Im a new parent that needs help!

fernliebee

I had the snacking thing with my DD when she was tiny, in the end I realised that she wasn't crying because she was hungry but because she had wind. I would feed her, wind her, feed her some more, wind her, lie her down for a bit, then pick her up and wind her again. She suffered with wind terribly. Once I realsied this I would go through everything else before I would feed her. I would wind her, then change her, then go for a little walk with her in the sling or buggy etc then if she was still niggly I would feed her, 9 times out of 10 the winding or walk would do it though.

Baby massage was really good for it actually, as was sitting her up really straight, and pushing in the small of her back iyswim. Would get lot's up. I found the sling brilliant, especially the ones that you wear close to your body rather than the shaped carriers iyswim. They tend to be comfier (if worn correctly) and also baby is held against your contours so the wind is massaged out as you walk/ move around.

Hope things start looking up soon. It's amazing how things get easier week on week!

Tweetinat

I'm not a mum (yet! - only 13 days to go|) but quite a few of my friends who have recently had babies have found that their LO's are suffering from bad reflux which has meant they only take in little feeds as their stomach acid then comes back up and makes it too uncomfortable for them to finish. They've both had to have special medicine prescribed from the GP which they give just before a feed - it's made a world of difference though... Maybe it's worth a trip to the docs to ask them to have a look???

HTH, Nat x

cavework

Hi,
I'm a really old Mum, youngest is now 18 so this might not be of any use but..
My oldest used to do the exact same thing. One day my health visitor watched me bottle feed and solved the problem straight away.
I was screwing the top on the bottle so tightly that as the baby sucked he was creating a vacume and no air was getting back in.
Baby was getting exhausted before he had finished his feed. I loosened the top just enough to see bubbles in the milk as the baby sucked.
No more colic and one happy baby.

djdymond

hello everyone!!

right time for an update! 10am feed went ok, taking over 100mls. he then cried till more or less two pm, being the next feed. ive tried winding, feeding, changing, cuddling, not cuddling, swaddling you name it!!!

i do wind him alot, especially during crying incase he does have wind i didnt catch during the feed so i know its not that.. i will try rubbbing the bottom of his back.. ive tried massage after a bath and he hated it so i was going to try again in a few weeks. yet he loves the bath and kicks in it etc. its after the crying starts again!!!

i am concerned its the tommee tippee ones so if anyone else can recommend trying others im all ears. ill look into avent ones.. ive also heard about medela special needs bottles, anyone tried them? theyre 18 quid so i wanna hear from people first. they do say theyre good for babies going from breast to bottle, but wonder if its the same for babies on bottles already?

the baby whisperer reccomends feeding every three hours, but that would mean waking oli up. if he feeds more in the day, he will be better apparently. but i dont like the idea of waking him when hes happy sleeping. some mums have already said let baby sleep. ONE other has said oh no start a routine going. but im worried ill wake him, he wont want the bottle and then cry for being tired and woken up!!

i DO make sure i screw the lid/teat on the bottle tight and wonder if thats a reason too now... sometimes i push the teat edge into the bottle while hes sucking, for more to come out if that makes sense and then when i let go, i see lots of bottles. if i dont do that, i dont see bottles at all. he sucks forever and then i wind him, only then finding out that great, hes only managed 30mls max... maybe that is the teats fault, more than olis.... but then the 2am and 7am feeds are fine??

also really quick, people seem to put their babies down to sleep at 7pm ish... oli goes down at 10! again, if i feed and bathe oliver but hes as alert as he is right now, im sure putting him down he would stay awake or cry for being left/bored? so how do other mums do it?

thanks mums! xxx

bank_of_slate

How do they do it? I wish I knew to be honest, I reckon many of them are lying :rolleyes:
Elli just never needed that much sleep! We were lucky if we could get him off to sleep before 11pm and even then he'd wake for a feed in the night and then be up and wide awake at 5 -6am ...he still does and he's 12 now!!! (except for the night feed, but if he had the option he'd raid the fridge in the night)

Once I went back to work and he was still the same, we ended up with him sleeping in our bed most nights which my Mum slated me for, but he hated his cot, barely spent more than 2 nights in it, he wouldn't settle. By that stage I just didn't care, I had to get up for work so as long as we got some sleep it was tough!!!
Take the other Mums stories with a pinch of salt, do what's right for you and your baby!
...Linda xx

alison6692

Hiya x

I use Aptamil Easy digest - ( we still use it as our little one is lactose intolerant and the Aptamil Eas digest has a low lactose content). I also use TTippee bottles - have found that the teats can block with the milk so have to sometimes give the teat a squeeze mid feed to unblock them. Have you tried upping teat size to a 2 or 3 because the milk is so thick compared to other formula.

Have you tired calling Aptamil ? They are brilliant - I rang them about switching milks and get advice on sicky child - They are so well informed.

Wish I could wave a magic wand for you as we had an unhappy windy child for a long time and it did have a big impact on the "enjoyment" of having a new baby.
It turned out our little one is lactose intolerant and that was the cause of uch her distress (and ours).

I would also suggest a trip to your HV or GP and have a chat about any options they can think to make like happier for you all x

Good Luck x

alison6692

djdymond wrote: »

hello everyone!!

i also really quick, people seem to put their babies down to sleep at 7pm ish... oli goes down at 10! again, if i feed and bathe oliver but hes as alert as he is right now, im sure putting him down he would stay awake or cry for being left/bored? so how do other mums do it?

thanks mums! xxx

I would say do whatever you feel is right for you. When our little girl was about 8 weeks we used to bath our little one and then feed her and put her on our room and then when we went to bed at 10pm I used to wake and feed her again before we went to sleep. It worked well for us but if you are happy to have Oliver up with you I wouldn't worry. One thing is try not to compare how you parent as we used to do it all the time - Now my little girl is 19months I have finally realised they are just all very different and as parents we all parent very differently too.

HTH xxx

JBD

Hello again, re putting baby down at 7 O clock, that doesn't work for a lot of babies especially if they are prone to colic. This is the routine I used to follow. I would try and keep them awake a little in the evening, this might be a good time to let him kick in the bath. About an hour before I wanted to go to bed, say 11 o clock I would change them [hopefully they didn't poo after] then give a full bottle or an extra ounce if they will take it. If they went down by 12 0'clock then they would wake later for their night time feed say 5.30-6o'clock, tome this would count as sleeping through. Then as they got older I would bring their last feed forewards, soon they would drop it as they got onto solids. This is what worked for me, all my kids slept through quite quickly, it was getting them to sleep through the main part of the night ie 12-6 am that was the key.

tandraig

I'm a grandma who both breast and bottle fed......so have experience of both. but many many years ago - my youngest is 24!
as for bottles - I find that the traditional shapes work best - with traditional rubber teats if you can get them - couple of the grandchildren didnt seem to like silicone teats.
I have NEVER added gripe water to feeds..........if baby had bad wind would just soak a clean hankie (cotton ) in gripe water or let them suck slowly off a spoon.
some babies need feeding more often than others but never hourly! something wrong there. try the above then if baby still fussy would suspect a dairy intolerance (as my youngest had) and ask for the soya substitute.
its awfull when baby wont feed properly - I KNOW that from experience - but as long as they are having some a short period while you experiment wont hurt!

nikkit72

hi djdymond , there is a parent thread where lots of us parents chat , and it nice to chat to other parents every day

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1965767&page=301