The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 5

40somethingmum

Fay,:A

Your pressie arrived today. Thank you so much ... it is lovely. It also matches the colour scheme in my house ... so an added bonus. You are very sweet and very kind and very lovely;)

Please put me down for 4 AFDs please

Thanks

40SM:D

Marru

Hello again.

Ok, only quarter of the bottle gone instead of half. Had really nice chat with BF over Skype. Heading for bed with cup of tea (decaf) and a magazine.

YM - you are on for tomorrow!!!

Oh sorry I have been so wrapped into my own little life that forgot to say:

Molls!!!

69chick

Hi all, have managed to stay af tonight so that makes me 4 now...watched the first 2 episodes of Flash Forward with dh earlier with our hot chocolate instead of the usual bottle of wine each we normally consume together :rolleyes: so am pleased as it feels like we can change our habits if we try...

Night all see you all tomorrow, I have a feeling it will be harder for me tomorrow, for some reason Thursday night is a hard one for me, don'tknow why ....

x

IcelandicMaiden

Hi

Feeling quite low tonight, terrible headache, and generally tired and a little miserable. I dont seem to be on my own though, as a few of you are struggling today.

No desire to break my challenge, just lacking in energy and happy thoughts. How about a shiny star Fay that will keep me going. Day 7 AF for October and day 22/100 of my challenge.

Good Night All

Pippilongstocking

40somethingmum wrote: »

Fay,:A

Your pressie arrived today. Thank you so much ... it is lovely. It also matches the colour scheme in my house ... so an added bonus. You are very sweet and very kind and very lovely;)

Please put me down for 4 AFDs please

Thanks

40SM:D

It just jumped off the shelves at me - then you had a wobbly day so I thought it was the perfect time to send it.

Blast sending things second post from here to you yesterday at 2 pm :rolleyes: so unreliable (NOT)

Hope you keep remembering what an ACE mum, how hard a job it really is, and to make sure even if you stick your ear phones in and listen to a book to get a bit of you time or natter to a chum - just remember how special you are!!

*

Pippilongstocking

IcelandicMaiden wrote: »

Hi

Feeling quite low tonight, terrible headache, and generally tired and a little miserable. I dont seem to be on my own though, as a few of you are struggling today.

No desire to break my challenge, just lacking in energy and happy thoughts. How about a shiny star Fay that will keep me going. Day 7 AF for October and day 22/100 of my challenge.

Good Night All

Vibes of happiness and shiny stars to you my love - weather's changing and the seasons are shifting - never underestimate the effects that has on all of us (oh dear come over all new age) - but I am a hippy after all

Hugs, take care of yourself and heres a lovely shiny *

Pippilongstocking

TIME2GROWUP wrote: »

Hello and nite nite one and all... I am af as promised earlier, so will look forward to my third star in the morning..! not making any promises about tomorrow.. will decide that one day by day..

good luck and hugs to everyone.. xxx

Well done you me dear - don't need to wait til morning - so many savings, so many stars!

XXX really well done (tomorrow is tomorrow) *

graemecarter

fayjmck wrote: »

Oddly enough - (this is beginning to get a bit freaky) so was I - MP is right you know..........

It got easier in May when it was completely give up - than my random caving in at the moment

GC, Molly, Bis, E and so on etc all say its easier after a bit - just wonder how long a 'bit' is?

Well, I only think it is easier if you change yourself. I drink because I find a lot of life a problem. I cannot change other people, places and things. So I can only change myself. I have changed the way I act and react. Thus I no longer have the desire to drink. I have surrendered to my powerlessness over alcohol, and admit 100% my alcoholism. When you do that, it gets easier to change oneself.

Just stopping the drinking without changing yourself is very hard, and was impossible for me. I see lots of misery on this thread as people cannot drink. If you change yourselves, you may not WANT to drink at all.
That's when it gets easier.
The way some people are approaching this will lead to unhappiness and eventually a progression of their alcoholism. This in turn could be lost jobs, families, homes, and maybe lives.
However, I know that people will only change when they are ready and have hit a rock bottom, so for some people they will continue to struggle for a long time. That's heartbreaking to watch, but that's alcoholism for you!!

graemecarter

fayjmck wrote: »

And..........................we should think of the savings, etc, health, happy bunnies etc.

?

It never worked for me. I knew I shouldn't drink (for all those reasons) but it didn't stop me. That's my alcoholism. I knew I should not drink, and didn't want to , but still drank anyway. Thus feelings of despair, self-loathing etc

That is classic addiction. Knowing you shouldn't do it rationally, but doing it anyway.

graemecarter

jo1972 wrote: »

I also think the same thing, funny we had pretty much the same amount of abstinence at the same time (well you did considerably better than me, but you know what I mean ). I think I remember our conversations back then, you counting the willow and me sitting in the back garden discussing 'when is it gonna get any easier?' that was 'for me' 21 days into my abstinence and it didn't feel any easier

If I didn't change myself, the longer the period without alcohol, the harder it would be.