The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

honeybear_2

Thanks guys

I'm working through the bits that need to be cleaned out, washed up etc - seems recent so as Angie says hopefully just weather related. Have reported it online to the council & put maksing tape (!) over the most obvious pipe gaps that they could be coming through

in other news, I had a great Christmas Haven't read back so I hope you all did too

yellowmonkey

Right work to get on with so will say Night,Night :hello:

Take care x x

honeybear_2

yellowmonkey wrote: »

Right work to get on with so will say Night,Night :hello:

Take care x x

Good to know we can sleep safe in our beds with you at the helm, YM

Operation Mouse Clean is still underway in Bear Towers. I will update on the definitive state of the hot water tomorrow as it needs an overnight to test it :rolleyes:

jo1972

Hugs to you HB x

Ill have to change the avie tomorrow morning when I get on the laptop, cant do it on the phone, ill miss my xmas bunny.

honeybear_2

I'm staying this way til I take over as Evil Score Monitor in January

115K

I have not been doing very well at all. I have only scraped 5 days AF this month and even that has been a struggle.

honeybear_2

You're one better than me, 115K

I,M_SAD

Hello everyone,I have been alcohol free for a year now.It is something I never thought I would be able to say.
I would love to say my kids won,t remember me a drunk and I stopped before hurting my children considerably but I can,t and I did,nt.
I live with myself by making amends as much as possible and accepting that sometimes amends are not always enough.When you hurt people who love you repeatedly by misusing alcohol you have to do whatever it takes to get sober and admit you are not in control when drinking.There is no such thing as pride when you are an alcoholic,you get help and take help whenever and wherever you can.
When you are drinking you will always make poor choices,the fact you are drinking is a poor choice in itself,so your life will always be chaotic.

I still every day prepare myself for the next,there is no shortcut or easy path to sobriety.It,s important not to rush yourself in the early years,but the knowledge my reckless days are behind me gives me a lot of hope for the future.Gently,gently is the way forward for me.Very simple tasks I set myself and one of my greatest pleasures is taking my 4 year old to footie every Saturday at 8am in wind,rain,snow:Dand we have never missed a week,every time I freeze on the sidelines I talk to myself constantly,I tell myself if I was drinking I would never have those precious times with my son because I have become reliable again and it,s those things that make me proud.When it was boys against dads at the last match I saw my little boys face fall because there is only me and him so I ran on the pitch and played footie for the 1 st time in my life as an honourary dad.
I enjoy my life alcohol free as I have a life again,I don,t cope well with a complicated life,I have really gone back to basics this last year and I don,t want to be superhuman I just want to be nice.

Take care everyone and stay safe.

graemecarter

115K wrote: »

I have not been doing very well at all. I have only scraped 5 days AF this month and even that has been a struggle.

While Christmas is not an easy time, perhaps ask yourself why has it been so hard
Alcoholism chips away at the confidence, and after a while one belives they cannot manage without alcohol
We judge ourselves on our actions, so we have to prove to ourselves that we can be AF. If we cannot be AF, then we feel even more hopeless

Try another approach - the one you are currently taking is not working as welll as you want it to
I found with me and my alcoholism, I needed to change me and my thinking before I could successfully put down the drink.
That's what many alcoholics need to do - change themselves and then they no longer WANT or NEED to drink
However, to change yourslef one has to want it enough. We alcoholics are resistant to any change that threatens our drinking

Whatever you decide you want to do in the future, make the decision now (don't wait) and be honedt with yourself

Good luck

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all!

Feeling quite angry today. Have found out two good friends have been pulling the wool over my eyes for quite some time. Won't bore you with a long story but, needless to say, I feel really stupid and feel I've been taken for a mug. Last night when I found out, I'd already had a drink and spent an hour ranting about it to OH. If I'd been sober I probably wouldn't have done that.

So feeling very low today. Hope I perk up a bit...don't want to spoil OH's time off.

Won't drink today.

Miss P
xx