MSE Parents Club Part 7

searching_me

right i just called tax creds and changed it 2 4 weeks starting next week which means a should get the lump sum next week right as the woman wasnt sure herself but she said i could change it back if it didnt x

Jessica33

In the background I manage to take a lot of photos with a packet of nappies!

tiamai_d

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

Tia, am I missing something, or do I just have really robust nipples? Expressing for six weeks now, haven't needed cream? Or is it needed if you're doing both BF and expressing?

(Hey, where did everyone go?)

I was fine with the boys but with Amber I got cracked nipples and mastitis from the pump. I think it was the pump, I am blaming that anyway.

Krystaltips

Aww Weezl, I hope someone calls you back soon!

I am ridiculously tired... So tired the room moves sideways when I close my eyes... I had very little sleep last night, despite Caitlyn sleeping until 6:30... I was just so paranoid because my Mum and her husband smoke and we were stopping at their house... And also a bit annoyed...

Ey up... Rant alert

I told my Mum on Tuesday that I had succesfully cup fed Caitlyn some milk when she couldn't figure out how the bottle worked... Mum's reply 'Oh so and so cup fed her grandaughter when she was a baby'... Fine, she's experienced it... We've discussed it... Yesterday whilst handing over my very hard come by 7oz of milk I made a point of showing her the sterilized doidy cup and telling her that if she was unsuccesful with the bottle to try her with the cup...

We got back last night... As we got close to my Mum's we heard a baby screaming... We sped up a little... Got into Mum's house and she was in the kitchen which wasn't too odd... She was walking a very distressed baby round, I grabbed Caitlyn, popped a boob out, she latched straight on and fed like she'd been starved for a week... While I'm sitting there, I realised that all 3 bottles of breaskmilk are sitting on the side... Mother hadn't even put the ones she hadn't used in the fridge... The doidy cup is still in the steri-box un touched and she held up a bottle and said 'I don't know how much was in this one to start with but there's only about an ounce and a half left so she's had some milk...' Yeah... Half an ounce! 'Oh well that's enough to take the edge off her hunger..' Hmm... Not really... When you're starving, half a cucmber sandwhich doesn't really take the edge off your hunger does it... More likely highlights exactly how hungry you are...Anyway... It's not the end of the world... She'd only been really upset about 10-15mins apparently... And she fed as soon as I walked in so I'm sure she's recovered from the upset....

But then Hubby's having a cuddle with her and walked into the kitchen to get a drink, at which point Mother's hubby picks up a cigarette and goes 'Oh, are you taking her out the room' and lights up... I also noticed it's one that's burnt halfway down, so obviously he was smoking in the living room while Mother had Caitlyn in the kitchen just before we walked in... I know it's his own house and everything but for goodness sake, she's 4 months old! They even have a half conservatory / gazebo thing stuck on the back of the house with patio heaters in where he could of gone and sat outside to smoke and still been warm... But why bother when he can just sit and wither my baby daughters lungs... All the stuff was in that room too, car seat, changing bag, play gym... All now stinks...

I thought last night would be a trial run for when the in laws have the girls next week, but in actual fact I feel a bit better about them having them... At least I know they won't be smoking round them... And if I say to try her with the cup, they'll try her with the cup... Not just leave it in the box next to the ruined breastmilk....

3onitsway

feelinggood wrote: »

The shaky thing is odd, and I really don't know how HV made the leap to it being related to food. It has happened three times, all while feeding (feeding is what he does most of the time!). He latches off, with eyes closed, and shakes. It is like a strong shiver, and lasts for about 30 seconds.

Just a thought Feelie, When my DS was a baby, he used to do the 'shiver' thing - but we think it was when he did a wee! OH says he still has a first wee of the morning 'shudder'! But maybe thats just him! :rolleyes:

money_maker wrote: »

I have to go into work My boss is here for the day and probably wont be back down till Christmas, so I need to go in to discuss my date of return, holidays and the hours I want to return to. I am hoping to cut down full day every 2 weeks, so I would work 4 1/2 days one week then 3 1/2 days the next. Lets hope she agrees xx

I've just been into work this morning to hand in my request for change of hours form!
Walking into the building depressed me! I'm hopefully going from 5 days 9.15-3pm, to 3 days 9.15 to 2.45. We'll see!
Maternity leave ends in two weeks - but four weeks leave are added to the end so my official due back date is 23th November.
(But hopefully, my time back at work won't be for too long!)

