Sharing custody of dog - need support :o(

paddypaws101

Not all relationship break ups are as amicable as PhaedraUK, and I would worry that this sharing of the dog is going to carry on the agony of your split. Try and box clever, call his bluff and see if he gets fed up with the dog, or the expense or whatever. Don't admit your desperation to keep the dog..and maybe you can manoeuvre him in to relinquishing ownership.
Ask someone legally qualified what your position is....are you sure it would go to court if you just forced the issue? Depends on your circumstances with home ownership etc if you decided to play it that way.
Good luck

georgebton

ive been looking after a dog for 3 months for someone as they had been kicked out of her council house as she is a bit of a trouble maker///and genreally a person a wouldnt get involved with...i no her dad very well...but i did this for the dogs sake....as i no he wasnt being treated well at all..as in shouted at never walked he is a two year old staffie called borris and he is amazing.

the thing is he has fitted into my life so well and has a regular routine...and comes to work with me.i have also trained him to walk on a lead..and hes so happy...its like hes always been here.

the girl who owns him hasnt been in touch for 3 months and hasnt brought him food or even visited..until tonight she turnes up with some rough neck guy wanting him back...............what do i do i no what will happen to him and that he has a better life with me can i keep him or do i give him back??????????????????????????????

foreign_correspondent

oh dear, I dont know - I would be tempted to try and negotiate keeping him I think...

... just a thought - if he had any vets bills, or needed ongoing treatment, they might be less keen to take him back... but, obviously I dont know if that is the case or not....

Also, I think you could reasonably ask for any costs incurred in keeping him... which could be quite a bit over 3 months...

georgebton

there is that the cost of his food...its her whole attitude she turned up here at 11pm wanting him back..whats bothering me is the fact if she cant keep her house ect hows she going to look after him...and the guy shes with just wants his as a status symbol.i was thinking the offer of £300 might swing it?

foreign_correspondent

yeah, its a thought... get him neutered (say he was marking in the house so you had to)... bet they wont be so keen then!

EmptyPockets

Candykisses - I really do admire you, and your ex, for the way you are dealing with your split and trying to do the best for Toby (Our old dog Suki was a Collie cross German Shepherd and was absolutely beautiful!)

I have seen so many relationships break up around me, and the animals always suffer. They are used as weapons against the other partner, they are dumped onto other relatives, or worse, sent to shelters, because niether partner can be bothered to take the animal on alone. It's so sad, so to see a couple trying as hard as you are, is so refreshing.

It is very obvious to see that you both care for Toby very, very much and have his best interests at heart, as well as loving him very much. I see no reason why this cannot work as a longterm plan. I think the key will always be great communication between the two of you, learning to give and take and knowing when to bite ones tongue

Best of luck to you all xxx

walwin

foreign_correspondent wrote: »

yeah, its a thought... get him neutered (say he was marking in the house so you had to)... bet they wont be so keen then!

Great idea FC

Got to be worth doing georgebton and it's something that will be of benefit to the dog anyway.
I'd say do that, and if that doesn't put them off, then the £300 will swing it. But don't offer that until it's your last resort.

Bloody crappy people :mad:

moomin5

There was someone else that posted a while back that was in a similar situation sharing custody of the dog. I think if all parties are happy then why not, as both homes will be stable i'm sure Toby will probably accept it fine and enjoy time spent with both owners. I think a lot depends on the ex-couples relationship as to whether they find it will work for them.

If you suspect that your ex is only stopping you have full custody now to feel in control, perhaps he'll decide in time that he doesn't really want the responsibility and let you take ownership.

foreign_correspondent

this is the old thread!! Its from last year - however, new poster georgebton resurrected it last night, when he posted to ask about the dog he is looking after - he probably found the thread on a google search and signed up to ask a similar question.

catlou

*****Just in case some folks haven't realised this is an old thread that georgebton has brought up to post a new problem on so hopefully the Toby situation from the original post is now sorted as it's nearly a year ago?*******


georgebton I hope you get to keep the dog you definitely sound the right type of dog owner and they sound the wrong type .

I agree offer money as a last resort although cold hard cash might be the only thing that gets through to those "type" of people! BUT if you do give them money I would make some sort of a document/receipt with your name address etc. and their name on saying you have bought the dog and make them sign it so you have proof in case she comes back in 2 weeks time with another boyfriend!! lol!! asking for the dog back again!!

Although really she should be paying you for looking after/feeding him! :mad: I also agree with FC's neutering idea.