what would you do if....?

shiprob195

Oh I will.
One of the really annoying things is that my laptop has broken and I am typing this using the wii games console.......lol

shiprob195

Well, we went to our first session of mediation today, mainly filling in a form loosely based on form E. She asked us all the questions in turn, giving both of us the opportunity to answer.

She then asked us if we had any future plans to change our living arrangements eg getting married or moving in with a new partner. I said no and so did he......... lying #######.

We then adjourned the meeting for 2 weeks so we can both gather more paperwork together.
He then went off to have an initial assessment done for legal aid with a solicitor........more lies i expect.

shiprob195

Divorce will be granted soon.

valkirn

Yay go you xx

Hope everything works out in the future xx

moneysavermum_2

shipr!!!95 wrote: »

Well. ....this a brief update...we have agreed to split the eqity in the house 50/50......He will transfer the house into my name.

My parents are helping me out by paying £32k off the remaining mortgage. I will then get a mortgage for £21k in my own name.

He will get a sum of £20k now ( from my VERY kind parents ) and £16k ish when the youngest leaves secondary ed, i co habit/marry, die, or sell the house...etc etc.

We are both very happy with this arrangement.

He continues to "live" with the other woman in her house, whils claiming to live elsewhere.

I have just got off the phone from the fraud line.


I will be granted the Decree Nisi on the 16th December...and will be divorced at the end of January.

I am feeling a lot better now.

I think your mad....my opinion...id have made him wait for every penny. I dont condone adultery. I believe men who do this should suffer. I also belive you have sold yourself short on two accounts...you still have the children to raise which therefore limits your earning power and also you will have less of a pension whereas he keeps his pension. A fairer split would haqve been 60/40 or even 70/30 to you , as you still have kids to raise.

moneysavermum_2

I cant believe you are taking money off your parents to give to a complete ###### like him. Wrong decision in my opinion.

moneysavermum_2

springclean wrote: »

yes i do. you are angry and you want to hit back. i would say don't. be better than that. while ever you are holding on to past hurt, you are not moving forward. the saying 'what goes around, comes around' usually pans out.

i would concentrate now purely on what needs to be done. mediate for a higher percentage of the equity based on the fact that the children will be housed for the most part by you, and because of that you will be unable to work as many hours as he can etc etc. Once you have negotiated that, then look at buying him out if that's what you can do. then lock your door in peace, and with dignity.

good luck x

I agree 100% my advice would be to negotiate a larger percent of the equity as the youngest child is only 2. Therefore it will be along time before she can get a large income as shell need to balance this with child raising.

Ellie2758

ifonlyitwaseasier wrote: »

i'd shop him and her, and get a couple of other people to shop her too.

yes it's petty and a bit mean, but in your situation you need to do what is right for you and your kids.

and make him wait for his share of the equity, no need to hurry with that!

good luck!

I agree, shop the lying toerag :mad:

Damn, too late

BitterAndTwisted

What about child support? How are you going to earn a decent living AND pay a mortgage with a two-year old to raise for the next 16 years plus?

MsDee

hello,

I've been reading your thread, and just feel the need to point out gently to you, that there is quite a lot of private information posted here - for e.g what town you live in and what dates court hearings were, kids age etc. you have also admitted that you have reported him - be careful, this is a popular website and from your post, it could be easy to piece pieces of a jigsaw together from anyone living locally in your area - who may tell your husband..

p.s I think you have been far too generous - your husband betrayed you and your parents are giving him thousands of pounds -

good luck