MSE Parents Club Part 8

Sami_Bee

off to bed now but MM if it help any MIL is a bit of a wine buff and she loves naked wines plus yu'd get so much you could keep some yourself

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My_Fathers_Daughter

Hiya ladies.

Have only just sat down now since Benjamin went to bed at 7pm

Preparing for a night away with work for both me and hubby and for my mum and dad to come and stay with Benjamin has worn me out!! I will be glad when Friday comes and it is all over.

Dress all packed, along with my sparkliest high heels and some Trinny and Susannah magic pants

Now having a well-deserved glass of wine and would like to indulge in another mini-moan about my MIL

MIL picked Benjamin up from the CM for me again this morning (CM can't have Benjamin on a Wed PM ATM). She brought him back here and said she would cook dinner for me and hubby and Benjamin so I didn't have to do it when I get home...

...so she made a stew for her and me and Benjamin...but somehow got it into her head that hubby won't eat stew....and so made him steak and chips :eek:

I came home and hubby told me what she had done and I am afraid I kicked off - not at hubby, or particularly at MIL but I do not, and will not, live in a world where the men get steak and the women eat stew :mad:

I know that this is just a product of her upbringing but I am so mad that in this day and age I feel like I have been made to feel like a second class citizen in my own house. MIL means no harm and probably wouldn't understand if I tried to explain to her but I have asked hubby to have a word with her. I don't much care what he says but I will not have it again.


It sounds so petty when you write it down but I was so angry earlier...but so cross with myself for being angry when I know MIL means nothing by it, I was in tears


Thankfully, hubby seems to understand where I am coming from and didn't even ask questions when I had a bowl of cornflakes for dinner.


To be fair, hubby has issues with MIL cooking for us too - he feels like she is treating us like we are destitute (we have had some money worries whilst I have been on ML). Yesterday he popped in on his way home and had a curry foisted on him - which would have been fine, except I had already cooked :rolleyes:

MIL is only acting out of the best of intentions but her world is so far removed from mine...


Sorry to be ranting again

elle_gee

You rant away love.. top your wine glass up while you're at it, I'm going to join you What would you rather do? Just that she cook everyone the same, or that she doesn't cook at all? Maybe you could persuade her to make you some things that can be frozen and you can then choose what you want when, but she still feels like she's helped - plus it saves you cooking!

My_Fathers_Daughter

elle_gee wrote: »

You rant away love.. top your wine glass up while you're at it, I'm going to join you What would you rather do? Just that she cook everyone the same, or that she doesn't cook at all? Maybe you could persuade her to make you some things that can be frozen and you can then choose what you want when, but she still feels like she's helped - plus it saves you cooking!

LOL - I just want to all eat the same! I wouldn't mind so much but hubby DOES EAT STEW!!!! Well he eats mine at any rate!

Hubby would rather she didn't cook at all. I don't care if she wants to cook but if she cooks then I don't see why hubby gets a slap up steak dinner and I get a tin of stewing steak :mad:


It is so hard because I do love my MIL to bits, she is fab! She is just VERY different to me!!

tiamai_d

MFD, it's the 'biggest plate' thing! My MIL does it. FIL has the biggest plate, everyone else has a much smaller plate.

My own MIL was shocked that I don't wait up on DH getting home from work at 12 midnight and make him "a bacon sandwich at least!" Uhm... no, he knows where the bread and cheese is.

My_Fathers_Daughter

tiamai_d wrote: »

MFD, it's the 'biggest plate' thing! My MIL does it. FIL has the biggest plate, everyone else has a much smaller plate.

My own MIL was shocked that I don't wait up on DH getting home from work at 12 midnight and make him "a bacon sandwich at least!" Uhm... no, he knows where the bread and cheese is.

That is exactly what it is - and it stinks!!!

Don't get me wrong, if there are 2 bits of steak, I will automatically give the 'best' bit to hubby (or anyone else I cook for) but that is different to the men get steak and the women get scraps!!




...you mean you don't make your poor hardworking hubby a sandwich when he gets in!!!!

MIL would have a full dinner waiting for hubby if he still lived with her!!

money_maker_3

see my MIL thinks Chris should do more for me as its me that works and looks after the kids, he is at home all day and, I'll not say does nothing, cuz thats not fair, bu does the minimum amount required to run a house and not a speck more !!
MIL always phones him to ask if I need anything done to help to guilt him into doing it !!
And its me that gets different dinners as she always makes a roast beef when we go for Sunday lunch and I dont eat it, so I normally get a nice bit of chicken or a steak

She is a nosey biddy that can be very condescending sometimes, but I love her really ! She tends to do as I ask, but will question why I want things done before doing them !!

My_Fathers_Daughter

Right - off to bed


I will be MIA from tomorrow until Friday after lunch - I will be wining and dining at my awards ceremony in Crewe Hall


HUGS to all that need them, kicks up the butt to those that need them, and a big old belly laugh to make us all feel better (and remind us how big our post-partum bellies are )

Mwah

MFD

xxxx

money_maker_3

Oh and sami and elle, thank you both very very much for the suggestions, think I am going for a hamper from retro sweets She would love it !! and then will get her a little teddy or something keepsake like from the kids