Do you miss anything from your "old life?"

Churchmouse

Reverbe wrote: »

I have not seen my OH for over 16 months and I have been clear on the reasons why and have always mentioned their job and working hours as being a huge part of why I havent seen them. I am rather offended by your use of quotation marks when referring to my OH as if I am not entitled to call them my other half seeing as we do not live together. We have been together 6 years now.They will not take me in if that is your implication as they will never live with anyone again after what happened in their marriage.And should I become homeless I will be even less likely to be able to afford to travel half way up the country not "too far up the motorway" as you trivially refer to it.This implies that I am merely being too lazy to travel several hours and not the reality which is that I simply cannot afford the astronomical fares. Everyone's relationships here are valid and I am very hurt by your implication that my relationship is trivial.


You are confusing OS with poverty.
No I am quite clear about OS. I have seen enough people on the board who have a good income and do OS as a hobby while getting things like organic veg boxes etc and conversely people who are OS due to financial reasons. I have been on MSE for well over 18 months now.The OP's question was to all MSERs asking what they missed or didnt miss about the os lifestyle. I think that I am as entitled as anyone to post on this matter. We all have our own take on OS and why we do it and each is as valid as the next.

I think this is a terribly sad thing to have to post. Reverbe your OH does not deserve you. S/he cannot care for you much that they would see you sleep rough on the street and not take you in. Sorry if that offends, but if your flatmate who lets you sleep on his floor cares more for your welfare than your OH does then it speaks volumes. In 16 months, getting on for one quarter of the time you have been together, that person has not once made the effort to come and see you When my mother was ill before she died, I traveled 5 hours each way to spend 4 hours with her, at least one day a month. When she was dying it became once a week. That's because I adored her. The cost was crippling ( she lived in a village not served by public transport) but she was worth it.

You really know how to raise people's hackles don't you :rotfl:That really is a patronising remark. Luckily it doesn't apply to me since I am not quite well off enough, or OS enough for it to encompass me

I don't miss anything from my pre MSE OS life, because I'm lucky enough that we've never had any debt other than the mortgage, so I've not "given up" anything that was important to me. That's not to say I couldn't indulge myself a whole lot more were the money available, but I don't hanker for anything.

ceridwen

HariboJunkie wrote: »

Actually Ceridwen I said what I did because Reverbe has often made a point of saying how unhappy she is with her current living situation. I simply thought that she could see what is happening as a catalyst for change. I was not aware that she would receive no help for her predicament. It almost seems as if you you are using your intense dislike of me as a poster to make a point of stirring. I'm sure you wouldn't be so disingenuous as to stoop to that though.
I honestly don't know why you take such issue with me when all I have ever done is disagree with some of your opinions . May I suggest that rather than make jibes about,and to me, when I disagree with you, you just pop me on ignore. I'm sure that would suit your pacifist nature better than this antagonism.

For the record - I dont tend to think its worth my while actually HAVING any negative feelings about anyone - waste of emotional energy in my book. There are people I like and am friends with - including on this Board - and the rest (that I simply dont actually have any feelings about of any description). I dont do "disliking"..

I am sorry that I am obviously on your "dislike" list - but...oh well..as there would appear to be quite a few people on that list - at least theres plenty of "company" there....

HariboJunkie

ceridwen wrote: »

For the record - I dont tend to think its worth my while actually HAVING any negative feelings about anyone - waste of emotional energy in my book. There are people I like and am friends with - including on this Board - and the rest (that I simply dont actually have any feelings about of any description). I dont do "disliking"..

I am sorry that I am obviously on your "dislike" list - but...oh well..as there would appear to be quite a few people on that list - at least theres plenty of "company" there....

Ok then. Next time you tell another poster that you would have "gone ballistic" if I had said to you what I said to them, I shall ignore it completely as I should know that there is no dislike meant as you don't DO dislike. :rolleyes:

For the record ceridwen, there is a difference between dislike and disagree that you seem determined to ignore in favour of posting inflamatory remarks.

thriftlady_2

ceridwen wrote: »

I am sorry that I am obviously on your "dislike" list - but...oh well..as there would appear to be quite a few people on that list - at least theres plenty of "company" there....

You may not do 'disliking' Ceridwen but that is a nasty comment in anyone's book. I'm shocked that you could say something so hurtful and negative.

Carlos_Miranda

well, i am always crazy about doing shopping especially on weekends. I always used to keep some money when I would go on a walk to the city center. But now I miss it a lot since I have hardly any money to do some extra shopping, especially to buy clothing. Recession has changed our lives to a great extent.

ceridwen

thriftlady wrote: »

You may not do 'disliking' Ceridwen but that is a nasty comment in anyone's book. I'm shocked that you could say something so hurtful and negative.

Apologies Thriftlady

I've just realised how you "read" that comment - a different way to the one I meant it.

Goes off thinking - must set self 100 lines:

"I wont get upset by Haribo"
"I wont get upset by Haribo"

....I'm working on convincing myself. Life's too short to get upset by others after all..

...end of topic....

..now...can we all get back to moneysaving please.....

HariboJunkie

ceridwen wrote: »

Apologies Thriftlady

I've just realised how you "read" that comment - a different way to the one I meant it.

Goes off thinking - must set self 100 lines:

"I wont get upset by Haribo"
"I wont get upset by Haribo"

....I'm working on convincing myself. Life's too short to get upset by others after all..

...end of topic....

..now...can we all get back to moneysaving please.....

Happy to end the topic ceridwen but not before I marvel again at the double standards that allow you to complain that someone upsets you and yet to upset that person twice as much in return. This is the second time you have deliberately attacked me on a thread while claiming to be holier than thou so for my own sake, I won't dare to disagree with you again for fear of the vicous responses. May I suggest that life is also too short to bear a grudge against someone who disagreed with you once.

pixie1

I did have a before OS life but it was one that was very costly and hence i ended up in a lot of debt.

Now, i love to save. I love a bargain and my cooking skills are getting better by the day. I dont think Hubs realises the extent we have cut down although he does miss eating out as much as we used too.

Now im debt free, i choose to be thirfty and i enjoy it, it gives me a sense of achievement, i also see this lifestyle as a much healthier option.

Pix

katieclampet

Hi all, I've been reading this thread with interest. Like quite a few posters on here, I've always been quite frugal, and am an OSer through choice rather then necessity. However I have been trying not to spend so much on clothes, and am doing a no new clothes til 2010 challenge. I have often bought stuff from cs, cb sales but have banned myself from buying from "new shops".

I went shoping with dd a couple of weeks back, and must admit I did have a pang at all thoses lovely new clothes in the shops. However I did resist, bought gkids a few things instead.


katiex

Steel_2

ubamother wrote: »

And if you did, I could knit her udder-warmers in exchange for dairy product! See how it all works out?

And what 'warmer' would you knit if it was a boy cow in that picture? :rotfl: