help plz, re: internet history and abusive husband

mummy26

hi im not sure where to post this, but i am wanting some advice at the moment im in a really abusive and controlling marriage, he moniters everythng i say or do, even writing this im thinking will he find out?
iv been using the net to obtain help and advice regarding my relationship, my situation is so hard to get out of im really afraid and have found the net very useful and getting help but im scared he keeps tabs on what i do online, for instance can he knw what i chat on msn and what pages i have been on even if i use cc cleaner and dlete history?
i knw its easy to say leave but seriously my situation is pretty dire im to afraid of the consequences and afraid he will find out im planning to leave. how can i delete everythng? could i take it to a pc shop or can i do it myself? plz any advice so appreciated

DCFC79

For example with msn you can choose whether to save a copy of the converstaion,

whitty999

hang on in there hun i am no good with techie stuff but someone will be along soon to assist stay strong x hugs to you x

DCFC79

Ive just had a look and if your using firefox 3.5.3 and go to tools the private browsing you can browse without any info being kept eg cookies etc but im not sure if it works 100%

Jakg

Even if you use something like Live CD you can still log whats going on on the router for example.

isofa

Use private browsing in IE or Firefox and then also run CCleaner after you've finished. He'd have to be a good techie to pick out and set details in the router, a standard user wouldn't have a clue.

FF - Tools > Start Private Browsing in Firefox
IE - Tools > InPrivate Browsing in IE

You could also download the Portable Apps suite, or just the portable versions for Firefox, chat clients etc and run from a USB stick, these leave nothing behind. Read and check the details first.

Also run anti-spyware like Spybot S+D to check if he's installed anything rouge like a keylogger (again unlikely unless he knows computers well.)

davester

Have you run a virus scanner he might be useing a keylogger to see everything you type and to who. it means he will know your passwords and everything.

How techy is the guy. cause the Virus scanner you have installed might be set to ignore that particular file and virus.

mummy26

thanks for that, i use firefox which he has installed in the laptop and what frightens me the most is he works in IT (systems dveloper) i have reason to worry? at the moment i use cc cleaner after each use will that be sufficient andd also how can i tell whether hes installed software to spy on what i do?

Zazen999

M26 - I'd go and change the details in your first post regarding your plans for a start. If he clicks on this in the future he could see it. and don't write anything like it in future.

I'll delete this once you have done it.

Be very vague online; it really will help

System

just to add is there anyway you could use say a public computer (libraries usually have them for free) instead? that would help minimize the chances of him seeing anything. if not hopefully deleting history and using a virus checker should help.

also if you're looking at a site and you hear/see him come in if you hit alt and f4 together it closes the window you're looking at

DCFC79

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

just to add is there anyway you could use say a public computer (libraries usually have them for free) instead? that would help minimize the chances of him seeing anything. if not hopefully deleting history and using a virus checker should help.

also if you're looking at a site and you hear/see him come in if you hit alt and f4 together it closes the window you're looking at

or possibly use a friends computer