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The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

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  • shaggydoo
    shaggydoo Posts: 8,435 Forumite
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    edited 9 November 2009 at 4:24PM
    Morning :hello:

    Early start today but feeling good! AFD yesterday. So that's

    5 GG

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    Good Luck

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  • Hi Everyone.

    Back after a few days absence - had a family do ten days ago, and completely fell on my butt. Suffice to say pretty much made up for nearly two months of abstinence in two days, and made myself bloody ill in the process :(. Couldn't eat properly for days afterwards, had a migraine-level hangover for a week and am still not sleeping properly.

    Net result, I went to my GP on Friday, she's taken some bloods and stuff, and is referring me to a counsellor. I've spent too long in denial (even when forswearing the drink, even admitting I have a problem with it, I couldn't bring myself to say the "A" word) - anyway, I've opened up to Mrs Snowy, told her I'm an alcoholic, to which her response was "About bloody time" cos she's known perfectly well for ages but (sensibly) knows that she could say it until she was blue in the face, it was up to me to admit it to myself.

    So, I admit it. I'm an alcoholic. I can't drink sensibly or in a controlled manner, so I can't drink, full stop. I'm craving it, but today I'm not going to succumb (besides I'm going back to work today, and at my GP's suggestion I'm going to make an appointment with Occupational Health to put them in the picture.

    I feel scared and liberated at the same time. Most of all I'm so glad you lot are here - people that understand and don't judge. That's priceless, and I want to thank all of you, and apologise in advance if I get grouchy about it in the time to come.

    Snowy.

    PS - 5 af days for me this month. Many more to come.
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  • *Mari*
    *Mari* Posts: 473 Forumite
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    Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr :mad::mad:

    Have had an ahlcohol related lightbulb moment

    Last night managed to drink 3 G&T's in the space of half and hour after thinking to myself at 9.30 one little G&T will be ok, but it wasn't and because I'd told OH I wasn't drinking I sort of did it all secretly and quickly :mad: Sorry to ramble and rant. Lesson being that I obviously can't even have one drink without it turning into something more. Needless to say I feel awful this morning.
    Hope everyone else is ok, must rush late for work, catch up properly tonight.

    Mari xx
  • jo1972
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    Mari, hugs to you my dear, I hope you feel better later. I think you need to re-evaluate your drinking if you don't mind me saying :o drinking secretly was the beginning of my slippery slope and one that's very difficult to get out of as nobody knows but yourself and when the bells toll it's very easy to ignore yourself iykwim :confused: Good luck for later, we're all here for you xx

    Snowy, well done :T the first and biggest step has now been taken to make yourself better:T it is a liberating feeling to admit you are powerless over alcohol, there is no shame in it and something that is incredibly common. You have taken a step that a lot of people will never do and unfortunately have to live in denial forever and with that comes depression and low self esteem plus a whole host of other horrible emotions. This being said, doesn't mean it's all downhill from here but you have support from all of us and with counselling you will be able to rationalise your drinking habits. I'm not entirely sure that telling your OT is a good idea at the moment, but that's me personally....depends who you work for and what sort of relationship you have with your co-workers? Good luck and well done :)

    GG, 8 for me please :D (27 consecutive days, 4 whole weeks tomorrow! :j)

    Caz, where are you? xx
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  • jo1972
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    Are we 72 hour challenging today :confused:
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  • mrsdee
    mrsdee Posts: 555 Forumite
    Good morning everyone. I hope you all survived the weekend and managed to make whatever targets you had set for yourselves.
    GG, that's 8 for me please. Met a friend for lunch on Saturday that I havent seen for a few months (i.e. since before AFness) and we had lime and soda to drink with it. She barely drinks and said I'm much less "edgy" (never thought I had been!) than before. Also that I used to be a bit "scarey" when I drank!! Blimey, that was a bit of a revelation!!!
    Anyway, continuing to feel good, going out for a jog/run every few days is getting easier and easier - not in a permanent state of dehydration any more from boozing, which probably helps matters too!
    Have a good day everyone.
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  • jo1972
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    mrsdee wrote: »
    going out for a jog/run every few days is getting easier and easier

    :confused::confused::p
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  • 69chick
    69chick Posts: 544 Forumite
    Hi all, just popped on to say 4 for me please GG..

    Managed an af day yesterday after not being Thu/Fri/Sat :o I don't really mind the Fri Sat bit but I am annoyed at myself for drinking last Thursday...

    Anyway a new shiny day...am planning on remaining af till Friday at least this week, will be down south for a family Christening this weekend...

    Good luck Snowy on your road to recovery..you know this thread is here whenever you need it...

    Thanks by the way to whoever it was (think it was Jo) who said some encouraging words to someone last week that included 'think how nice it will be to lay in your bed tonight sober' that really helped me yesterday and it was very nice watching X-Factor and Doc Martin in bed with just a cuppa :p .....think I am the only person on the planet who is happy that the twins are still in!!!! although I did think Lucy was great, would have rather seen Lloyd or Jamie go....(I am a mummy to twins so I think I have a soft spot or something, either that or I have gone dooolally!!)

    Have a great Monday all x
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  • (27 consecutive days, 4 whole weeks tomorrow!
    I am going to SHOUT this:

    CONGRATULATIONS JO.
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  • honeybear_2
    honeybear_2 Posts: 3,914 Forumite
    jo1972 wrote: »
    Are we 72 hour challenging today :confused:

    I sort of am but without much enthusiasm :o:confused:

    I'll do a list later if anyone else is up for it? :)
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