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clearmydebts

Dinah93 wrote: »

Eeek what did you do to make it bonus abuse?!

We become saved by Kieran moving out and stopping physical contact before the wedding..... I can handle the physical contact but not the moving out.
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I'm sorry but I don't think I could attend any church that has that view. I think it is horrific to say that to worshippers.

Dinah93

guess so, I'll have to play a game of bingo later!

Dinah93

clearmydebts wrote: »

I'm sorry but I don't think I could attend any church that has that view. I think it is horrific to say that to worshippers.

We're having pretty big issues with it. I mean I know a lot of churches are anti-pre marital sex, but to say our wedding isn't something to celebrate and we're going to hell is a step beyond.

Tete_en_l'Air

Dinah93 wrote: »

'Saved' ie if we were saved when we die we'd go to heaven. As we're not 'saved' they consider us to be going to hell. Its a really fundamentalist church and I'm not very happy with them saying our wedding isn't something to celebrate.

I certainly wouldn't be happy being married by someone who says I'm going to hell!! I don't know how you put up with being judged all the time, I couldn't do it!

Good luck with the Tibetan Bails, wow! Puts my Spanish to shame!!!

clearmydebts

Dinah93 wrote: »

We're having pretty big issues with it. I mean I know a lot of churches are anti-pre marital sex, but to say our wedding isn't something to celebrate and we're going to hell is a step beyond.

They should be thrilled that there is a young couple so dedicated to their faith, not condemning it. I don't believe in hell anyway, it's a load of rubbish. How can someone as normal as you and NIM be destined to go to hell? It just makes no sense.

bails

Tete_en_l'Air wrote: »

Good luck with the Tibetan Bails, wow! Puts my Spanish to shame!!!

Tut, tut, no it doesn't Tete! I can't even speak one word yet, and my Spanish is appalling (something I hope to rectify by moving to South America :whistle:)

I find the whole church thing quite difficult to take too TBH. We're getting married outside, no one to judge us there

Dinah93

At times I really wish it wasn't important to me to have the wedding right in the eyes of God, but it is so I'm just going to have to make things the best I can. The CofE church has bells, thats sold it to me right there

clearmydebts

bails wrote: »

Tut, tut, no it doesn't Tete! I can't even speak one word yet, and my Spanish is appalling (something I hope to rectify by moving to South America :whistle:)

I find the whole church thing quite difficult to take too TBH. We're getting married outside, noone to judge us there

We had a church wedding but the priest was lovely and the only thing he asked us to do was to go to confession before we got married. We did that and we also went to mass 2 days after we got married, although it was in Catalan so we couldn't understand a word of it! He contacted the wedding planner and said it made his day that we came to mass after he got married. There was no talk of fire and brimstone though.

bails

Sounds very reasonable CMD. We're just choosing not to get married in a church because it's not our religion, and we love the outdoors. Not sure what contingency we'll have for the rain though!

clearmydebts

bails wrote: »

Sounds very reasonable CMD. We're just choosing not to get married in a church because it's not our religion, and we love the outdoors. Not sure what contingency we'll have for the rain though!

Are you getting married in the UK Bails? When are you hoping to get married?

Most weddings I have been to have been church weddings but my friends got married in the hotel gardens in Spain 2 months ago and it was beautiful. Fab setting and a very special ceremony!