When life constantly gets you down?

Dearsmore

Hey! We're all entitiled to have a moan at what life throws at us. As well as helping yourself by writing it out, I'm sure there are others who feel the same, and this will help them too.

baby_fuzz

ceridwen wrote: »

These days I try to focus on that phrase about "If life gives you lemons make lemonade".

I'm generally a cheery person, and I'm thankful that I don't tend to get very down. But I'd say that the secret is behind making the best of things. lemons/lemonade.

OK, so things are going quite the way you want them now, but it's about adapting, making fun of it, and just knuckling down to it.

I hope that you get over this hump soon, and whilst I don't how it feels myself, I know how much it can disrupt one's life as I ahve seen it first hand.

belfastgirl23

I kind of think it's about trying not to focus too much on the negative. I've been having a tough time lately from several different angles and have been quite down but I realised over the weekend that a lot of the heartache was coming from me allowing myself to feel negative. I could feel myself looking for the negative in situations rather than the positive. And I was letting myself obsess about things that really I have no control over. I realised that this part of it is in my control and am making a lot of efforts to keep myself busier and not let myself get into a negative cycle of thought.

Obviously this doesn't apply in all situations though...only you can judge quite how bad a situation is. EG minor car accident compared to family death etc

Primrose

Yes, life can be a pain at times but it's still worth having when you consider the alternative. If we were all given the choice today "You can have your life as it is or can chose to die at midnight tonight", even on a bad day I still reckon most of us wouldn't chose the Exit door.

continualdiamond

Know how you feel. Only at the weekend did i say to my OH that i feel like our life is just going to be like this forever, with living in a 2 bedroom flat, with not being able to afford a wedding or children (OH is 27 next mth, im already 27).

When i take our dog for a walk, i walk past houses and imagine what it would be like to drive our car up a drive way when coming home from work, instead of a free for all car park and imagine the feeling of walking into a house.

It's hard, my dream is to have a house, even if it was still 2 bedrooms like our flat, just love the idea of a house and space. But then have to remind myself that our flat is a hell of a lot better than our caravan we used to live in on a mobile home site.

mummy_Jay

My mum always told me think positive and positive things will happen.

Bad things happen to all of us but if you don't let it go it will drag you down. Also as silly as it may seem make sure your getting enough sleep, its amasing how tireness makes everything so much harder to cope with.

Try finding one thing every day that made you smile or laugh, it doesn't matter how small it was just find it and write it down to remind you.

cavework

:TThanks for the thread Bettyboop and thanks to all the posters. xx
I was having a really bad day when I last posted and boy was it a relief to let rip on here and not take it out on my family..
Got my sensible head back on now (well as sensible as it gets):rotfl:
Thanks again and I will try not to let the 'nasty' stuff in life get me down.

roswell

This probably isnt the post you want to read and im not tryng to be judgemental or seek attention but life happens.

My best and worst example of this is 24/06/2009 the day my mother passed away and the same day her mother (My gran) passed away ... many asked how i got on but I managed it aged 28 and never having to deal with that close a loss before it was all very hard but atleast I still had my Job to look forward to ... in the 2 weeks i was off work many things happened bills arrived that needing paying for my mum, I got my first parking ticket, generaly anything that could ahve gone wrong went wrong.

The day i went back to work I found out i was being made redundant ... thats life .................. but put some perspective on your own situation i always remember since being a young child no matter what worries I had my Gran would just sit thier calmly listen to me and say " Worse things have happened at sea" and thats how i got through it all

Loosing the majority of your family on 1 day is a worry, loosing your job is a inconvience, everything else doesnt really matter.

SingleSue

Must admit, life has thrown a lot at me over the years and although I have my down days and eek moments, I soon come fighting back.

From my (now ex) husband being diagnosed with a life threatening illness when we had been together a year, to finding out that having children was thought to be a miracle, losing our house, finding out that the two youngest have autism plus a whole raft of extra stuff wrong and then hubby leaving.

It doesn't stop there either...last week I found out my eldest (and my only thought of normal medically son) has heart problems possibly also tied up in one of two serious syndromes, I really thought of just giving up, I was really in bits but it takes more than that to keep me down and although I am still a little wobbly about it, I am back and fighting again.

Bettyboop

As I said not a week without one problem, of course we all have different ones and to add fuel to the fire the Inland Revenue call me to ask for nearly £500.00 for a claim they say was overpaid in 2007!!! Another one for the list that needs sorting out now!