MSE single parents thread

lindsaygalaxy

Thank you to everyone who has posted so far, its really nice to hear from people in the same position. My friends and family have been great, but I still feel very alone. My ex is with someone else, and I know that further down the line I will be happier after all those lies, just finding it hard to grieve for all that has been lost. Trying to be practical and sort money and stuff at the moment.

Have to praise tax credits (though im sure I will regret that) who have been really quick at sorting out new claim, wish housing benefit would speed up a bit though!

ells888

Hey, also a single mum to dd's aged 4 and 7, its very hard work but also very rewarding. Make sure you have good friends around you, iv relied on mine so much .. even if its just to wipe my snivvely nose on their shoulders when i was having a wobbly moment!! But as for money saving id stick with martin!! fantastic site xx

lindsaygalaxy

Anyone else find themselves watching awful tv shows?????

ells888

all the time! only because there is nothing else on ... on plus side tho we can watch girly chick flicks like dirty dancing without men moaning at us!
:j

mummy_Jay

Another one here to DS 5, I have been since I found out I was pregnant. So I don't know what parenting with a partner is like (I think this is my advantage as i can't miss what i never had).

My best advice to anyone about to become a single parent is to believe in themselves, you can do it just takes time.

I too have found i end up watch stuff for the sake of it but i also get to have awesome days out with DS.

lindsaygalaxy

I need support to not watch Jeremy Kyle in the mornings! Im worried how im going to manage when I go back to work FT in jan. Financially I wont be much better off than I am now, but need to work way up career ladder as only just qualified.

kaze_2

Hi, just become single mum to DD of 20months, think this thread is a really good idea, am used to managing most things by myself as ex OH used to just sit and drink beers while i did it all , have sorted out all my benefits as recently unemployed.

What i want to know is how do you deal with seeing your ex oh when they come round to see the kids, as at the moment do not want to see ex, let alone let him take dd out of my sight, split not amicable at all, found out something going on with a supposedly good friend.

jansus

i must say i think if you are able it is better to get out to work when your children are old enough, i was going stir crazy at one point, and am not really much better off financially but it can get very lonely when you only speak to your children all day and of course once they are in bed it's just me and the telly. as for seeing the ex mine was a different sonario but it was very uncomfortouble for a long time, i know it depends on why the relationship broke down but from my point of view their were a few years of awkwardness and gradually it got a lot easier to the point where we are now friends

lindsaygalaxy

The evenings are so hard, knowing he's with someone else. I just want the pain and anxiety to stop and to get to some kind of reality that doesn't hurt.

Any tips on cooking for 1 and a half? My eldest is 5 and so doesn't like a lot of what I eat, and I just seem to be throwing loads of food away. I freeze some but most nights struggle to have the enthusiasm so cook for me.

jansus

lindsaygalaxy wrote: »

The evenings are so hard, knowing he's with someone else. I just want the pain and anxiety to stop and to get to some kind of reality that doesn't hurt.

Any tips on cooking for 1 and a half? My eldest is 5 and so doesn't like a lot of what I eat, and I just seem to be throwing loads of food away. I freeze some but most nights struggle to have the enthusiasm so cook for me.

sorry to hear your hurting so much it is so hard in general never mind when you have just given birth only six weeks ago your hormones will be all over the place which won't help, i know it isn't much help to say in time it will get better I'm sure you think it never will but you will get there in the end. some may disagree where food is concerned but if i think my ds doesn't like what i am eating i cook something else for him it saves throwing food away, and if my portion is too large i freeze some of it, i gave up long ago trying to cook a family meal it is a shame but with all the coming and goings in my house there really isn't a tea time anymore