Fell off the wagon

cantcope

Ok. Been a very long day and i am shattered. Parents have just left mine. Dad has emailed himself my figures spreadsheet. From the way he's talking it looks like he may pay the whole lot off for me and let me pay off what i can afford without living like a peasant each month. We've worked out that it will take me 4 years, not allowing for any extra money i can get if i downgrade my car, get a part time job, get a payrise etc.

Also my friend has said that when she moves into her new house i am more than welcome to rent a room from her (really dont want to go back to parents in the box room). Even if i only lived with her for 6 months i could pay off approx an extra £2000.

I think i will sleep well tonight. Bath and bed for me now. Tomorrow is a new day. I have no secrets from my parents for the first time in a year.

They were great. No telling off's, just support and hugs from my mum.

Have been on the GA site, am thinking of maybe going to a meeting next week. Not sure yet. I am certain that now that block is on my pc (i cant even play ludo for points) that i will not gamble again. Also with my parents helping me out I just dont think i could do it to them. I dont WANT to gamble.

ANyway, ramble over.

Thanks to everyone on here for your support. You can't imagine how much it has helped me today xxxxxxxxxxx

In_Search_Of_Me

Good to hear that you are OK. PLEASE get some help ...from what you have said the gambling has been very up & down for a while and it really is not worth ruining your life over. What lovely parents you have! You've taken a major step telling them so well done...have a good nights sleep & big hug from me!

homersimpson_3

Sorry if this is harsh but sometimes it's necessary. You earn substantailly more than lots people on this forum and their outgoings are much higher than yours. You were in very serious trouble and have no idea how fortunate you were to have parents who are both willing and able to bail you out. Most people don't have this luxury.
You say you got into the mess through addiction but in another posting say you're only considering going to gamblers anonymous. if the addiction is so strong putting a block on pc may not solve the problem-you can gamble using any pc - library, friend's etc. you could also replace one form of gambling with another (bookies, poker, casino etc).
If you gamble because you're lonely start making friends- college, work, join club etc. stop sitting in a bedroom in front of the computer and get a life.
i understand you're shattered and you've been through enough today but it seems you're just being given so much opportunities in life and wasting them. i feel more sorry for your parents who have had to sort the mess out. if i was your parent i would really hurt- not only financially but the fact you felt you couldn't come and tell me yourself.

cantcope

I dont gamble because i'm lonely. I gamble when i am upset. I guess the only way i can put it is that it is like if someone who drinks heads for the wine when they are miserable. I don't, i head to an online casino.

I also KNOW that i am very fortunate to have such loving parents. and I will do everything i can to pay them back asap. I am not living the life of luxury you know. I've been getting by on £10 a week for the last few months, robbing peter to pay paul.

The reason i was Considering GA is because I dont gamble anywhere else. never have and it doesnt appeal to me in the slightest.

I have a life and have excellent friends. I've been stupid, i know that and came on here for support. I also know there are thousands of people worse off than i am. I'm sorry if this offends you Homer.

There was a reason I felt i couldnt tell my parents. Would you want to tell your mother something knowing it runs a high risk of her having a bad MS attack that could confine her to bed for a year unable to walk? I dont think so. I feel awful about what i've done to them today. You can see the stress in their faces. So if it comes across that I am ungrateful then its just bad wording by me because I certainly am grateful for what they've done today and how they are going to help me in the future.

FrugalJo

Cantcope
I hope you are feeling okay today, after what must have been a long and emotional day, like you say Mum's sort of know these things. As for your friend, that is a good friend who has obviously been looking out for you.
I really hope you get over this addiction, I have an addictive personality and became a Sims addict after realising how much I could loose spinning the wheel !
It is easy to log in into a website punch a few numbers in and suddenly be on a long losing streak after attempting ti win it all back, because the money doesn't look real on this side of the screen. Online gambling is such a lonely addiction, to want or need alcohol or nicotine or whatever substance an addict has to go and physically buy them, online gambling just needs a bunch of figures.
I'm sure there is a whole new generation of gamblers that have money troubles and have never walked into a bookies or casino.
Hugs to you
Jo

Dumyat

I dont mean this to sound horrid....but I hope you have learnt from this because your parents have just made it all better for you like you were a three year old. You must take some adult responsibility for all this or the situation will not change. You have been very lucky your parents were in a position to help you like this....dont let them down.
Good luck with GA.

In_Search_Of_Me

Hope you have a better day today...am sure you M&D would prefer to know....beware the making excuses for not going to GA...addiction (in any form) is a powerful thing and the more support you can get to crack it the better...think of it as armor for fighting those gambling demons! The first time you walk in is the worst...a bit like here when you post for the first time & fess up. Most people (Homer did you read the whole thread before delivering your kick?) are here to support you and get out of debt in a supportive environment - no matter where the debt came from. You'll have good days & bad days...yesterday I guess was a mix of both. Today is a new day and instead of focussing on the whole goal just focus on getting through today (or a hour of today if its hard!) of not gambling! Big hugs...

livinginhope

Hi cantcope,well done for telling parents,I think that is the hardest thing in the world to do,you feel such a failure and don't want them to be disappointed in you,but once all is out things can only get better.Get yourself to GA,only wish there was a chocolate anonymous,as I reach for the bar in the fridge when things get rough,truth be known most people have a weakness when put under pressure,unfortunately for you it costs loads!
Good luck for today,take each day at a time and chin up.Maybe moving in with your friend would be a good idea as she could make sure you don't fall off the wagon again.

homersimpson_3

I dont gamble because i'm lonely. I gamble when i am upset....The reason i was Considering GA is because I dont gamble anywhere else....I'm sorry if this offends you Homer"

Thanks for clarification cant cope. Hope your feeling better today. I'm certainly not offended - i think you're really brave for talking to your parents about this. I totally agree with livinginhope that "when things get rough,truth be known most people have a weakness when put under pressure"- I do.
When you're upset could you try posting on this forum or talking to friends. All people (including me) sometimes don't want everyone knowing all their personal stuff but no one on this forum really knows who people really are and someone usually comes up with the answer.

Ali-OK

Just read through this thread. Well done for telling your parents everything and how wonderful they are for being able to help you out.

Hopefully, you'll feel like some of the weight has been lifted with that lifeline, and you'll have some new energy to spur you on to permanent changes. You have a great opportunity now to propel yourself forward to debt freedom, turn your back on gambling forever with support, get into all the MSE ways and pay the debts off as fast as possible.