Lottery Win

Blonde_Bint

Dancing_Shoes wrote: »

I have no problem with gifting money to the pwc's and nrp's joint children I just object to being told to when it is my money. If it was a joint win with the nrp then I would be happy to have my 50% and then have 20% from his winnings for my children then pay 20% from his winnings to his children with the pwc................our pwc wouldn't be happy with this though she would want ALL the winnings.
If the pwc won the lottery or had a better income etc than us then to be honest it wouldn't concern me as her money is her money! I have never objected to paying child maintenance as I think that every parent should pay towards their childs upbringing, I just think that ALL children need to be taken into consideration.
To be frank, I can honestly say that I hate our pwc, she is probably the only person I can truly say that about and it is because she has been so evil so if I won the lottery then yes she (not the children) would be the last person I would ever want to benefit from the money. I would happily put money away for their children but yes I would give substantially more to my children as they are mine. Sorry if that upsets anyone but i am being honest:o

Dont forget also, children between nrp and nrpp only have their income, the nrp's children benefit from their mothers and mothers partner income plus their biological father so it doesnt always follow that the child living in nrp household is better off.

when children live in different households its very difficult for them to be treated exactly the same, its nigh on impossible you can get as close as poss but its hard.

for example, at my daughters school this week they have been given free tickets to the local water park (slides wave pools etc) its expensive to get in and the kids have been given free access for 1 adult and 1 child. SS doesnt have a ticket because he doesnt live here. however, SS gets other treats because of the school he goes to which are not there for our child.

and yes we could pay for us all to go but we cant afford it in our current situation, I will take our daughter this weekend and do it for completely free:D. I think we must accept that kids living in different households will get different things no matter how hard we try to make them equal.

Dancing_Shoes

To make my stance a bit clearer, my hasband the nrp has a financial responsibilty for all his children. He is not self employed, we do not attempt to hide/disguise any money our pwc gets her share via the CSA and we have never missed a payment etc etc so we are straight down the line when it comes to child maintenance. I have no time for people who try to get out of paying for their children!:mad:
Our pwc has financial responsibility for her own children and no others!
pwcp has financial responsibilty for self and any biological children he/she may have and although they may want to provide for pwc's children with the nrp (are you still following?) then they can but it is NOT their responsibilty (that is the responsibility of the pwc and nrp).
My financial responsibilty is to my own biological children, I make a choice when I want to to contribute towards the nrp's children with pwc but I don't have to iyswim.
The pwc and nrp will always have a responsibilty to the children they chose to bring into this world but the nrpp didn't choose to bring those children into the world so has no financial responsibilty towards them. Maybe it is because our pwc is so bad that I see things so black and white but I won't allow her to dictate what we can/cannot do for the rest of time:rolleyes: If i win the lottery then I may feel differently about throwing her a few scraps but why should I feel I have to?
Our pwc benefits from having me as a nrpp as I have enabled my husband to make substantially more jumps up the career ladder than he would have ever made being married to her. I pay for our life insurances (something which he never had when he was married to the pwc so if they had stayed together then she wouldn't have benefitted anymore than she would now iyswim) and yes I do have assets solely in myname but this is because I bought these to the marriage independant of my husband so she would not have been entitled to these anyway