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juliescot

The question was answered in post number 11 on the first page.
The joke about using a search engine was also in that post.

Welshwoofs

andrealm wrote: »

You pick your battles with toddlers - it's not pandering, there's just no point in provoking tantrums for no good reason. In this case I didn't even know there was a battle to be fought - this hadn't happened before.

Tantrums? The only kids who throw tantrums are kids who know they can get away with it. If you threw a 'tantrum' when I was a kid you had to stay in your bedroom for the rest of the day and went without dinner. If a child attempts to throw a tantrum in a public place then a well-placed smack on the backside works well.

Amistoso_2

iamana1ias wrote: »

Not really. I'm far too smart for that. That's why I got sterilised at 22.

No doctor in the land would sterilise a 22 year old, your talking nonsense

LemonGrove

Welshwoofs wrote: »

Tantrums? The only kids who throw tantrums are kids who know they can get away with it. If you threw a 'tantrum' when I was a kid you had to stay in your bedroom for the rest of the day and went without dinner. If a child attempts to throw a tantrum in a public place then a well-placed smack on the backside works well.

Let's not get into this debate now, please, no!!

andrealm

Welshwoofs, do you have children yourself? My children are 3 and 1 for crying out loud, are you seriously suggesting I lock a 1 year old in a room without food for a day every time she cries?:eek:

If you have ever read a book about parenting toddlers you would know that tantrums are a normal stage in toddler's development.

iamana1ias

Amistoso wrote: »

No doctor in the land would sterilise a 22 year old, your talking nonsense

Excuse me? Do you want the receipt or something? :rolleyes: you can try and get me pregnant if you like :rolleyes::rolleyes:

it is rare,yes,but in my case they did it (but I had to pay for it). The doctor that did mine had only done it for 3 other under 25s when he did mine. He did insist on counselling though just in case I had any doubts at all (I didn't).

iamana1ias

andrealm wrote: »

Welshwoofs, do you have children yourself? My children are 3 and 1 for crying out loud, are you seriously suggesting I lock a 1 year old in a room without food for a day every time she cries?:eek:

If you have ever read a book about parenting toddlers you would know that tantrums are a normal stage in toddler's development.

Do the books recommend you ignore the tantrums or pander to them?

juliescot

iamana1ias wrote: »

Do the books recommend you ignore the tantrums or pander to them?

I think this is now so far off topic as to warrant a new thread on parenting skills, however.....

I have in the past ignored tantrums and indeed pandered to them.
It depends on many things there is no one right answer.

andrealm

As I said previously they usually suggest that you pick your battles, sometimes tantrums are unavoidable, but if for example you know your child is tired then there is really no point in creating a situation where you know a tantrum will develop. And yes they do actually recommend that you don't reward a tantrum with attention as even negative attention such as smacking or shouting can encourage a child to repeat the unwanted behaviour.

Welshwoofs

andrealm wrote: »

Welshwoofs, do you have children yourself? My children are 3 and 1 for crying out loud, are you seriously suggesting I lock a 1 year old in a room without food for a day every time she cries?:eek:

I said 'kids', not 'babies'. You can't stop a baby crying - they're doing it because it's the only way they have to communicate.

If you have ever read a book about parenting toddlers you would know that tantrums are a normal stage in toddler's development.

The fact that you've said 'tantrums are a normal stage' indicates to me that you expect them to happen and put up with them. Tantrums arise when a child is told they can't have/can't do what they want. It's boundary testing. All too often what I see are parents simply giving in and letting the child have/do what they want because "it's easier".

I'd also add that parenting books are inherently political and mirror prevailing ideas in society about child-rearing. If you were to look at a selection from down the ages you'd see the advice constantly changes. Ultimately what is the right way, is not what the latest parenting author decides is right, but what actually makes that child polite, well-behaved, considerate and a worthwhile member of society once they're grown.