Relationships! - how often do you see your OH

scubaangel

My boy lives where his job sends him (military) at the moment hes posted in Surrey which means he plans to head up to see me at least once a month (I work weekends), so in theory 2 days a month min, in practise as I work all day Sat, 1 day a month unless I can get a weekend off.

phunkles

Me and new bloke see each other once a week for 2 days - mid week cause of his job and mine being flexible for the time being - plus i live here and he lives a 2hour express train journey away.

Ex bloke worked abroad and I saw him for one week out of every 3months

oh yeah i just love long distance

poppycracker

I see my DH every day inbetween my shifts as hes not working atm. When he's back on the road, he can be away overnight once or twice a week. I'm glad I'm working as he is getting on my nerves!

DeeDee74

every other weekend normally.

Stephb1986_2

We've been together 2 and a half years, at the beginning of the relationship we saw eachother twice a week and then all weekend but now because of work I only get to see him at weekends. It really bothered me at first but now I'm not really that fussed.

Steph xx

carolan78

We have been together 9 years and used to see eachother most weekends when he was in the UK (military again), then he could be sent on detatchment for 8 weeks at a time (boy that was soo hard). We were married 5 years ago and he left the military 3 years ago so since then we have seen eachother almost everyday.

As much as I love seeing him everyday, I also miss the distance. You lose the butterflies waiting to see them, you take eachother for granted a little more (even though you try not to). Now we have children though it wouldn't e practical for him to work away. DD 3 already cries when he goes to the gym and isn't there for bedtime.

wizk1

My other half used to live and work up here, but after being made redundant, he now works in Manchester, and I don't get to see him until the odd weekend. It's something I've gotten used to, but I don't know what I want to do for the long-term future

Pee

Pretty much as soon as we got together, just over three years ago, we have spent pretty much every night together. There are nights when I am away with my sister or friends or visting my parents, maybe as many as 14 a year. If I wanted to stay over somewhere else, it would be a problem and sometimes, much less often, he is away with friends or for work.

We get up about 7.30 and drive halfway to work together, parting at about 8.30. We usually meet up at about 6 when I get back from work and we would usually spend the whole evening together then. Sometimes we do things as individuals, but mostly, we just want to be with one another. Being apart is good as it just reminds us of how much we like to be together!

Katie-Kat-Kins

Everyday!

We've been living together for nearly three years now and during that time have only spent a few nights apart. Our stag/hen do, was one occasion, a few nights when I have had to go away with work and once when I stayed over at my parents after a birthday do so I didn't have to drive. I miss him terribly if we do spend a night apart.

Normally I see him first thing in the morning when i get up and I say good bye before I go to work, then I see him about 12 hours later when I get in and we spend the evening together. We have a cuddle at bedtime without fail.

When he used to do early shifts he used to wake me up to say goodbye before he went out at 4.30am.

I don't think we'd want to be in a position where we had to spend significant time apart.

yummymummy79

3-4 days a week generally, sometimes for a few hours, others all day and he stays at mine twice a week. He's in RAF so is currently away, has been for 5 weeks and we've got 2 weeks left. We've managed OK as have been chatting on MSN on and off most days as well as texts/emails.

He got offered a promotion recently which came with relocation 200 miles away, neither of us wanted any more of a part time relationship than we already have so he turned it down. I appreciate that lots of people in the forces do live apart and get on OK, but it just wasn't for us.

We've been together for a year and a half now so I think it's time to start spending some more time together, maybe staying an extra night but we are never going to be in each others pockets as we have separate interests and I like that setup.