OH is driving me mental regarding money

BitterAndTwisted

I'm in full agreement with everything Primrose said but I don't agree that what was said was directed at the OP specifically, just about some couple's varying attitudes to money-managing.

Our attitudes to money and savings are pretty fundamental to our characters and it amazes me too that quite a lot of couples don't seem to know, understand or agree with their partner on this. I have considered giving any potential suitors a detailed questionnaire on exactly this subject to prevent future misunderstandings and unhappiness.

Primrose

You started off: "Sorry to have to vent all this here...but I'm seriously ready to implode!:mad: Just had the 3rd evening this week of OH pulling his face because he's "sick of working his backside off " to have no money at the end of it.
JOIN THE CLUB!

I'm trying my hardest to get some of our debts paid off quicker to relieve the pressure and to stop us both from working our backsides off for naff all....but he just keeps moaning and then wanting to spend money we haven't got.....
I even went to the extremes of printing off our SOA from here and showing him in to show him I'm not trying to rob him blind...didn't seem to work

Tangledmemories - I wasn't trying to pass judgement on your marriage but when you admit that when you got together 5 years ago you knew your OH was "crap with money", that would have rung serious alarm bells for me if I'd had the bitter experience of watching my parents go bankrupt. I would have wanted to see some behavioural changes regarding the way he handled his finances before I tied up my life with somebody who seemed to be prepared to renege all financial responsibilities and leave that burden wholly to somebody else. You were obviously prepared to accept that deal then but now you're older and wiser and I suspect that you're not so enamoured with the way your OH is still behaving. All I'm saying is "If you'd known then that five years into the future you would still be the one feeling you were shouldering most of the responsibility for repaying your debts without much cooperation, would you still have been as happy to sign up for the deal.