Neighbours: When is enough, enough?

BeenieCat

I don't know what's best, to rip my hair out by the roots, or cry myself into oblivion.

Terraced house, rented from LA. Lived here for 6.5 years alone with DS.
Ex lived here for about 6 months, we were prob noisy while he was here (arguing) but apart from that i've always been a quiet neighbour, no music, def. no DIY .

So 2 weeks ago i got new neighbours due to prevous tenant passing away. Previous tenant was perfectly silent!

On one side of me there's a young couple, they play music often, but i don't get angry unless it's after 8pm. It sometimes is, but i haven't knocked yet.... They've been there about 6 months.

Other side - new neighbours, related to young couple - older couple with teenage daughter. Constantly drilling, hammering, banging, playing music for the last 2 weeks. HOWEVER i have given them the benefit of the doubt as they're obviously just decorating :rolleyes:

My ex was here at the weekend and says "it's not that bad" but for some reason it's making me really snappy and i'm so frustrated with it, i can't work out if this is me - i'm tired, full of cold, pregnant....

I should just approach them but i'm intimidated by the fact i'm sandwiched between family. And in fairness it's not ridiculously loud, but it's enough for me to hear some repetitive drone bass noise through the cardboard walls.

I am all for 'live and let live' but i just want to go and throw a brick in their faces.

I don't know what i'm asking, i don't want to be snidey and go to council yet, cos i haven't approached them directly and they'll know it's me :rolleyes: It's more of a rant than anything. I don't want to get on the wrong side of them, i'm on my own and although they seem okay, i'm nervous of upsetting them.

Help

andrealm

How loud is the music and how late does it go on for?

When do they do their DIY? Personally I don't think I would say anything unless they are doing it at unsociable hours.

neneromanova

Sounds like a touch of the pregnancy hormones. I was soooooo "vicious" when I was pregnant and even the littlest thing p*ssed me off. Why not go talk to them and just let them know you have a young child and if they could keep the noise down after 8pm that would be really kind of them. I guess you can't really do much about the during the day noise as it's daytime...

Sorry you're feeling so irritable. *hugs*

BeenieCat

From the young couple, it's loud enough to sing along to, but that's mainly late afternoon so obviously not as bad. Just [STRIKE]suicide invoking[/STRIKE] a pain when we're settling for dinner and reading books. :rolleyes:

The DIY from young couple has gone on til 9pm before, but i will admit it's not all the time.

From the older couple, early days yet as they've only just starting sleeping there after getting it liveable, but i could hear TV or something late last night, music not so late.

It's so hard, cos i know it could be soooo much worse but it's still driving me potty, that's why i don't know if i'm just overreacting/being over-emotional. All i can hear right now is duff duff duff and i'm sat here in tears! Grr pathetic

BeenieCat

neneromanova wrote: »

Sounds like a touch of the pregnancy hormones. I was soooooo "vicious" when I was pregnant and even the littlest thing p*ssed me off.

Yeah i think it could be, but it's also why i'm confused - i want to live in peace and want to nip it in the bud now if this is a taster of what i'm in for but i don't want to be the local idiot.

Why not go talk to them and just let them know you have a young child and if they could keep the noise down after 8pm that would be really kind of them. I guess you can't really do much about the during the day noise as it's daytime...

Sorry you're feeling so irritable. *hugs*

Am scared of confrontation I suppose if it carries on i'll have to grow some balls and say something, but i am soo wary of peeing them off. Even though i'm mightily peed off :mad:

chocomonsta

Is it the sound of the music or the vibration? My next door neighbour was keeping me awake (it is so infuriating :mad:) with the constant thud thud thud of the beat..I went round and told her it wasn't the noise but the bass that was vibrating through the walls and floors. I haven't heard it since.

I do sympathise cos it is maddening.

BeenieCat

From the older couple, and what i'm hearing now and last night, it's the vibration, i can't really make out what kind of music it is tbh. Maddening :eek: I feel like smashing my head through the window.

Young couple had a party on Fri night which went on for about 7 years (okay, til about 2am).

Loopy_Lobes

Poor you, I hate that thud thud drone. We get it from two doors down and it annoys me so can only imagine what it must be like actually next door. I think for your sanity you HAVE to say something or it's just going to eat away at you. It's doesn't need to be confrontational, just explain that you have a little one who is playing up in the evenings because of the noise and could they please turn the music down after 7pm ish. If they're halfway decent they should respect that. You could even go one further and invite them in for coffee, I think that if you get on good terms with your neighbours it does create more respect for one another. Good luck

lottylouj

i went through a similar situation. my next door neighbour was constantly playing music and screaming at her child. She like me was/ is a single parent. it got so bad in the end with the music, just the constant thud, thud, thud of the bass that i got the council involved. She knew full well it was me, but she was not at all the approachable type, and every time i walked out of the door would scream abuse at me.
The council got involved, she was prevoiusly known to them, so they took it seroiusly, i hd a log book, the CPO's were involved and they put a noise monitor in the house so every time the noise started i could record it.
The council approached her, she wanted to sit in a room and try mediation, i wasnt willing to because of the abuse i had recieved. She was eventually evicted.

In a few weeks im moving house, neighbours on both sides and paper thin walls. Im going to have a lot of DIY to do, im going to try to see my neighbours and let them know. But i certainly wont be doing any in the evenings, as i have children who need their sleep.

Could you speak to the older couple about the noise, if they are related to the younger couple they might say something to them for you? Have you got a support worker? or anyone who could help you talk to them or the council so you dont have all of the stress of it? If your son is being affected by the noise they might/ should take it more seriously.

Paparika

ooo this really does sound like pregnancy hormones, i had it, i took a dislike to a slimy boss at work at the time, and the nasty rude, horrible comments i said to others about him (they were true, but i said in a nasty tone).

Things that upset us are amplified when pregnant,

you should try living above a chav who plays the same cd very loud with the vibrations on my desk, doors, windows, and bass.

I'd had enough last week and we ended up having a slanging match on my doorstep, (i was tired and had no sleep) i was accused of kicking her door in, she raved so much i called her a f**in chav, and i had to call the police.

Fortunately apart from hearing her shouting to others about me last week, it's all nice and quiet, and she has received a letter from the noise pollution team.

I feel less stressed about it as i can't hear or feel her music.

can you go away for a few days, take a break?

BeenieCat

Ahhh thanks so much for the replies of support. It stopped at about 9pm and as soon as it stops it's as if it never happened, my monsterous and murderous side just disappeared and i felt normal again. Mind you i was really close to sharpening my pencil to stab myself in the eye with it.

I've thought about getting a friend over to have a listen and tell me if it would bug them as much, but of course it wouldn't they don't live with it.

I'll just hope they're testing the acoustics in the new house and will give up soon :rolleyes:

I didn't sleep well last night (unconnected to this though) and so hoping for a nap cos i don't have to go out today, so i'm hoping they're finished drilling.
I'm seriously seriously baffled as to what DIY task could possibly require so much drilling???

So for now, i'm still sane, haven't smashed my head through the window yet.