Help with CV Working as a Waiter

juliescot

booklover wrote: »

thanks Julie i will definitely try that tomorrow, here's hoping.

its just that he is so used to me doing everything for him...

You will have to stop at some point. Him doing the forms with your help is a gentle way of starting

booklover

i think he probably wouldn't even try to get a job as we sorry i give him money all the time and he really has little incentive to find work.

or maybe he would try to fill the forms out But i really don't think so....


Its just he owes us so........... much money at the moment t3k and this cant go on,


what should i keep giving him money

booklover

Because he was sick i kept giving him money. He has very expensive taste, not like me. he buys expensive labels and camera and laptop...

it has to stop because he so ungrateful and I am sick of it and want him to get a job

Humphrey10

If he's anything like me, he will get bored eventually of being depressed and sitting around all day doing nothing, and pull himself together and do something constructive.
That he did that course in April is a good sign I would think?

MrsManda

I agree with a lot of the posts on here, especially the points about getting him to write his own applications. This is not because he's lazy and therefore should be made to do it himself. Rather, if he can't be bothered to write his own CV/covering letter then if he gets to the interview stage he'll find it difficult to articulate the answers to the questions posed as they will be based on his application. Also, if he can't be bothered applying for the jobs himself, how do you know he's going to be bother working even if he gets a job offer?
I was seriously ill between the ages of 13 and 21 and as such barely kept up with my school work, let alone have a job. As a result from a work experience point of view I was way behind others in my age group, many of whom had had jobs since they were 16. Applying for jobs is difficult in this situation but not impossible. A CV, like Lokolo's is a great way of getting the basics across. The titles on my CV has

Contact Details (name, address...)
Education (standard - gcse, a-level...)
Other Skills (any other things which may relevant, mine has Basic First training)
Awards (I got an award from school for partnership)
Work Experience (just put dates, where he worked, then in a couple of bullet points underneath of what he did - serving customers, using a til, stacking shelves, whatever)
Volunteer Experience
References
The Princes Trust course is vital in your son's case as he can describe what he learnt - team working, leadership, patience... It also gives him something to talk about in an interview.
References are also really important, until I had managed to hold down a job for more than 6 months I used two teachers from school as my referees. He needs to ask before he puts these down.
Cover Letter should cover what precise skills he has to bring to the job and why he's interested in the role. CV no more than two pages, cover letter only one page.

MrsManda

Presumably you provide bed&board? Stop giving him money, if he wants expensive things he'll have to go to work or wait and ask for money for Christmas/his birthday.
If you feel too guilty doing that (which you shouldn't but I'm guessing it's hard as a parent), then tell him he can have ~£30 a week (what he'd get if he did A-levels etc... on EMA) IF, until he can get a paid job, he gets out of the house and does some volunteering. Everywhere always needs volunteers, and volunteering is great for boosting confidence (which from my experience is often low when you've been ill for so long). It also improves the chance of getting a job. I dropped out of university the first time due to being seriously ill - I thought I'd left it behind at 18 but 6mths into my degree I ended up being so ill I couldn't leave the hospital for over a month. As such once I was well, no one wanted to employ me as I was considered unreliable. I started volunteering which meant I had to get up and out of the house everyday. This showed future employers that I was capable of maintaining a daily job and also meant I had a much more recent referee for my applications.

Oldernotwiser

booklover wrote: »

i think he probably wouldn't even try to get a job as we sorry i give him money all the time and he really has little incentive to find work.

or maybe he would try to fill the forms out But i really don't think so....


Its just he owes us so........... much money at the moment t3k and this cant go on,


what should i keep giving him money

You're making a rod for your own back. He's an adult now so treat him like one - it's called tough love.

juliescot

booklover wrote: »

Because he was sick i kept giving him money. He has very expensive taste, not like me. he buys expensive labels and camera and laptop...

it has to stop because he so ungrateful and I am sick of it and want him to get a job

It seems that there are more deep rotted issues here than just writing CVs and filling in forms.

Time for a re-evaluation of things, on all sides.

atypical

The CV is important and you've had more than enough advice about that but I think as, if not more, important is making sure he goes and hands it in himself preferably to the owner.

If he looks respectable, talks in proper English (none of this “I’s looking for a job to earn some dolla” as I heard recently) and seems enthusiastic he'd have done a better, more sincere job of showing his attributes than words on paper ever could.

foreign_correspondent

booklover wrote: »

ok thanks again

when I say ill, well briefly hes missed most of his education for the past 4 years due to chronic headaches and depression. hes a bit lazy too, so as i am better at doing forms and getting interviews/jobs i gees i have to all thee formds for him.

But I'm so tired for of doing this and now my other son who is 24 wants me to fill out a lot job applivations for him too,

Fiona x


ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

oh whats a mother to do........................scream...............................

He must do them himself- and you must stop subsidising his laziness. Any employer with a bit of nouse will soon spot he has had a lot of help completing his CV - when I first read your post I thought what an articulate young man he was - well, he may not be, but his mum is! I would never set someone on if it became clear that their mum had written their CV for them!

What right has he to have expensive tastes at your expense..? he is a young adult, who should be earning and paying you board! Stop subsidising his life of luxury - if I could come and live at yours, be fed, have a roof over my head, and have spending money, and not work for a living, I know that I would be very tempted to live a life of laziness!

As it is, I spent most of my young adult life skint, which was a great help in many ways, as it pushed me to go for opportunities which in reality, scared me to death, but I needed the money, so I pushed myself. Please do not let your lad sell himself short because he can - needing money can be a great motivator!