MSE Parents Club Part 7

gingernutbizkit

I'm not sure if this is the place to post but I feel like a need some support before I go out of my mind.

A year ago I left a job I loved and felt valued at to become a foster parent. I am lucky enough to be fostering three gorgeous boys who have become a part of our family and who I love very much.

My life is now very different. I am effectively a SAHM (not allowed to work) and will be for the next 10 years at least. I seem to be on an endless cycle of washing, cleaning, cooking etc etc and to be honest it's boring me to tears. I know that there is a lot of stuff I could be doing with my day but I just can't seem to get motivated.

In addition, my partner works all kinds of odd hours and I seem to be alone in the house for hours on end. I looked into day classes/courses etc but they seem to all be aimed at the retired (I'm only 27) and most of my friends work during the day.

I'm feeling really depressed and don't know what to do.

Thanks for listening to my ramblings.
Ging x

astonsmummy

gingernutbizkit wrote: »

I'm not sure if this is the place to post but I feel like a need some support before I go out of my mind.

A year ago I left a job I loved and felt valued at to become a foster parent. I am lucky enough to be fostering three gorgeous boys who have become a part of our family and who I love very much.

My life is now very different. I am effectively a SAHM (not allowed to work) and will be for the next 10 years at least. I seem to be on an endless cycle of washing, cleaning, cooking etc etc and to be honest it's boring me to tears. I know that there is a lot of stuff I could be doing with my day but I just can't seem to get motivated.

In addition, my partner works all kinds of odd hours and I seem to be alone in the house for hours on end. I looked into day classes/courses etc but they seem to all be aimed at the retired (I'm only 27) and most of my friends work during the day.

I'm feeling really depressed and don't know what to do.

Thanks for listening to my ramblings.
Ging x

Hey ginge, how old are the boys?

newmoneysaver_2

astonsmummy wrote: »

This is what I was thinking, so how many 'outfits' per bundle?
I would rather do it that way cos there is soooo much!

I would think 3 or 4 outfits and maybe a couple of accessories if they go together ie: hats/socks etc. Or a bundle of 4/5 babygrows and 4/5 vests. What would put me off is high postage costs, it maybe worth while to sort the bundles to have 1 or 2 heavy items and then a couple light weight ones to keep postage lower

Hi Ginger- not sure I have much to offer cos I have days where I feel the same (I'm 27 too, but I only have to one 9 week old) How old are the kiddies? Are they in school?

Sami_Bee

Ginger, your saving grace if you have one will be a surestart centre, do you have one?
They're great, lots of activities and a creshe so you can do age specific things with just one of them at a time
ETA - not so good if they're at school :doh:

gingernutbizkit

hi, the boys are 11, 9 and 7 but they all have learning difficulties/developmental delay and so function as 2, 4 and 5. They're at school full time - which is the time I struggle with. I must be the only 'mum' who looks forward to school holidays!
Ging x

Sami_Bee

Ginger - could you do volonteer work?

gingernutbizkit

Sami_Bee wrote: »

Ginger - could you do volonteer work?

I had thought of that but I wouldn't be able to make a regular commitment... and I'm not sure what kind of work I'dbe able to do. Shop work doesn't really appeal. Maybe I could look further into this though as it might give me a sense of purpose.

I had arranged to meet up with a lady who's interested in setting up a scrapping club as I thought this would get me out of the house. However she's having to help a sick relative and has postponed for a few weeks.

Is it normal to feel like no one is interested in me anymore. All I talk to my partner about is money,her job and the kids. The kids (understandably) take little interest in me as a person and all anyone seems to ask me about is how the kids are. Or am I just being really selfish???

Ging x

astonsmummy

Na your not being seflish.
being a mum can be the most boring thing in the world sometimes!
We have all been there, thats probably why we all spend so much time on MSE!
Sorry i have no good ideas, i rarely go out these days!

searching_me

yawn ........... just woke up from a nap seriously need to snap out this tiredness ..

welcome ging i know how you feel i feel really guilty at times that i feel bored they say being a mother is the best thing in the world but still doesnt mean to say you dont like being a person as well as a mum .... i agree with the surestart though x

astonsmummy

Actualy, what about volunteering in the boys school or another school?