We went to visit a nursery close to work too. I'm quite disappointed that I really loved it! I think I wanted it to be horrendous so that I couldn't possibly leave her and go back to work.

Glamazon wrote: »

Hi BM
I thought it might have been that reason why they called you back. Plastic surgeons have very strict guidelines as there are so many people who want surgery - when I got referred my GP hadn't put all the info in the referral letter so I got them to go thru the criteria and write the letter around that

Glam/BM My friend is waiting to have her absolutely mahoosive boobies reduced on the NHS. They told her she needs to loose two stone before they'll book her in.
The thing is, if she didn't have the boobies, she'd be skinny! She's got no bum or tum, and really thin legs! So if she looses 2 stone, then gets the boobs off - she'll be too skinny!
Atm, she's size 10 bottom half and size 16 top half.

BM How far away from a 27 BMI are you? (If you don't mind be being a nosey bu99er!)

ETA: I carried on catching up and saw you've already answered this one!
You've done so well already! :T

searching_me

philip lappy is bu99ered so trying to save the photos before he resets everything ........... arggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh x

elle_gee

Not gone to my friend's.. too stressed and no motivation

On the brightside, just won a leopard print snowsuit on ebay

keelykat

I need a hug... think i'm going to have to move out and stay with my parents.
Can't see a way out with my on going neighboujr problems. No one is taking it seriously. Apparently if you live in a flat-you have to put up with any crap that is thrown at you.

Mazcabs

Question : my boss has to go for some 'nuclear test' thing on his heart next week and is then coming back to work. Cant remember but isnt he meant to avoid pregnant women for so many hours after? I know when I was at the hospital for a scan before my mums friend was there and I couldnt see her as she had had this.... is it only early on in pregnancy?

ladybirdintheuk

Afternoon all. Having a bit of a panic here - got the details through from tax credits, and what I was quoted as getting once I'm paying for childcare turns out not to be true.

The situatation we are now in is that once all the direct debits have gone out, and we have paid for groceries (budgeting £200 a month), petrol(budgeting £100 a month) and bus tickets, the minimum payments on our credit cards (we were hoping to clear them quicker than that), we are left with £15. So it could be worse - at least we can afford to cover all our responsibilities and eat. And we can budget a bit on the groceries. But I'm really scared that having no spending money at all is going to split us up. DH cannot function if he doesn't get to go to the pub - he is not very nice to be around if he can't stick to his saturday pub routine, and ... shall stop here, as this bit is probably something I should (tactfully) be talking to him about, and I'm making myself upset again

I'm now trying to work out what we would be entitled to if I don't work at all. (Pretty sure it won't be much, as DH earns £18k. I thought most of the threshholds were £14k? And if not what my options are.

I am already looking for a f/t job closer to home, and once I have one we will be in a much better sittuation, but in the mean time I suppose my options are:

a) - see if my Mum will look after Izzy for an extra day, and I will stop where I am
b) - stop working entirely - this would save us childcare and petrol costs, but would still need to be getting at least £300 extra in benefits to make it worth it.
c) - quit my job and get a crappy part time job here to tide me over (would have to do some evenings/weekends so DH and my Mum could cover all/most of the childcare.
d) - quit my job and see what I can get in terms of short term contracts while I look for a full time job.
d) - cross fingers that I get a full time job quickly and stick it out.

This is all horrible for a number of extra reasons while I think about it. Izzy loves nursery, and I would like to keep sending her - taking her out then putting her back in again at a later date would throw her completely . And it also means I'm going to have to talk to my parents about the situation we've got ourselves into, and they will want to help, but they have themselves to worry about. (They're not bad off, but my dads pension is changing, and they are worrying about how little money they will have to retire on - I can't let them take money out of savings to sort us out while they are worrying about that!)

Sorry, this has turned into a little essay, and I'm not sure how much sense it all makes. I'm off to play with entitled.to now!