The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

Different_Corner

Morning
Interesting reading. 7/22

Like others I am finding it easier each day, but I have yet to put myself in a social situation where alcohol is available. Self protecting I've turned down two evenings of going out.

Since I was 18 every evening, social situation has had alcohol. My parents had a pub so from age 10 - 16 in the late 70's/early 80's I guess being surrounded by it set the way forward. Not blaming them just the way it was. People drink to relax and have a good time, or so I thought. So ages 16 - 41 followed the same path.

Guess I'm quite insular now, prefer to have my head in a book. Not drinking takes the pressure off, but I think I'm actually going to have to bite the bullet at some point and 'go out'.

yellowmonkey

winebox wrote: »

Yeah, just make sure it's the doorknob you've got hold of :rotfl:

(I live in hope.....:D)

OK, you, ym, & marru, & of course anyone else, I will too if you will tomorrow. That'll be Thursday, right? Oct 8th, right? Good. Let's JFDI.

Erm, hello!:rolleyes:

OK with me. No drink today

Managed to find door knob at last

ym

jo1972

Different_Corner wrote: »

Guess I'm quite insular now, prefer to have my head in a book. Not drinking takes the pressure off, but I think I'm actually going to have to bite the bullet at some point and 'go out'.

You've hit the nail on the head here DC, this is how I feel when I stop drinking for a period of time, I wonder if I'll ever be normal again!

It is a slippery slope and I'm on it, did crap yesterday, (Fay, well done for abstaining ).

YM et al that's doing an AF Thurs, can I join?

Pippilongstocking

Good Morning thought provoking posts indeed! Good morning to you all! I like discussion it provokes thought - Had the wierdest dreams of my life last night mind you I always go a bit (more) nuts when its TOTM (sorry for sharing!!) - will post an updated list later on this am (shiny spreadsheet is at work!)

Waves morning to Jo -
YM well done on finding the right 'knob' (that sounds SO wrong!! *
DC - well done you on 7 AFD's here's a shiny star for you *

yellowmonkey

jo1972 wrote: »

YM et al that's doing an AF Thurs, can I join?

Course you can

Pippilongstocking

I'll be teaching later on (Herbs and Lettuce growing if anyone's interested!!) and then home made kebabs cooked by my brother - happy to join in after that.

then Friday I am on the boat

Different_Corner

jo1972 wrote: »

You've hit the nail on the head here DC, this is how I feel when I stop drinking for a period of time, I wonder if I'll ever be normal again!

It is a slippery slope and I'm on it, did crap yesterday, (Fay, well done for abstaining ).

YM et al that's doing an AF Thurs, can I join?

I guess it's a different kind of normal. I mean if I'd never tasted the stuff I'm guessing I'd be a very different person ? May have had natural self confidence instead of that alcohol induced confidence in my early 20's. May have made very different choices. Have no regrets, far from it, just thinking this is going to change a lot of things.

Along with FUAS I'd like to aim for total freedom from 01.01.10, but a lot of things have to change first.

69chick

Morning all, still woken with a headache today after being af again last night anyway am happy to have been af for the last 4 days...am up for af Thursday too....

DS is claiming to be poorly so I am keeping him off school although I am sceptical of his 'poorlyness'..think its because I don't feel so well that I am not pushing him to go in, but I just know I am going to regret it :rolleyes:

Catch you all later and love the thought provoking posts, we are all here for our own reasons and I love to read everyones thoughts as they do all make me think...

Have a great day all
xx

mollypolly

Good morning everyone.
Lots of good stuff on here today....very thought provoking.

Regarding the giving up completely...for those who want to.....Just do it.....from today......I just gave up on the day I returned from holiday (because I had very nearly ruined the whole time away)and changed myself as I went along.....I just knew that I could not drink any more......I WAS at my rock bottom.
It was hard, but everytime I wanted a drink I asked myself WHY.
If I was thirsty then have something non-AF...otherwise I didn't NEED that drink.
The Allen Carr book No More Hangovers was a life saver for me and I read and re-read it daily at the beginning.I know some people don't agree with everything he says (me included)....but it did help.

As for the going out and being AF...that was hard at first but I always made sure that I was the driver.I also told people straight away that I was no longer drinking.When I was asked why I just said that I needed to look after myself a bit more ....told them how good I felt.
Most people admired me for it.

As I said...last weekend I went to the Rocky Horror show and had the best night ever...without alcohol......I could be myself without needing alcohol to give me confidence...at last I have found myself.....and I am a really nice fun person:o

Seven for me please Fay:D

See you later
Love Mollypollyxxxx

fakeplastictwee

Interesting reading this morning!

I think my attitude is that every day that somebody doesn't drink is a day that your liver doesn't have to process all that crap in your body. Maybe some people aren't FULLY admitting the extent of their problem, (no one in particular, just a generalisation) but the fact that they're posting their thoughts on a public internet forum shows they want to share and talk about it, and are addressing that it's an issue, which is better than popping a bottle open and glugging the lot down in denial.

I've only recently started to admit to myself that I drink too regularly and am damaging my body, (and my wallet!!) so find this thread a good place to sound off and get/give support

Like I said before though, I suppose it depends on the individual's relationship with alcohol and how destructive it is. I have had nights in the past where I've got so blind drunk I've become violent and turned into an utterly horrible person. I instantly learnt from that and have never got that drunk ever since, and wouldn't want to.

Anyways (waffle over) I will be having an AF Thursday. I only had one small glass of wine last night and feel refreshed this morning.