When life constantly gets you down?

cookie0803

Yes I know that feeling too, three years oh hell...divorce, new man, baby, loss of job, marriage, abuse of every kind off him, seperation, miscarriage at 3 months, bankupcy, losing house, can't seem to get decent job, 3 house moves, 5 kids-2 teenagers who are .driving me nuts, ex number 1 CSA battle for help woth kids he quits his job, ex 2 has baby with other woman-got her pregnant 2 weeks b4 wedding-had baby month the one i lost should have been born, breastcancer scare, cervical cancer cells found....phew!!! oh and off work last two weeks wit swine flu lol!

You couldn't make this stuff up and i'm still trying and hoping things can get better.

p'haps things are getting better tho, have new job and just found out got an even better job....but have to move at xmas as too far travel. Finally ex 1 is helping, agreed let 15 year old son move in so he can stay at school-which i'm glad about as he needs his dasd at this age as he is driving me nuts wi boys behaviour.

So 2010 brand new job, brand new house, not all kids totally all my responsibility any more-less stress andf less expense. I hope I can get my life back on track and hopefully meet a nice chap too.

I can relate to crying, done so much of that today, trying to clean up house to get back ship shape for landlord, started painting dirty marks on walls and s**t made a mess as all patchy and now I'm gonna have paint all walls properly.......wish I had a man around for that....that really made me cry more but I had a shower, chilled out and was determined not to let it get to me.

Its just so hard when you're on your own trying do your best wit 5 kids and the men just live life like a single guy wit no responsibilities. I'm excited about move but then that only 10 weeks to sort it all out and move and xmas too. I hope life gets simpler and happier after that.

jenhug

think you need to check with St Johns wort that you are not taking other meds, I have a feeling it can stop the pill from working for example!

McKneff

Gawd, what a miserable thread,
Get up and get on with it girlies.

iolanthe07

think you need to check with St Johns wort that you are not taking other meds,

I'm on medication for high blood pressure and St.John's Wort is a complete no-no.

Dearsmore

McKneff wrote: »

Gawd, what a miserable thread,
Get up and get on with it girlies.

Fortunately I tend to have the same attitude, but for some people it doesn't really help to say that to them. The best help is just to listen.

McKneff

Dearsmore wrote: »

Fortunately I tend to have the same attitude, but for some people it doesn't really help to say that to them. The best help is just to listen.

Yes of course your right, i still stand by the 2nd sentence, sometimes
we all need a kick of motivation,
I wasnt trying to be sexist either, Im a 60 year old granny, i have had my share of misery at times even to the point of not wanting to be here anymore but attitude can kill or cure so - up and at em girls - please.

BallandChain

Cookie I can guarantee life will get better and more simpler. I think you need time with just the kids and no man in your life to find yourself.

What?

McKneff wrote: »

Gawd, what a miserable thread,
Get up and get on with it girlies.

I think sometimes you need to stop and say it's been a !!!!!! year or three and get the frustration and anger out, maybe just have a bit of a cry. I think the danger is wallowing in it and I have no room to judge as I have been guilty of this in the past.

gabyjane

I think my life has been like that since i have been born tbh!! being the eldest you always get the brunt of things and it is very hard at times..i have had so so many things happen that i now take each day as it comes and anything good is a bonus..i think i am pretty miserable at times and have been pretty moany in the past but have learnt just to say if someone asks ''yeah i'm fiiine!!'

ceridwen

What? wrote: »

I think sometimes you need to stop and say it's been a !!!!!! year or three and get the frustration and anger out, maybe just have a bit of a cry. I think the danger is wallowing in it and I have no room to judge as I have been guilty of this in the past.

Oh yes...been there ...done that....etc....etc.......

These days I try to focus on that phrase about "If life gives you lemons make lemonade".

I am determined to make the best of whatever life throws at me now and will do my best to see the "plus" points of whatever-it-is that life has just thrown at me - but can understand that there are odd times when we all have a bit of a cry/pity session once in a while.

Thats the thing - to recognise that we all "vent" a bit when life has just dished out one too many problems in a row - as long as we then pick ourselves up and get making that "lemonade".

The thing is to "get the balance right" between working out whether we might ourselves have inadvertently contributed to "Latest Problem" being there in our life on the one hand - and recognising that "stuff" hits us sometimes that we honestly have done our best to avoid - but it came up and hit us over the head anyway. I think we all get problems sometimes that we honestly havent "contributed to" in any way ourselves - but they came along anyway and "took a whack" at us and, at those times, then its understandable if we have some moments where we feel sorry for ourselves for something having "descended on us" that we honestly havent been at all responsible for.

These days I try very hard to be a good little "money manager" (and I am very good at this) and very aware of what other people are like and take reasonable care of my health. I am aware that some of my past problems were partly my own fault - because I wasnt a good "money manager" or didnt "take care of my health" or take good care about who I chose as a friend or boyfriend. But, having said that, one can take the best care in the world to prevent Problems - but some can still crop up.