't fit so well with mine but are too ingrained to change.

Edit: Carla, it's awful! There are some people who think I'm shockingly forward and some who think I'm stuck up because I'e not remembered how they greet or leave. Should anyone ever meet me in the real world, I kiss rather than hug (hand on shoulder more than hug because four boobs smushing together makes me feel a bit queasy when two of them are mine), both cheeks, left side first. And I'm ok with companionable silences but will normally fill them with a comment on something happening in the surroundings after a minute or so.

csh_2

carlamagee wrote: »

i do the same csh - thanks every post if im actively reading but if im catching up, its just the posts that have helped me/made me laugh etc

it was me complaining last night about nobody talking to me. i explained later on it was hormones talking and i apologised. but last night i felt that its more the fact that nobody actuallly respoonds to the post rather than being thanked IYSWIM?

I know, I seen your hissy fit you big huff puff you!!!
There has been quite a bit of talk about thanking posts but I've not had time to respond til now

I would have spoke to you if I was here last night :rotfl:

Bl00dy Jenny Bond does ma box in, damn you BBC1

money_maker_3

Morning all

carla hun, thats fine, we can do sale shopping in the new year instead

on thanking posts, I only thank ones that are for me or are really good, or pics etc ... and I have stopped trying to catch up in full now too, and will do even less when I am back in work !!

Krystaltips

carlamagee wrote: »

good mornin everyone.
Sami, what happened that u only had 3 hours sleep!? someone poorly that I have missed?
Krystal - i will try my best to acknowledge every one of your posts when im baout!
I missed the initial snogging MFD conversation, but am aware of the after effects.

MM-- Katie woke up this morning with the cold/cough that I had, as well as Christopher having the snuffles so Im gonna keep them in until they are better. so that unfortunately means no meet up for us. I dont want to risk them getting more than a cold....pig flu has me scared! Sorry!!

SIL is minding Katie & Christopher for me for a couple hours today while I go to see nephew in his school play. We still havent been able to get out of him which part he is playing, so will have to keep a good eye out!
Does it make me a real bad mum that Im thoroughly looking forward to 2 hours away today!?? I love them soooooo much I cant explain it, but i have them 24 hours a day, 7 days a week....sometimes Im so jealous of some of you ladies on here when you say that your parents have the little ones for the day. ho hum.
sorrym that turned into a bit of a gurn!

You don't have to acknowledge me really hun, I was just pulling your leg... To be honest I'm just as guilty as everyone else and not acknowledging posts... I read all of them but if I'm on the iPod or just skimming through I don't comment....

csh wrote: »

Hi Krystal, i read your orginal post last night about posts being acknowledged. After everything that happened the other day, I'm now not sure what to do about thanking posts? Sometimes I log on and read 5/6 pages and don't thank any, now I feel like I need to thank every post I read in case people feel ignored!! ( Not meaning you btw, its just that you've mentioned it!). When I'm on I thank every post when I'm actively reading so I know where I'm up to but tbh I get bored of thanking.
I was thinking that now I'll only thank the posts that make me laugh, are directed to me, answer a question thats useful to me or has cute baby photos.
I don't have facebook so can only see photos posted on the board, I'm missing lots of cute pics :mad:

And this is pretty much what I do... On the odd occasion I remember there is an actual thank button!

carlamagee

SugarSpun wrote: »

Whinge over. I feel better for letting it out, and really I'm not mad at him, just frustrated with circumstances and his lifetime habits that don't fit so well with mine but are too ingrained to change.

I hear ya sista! it must be hard for you to deal with a porrly hubby and Molly! and keep the house the way u like it.

csh - huff puff, lol. i could think of a couple better terms for myself than that, hehe!! At the docs tomorrow to hopefully get these hormones sorted out!!!!

csh_2

SugarSpun wrote: »

Whinge over. I feel better for letting it out, and really I'm not mad at him, just frustrated with circumstances and his lifetime habits that don't fit so well with mine but are too ingrained to change.

This is an issue with me and OH. We are so different its unbelievable. I am neat, tidy, clean, organized and efficent with the house etc. I go to bed earlyish and am up first thing everyday (even if I sometimes stay in my PJs all day, sorry Tia).
He is a messy lazy slob who stays up late and is rarely up before noon unless we have firm plans.

I've just had to accept if I want my house and life to be the way I want it, then I have to do it alone! He just doesn't get it and never will. I've given up getting annoyed with him.

Don't get me wrong, hes a really hard working guy and has almost rebuilt our house himself but at his own pace which is a million miles away from mine!

I've always been a go,go,go type of person and need to be doing something all the time. Thats why I hated being pregnant because my body had limitations but my mind did not!

searching_me

Mazcabs wrote: »

Just catching up on last nights posts....

Look on the finished baskets thread as I am sure someone 'made' some there.. I can also print them for you next week once on ML if you like

im just quickly reading before i run out the door and meet gay OH .. thats great thanks ma dear .. god dont you just love this website and people on it sometimes x

Krystaltips

csh wrote: »

This is an issue with me and OH. We are so different its unbelievable. I am neat, tidy, clean, organized and efficent with the house etc. I go to bed earlyish and am up first thing everyday (even if I sometimes stay in my PJs all day, sorry Tia).
He is a messy lazy slob who stays up late and is rarely up before noon unless we have firm plans.

I've just had to accept if I want my house and life to be the way I want it, then I have to do it alone! He just doesn't get it and never will. I've given up getting annoyed with him.

Don't get me wrong, hes a really hard working guy and has almost rebuilt our house himself but at his own pace which is a million miles away from mine!

I've always been a go,go,go type of person and need to be doing something all the time. Thats why I hated being pregnant because my body had limitations but my mind did not!

This is very familiar to me too... Apart from the re-building the house part... My hubby is far to lazy to do something like manual work lol...