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Bit annoyed with my dad
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he sounds very set in his ways.Have you tried talking to him and explaining things?
I spent years working in care with elderly people and not so elderly who were soooo set in their ways it was scary0 -
He sounds depressed. He needs you to be there for him and make him feel loved. Yes it is tough but he sounds like my grandad where he won't leave the house unless you personally go round and drag him out. 18 miles round trip is a very small amount compared to what a lot of people have to do.
I think he does get a bit depressed, he works nights and then has the weekend mostly to sit around and drink, my sister stays with him but shes 21 and never there. The 18 miles comment was only a statement not a complaintnickyhutch wrote: »He's your DAD. Get your !!! round there. When he's gone, you'll wish he was still there to visit.jackiegibbo wrote: »he sounds very set in his ways.Have you tried talking to him and explaining things?
I spent years working in care with elderly people and not so elderly who were soooo set in their ways it was scary
Yes he is very set in his ways, my nan used to visit every Sunday, then she passed away, then when I moved out and had my kids we started visiting on a Sunday and we don't ever think of doing anything else. He's not even that old, he's 63 so not quite a pensioner yet..
Just a wee update to say, he phoned today to say that he will come over tomorrow after all, but I think this might have something to do with the massive fight he had with my sister0 -
He sounds depressed.
Depressed?
Or spoilt and lazy perhaps?
However did you manage to arrive at a diagnosis of depression with the information given?"One day I realised that when you are lying in your grave, it's no good saying, "I was too shy, too frightened."
Because by then you've blown your chances. That's it."0 -
nickyhutch wrote: »He's your DAD. Get your !!! round there. When he's gone, you'll wish he was still there to visit.
Thta's a bit of an over reaction isn't it?She hasn't visited him in two weeks not two years.
:j little fire cracker born 5th November 2012 :j0 -
My Dad lives in Spain. I wish he was only a drive away.******** Never be a spectator of unfairness or stupidity *******"Always be calm and polite, and have the materials to make a bomb"0
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I dont think I could continue such a one sided relationship, so good for you for visiting your Dad every week. Once the puppy is house trained maybe you can go back to visiting your Dad and take the dog with you.“A budget is telling your money where to go instead of wondering where it went.” - Dave Ramsey0
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My dad died when I was 13 my husband's dad died when he was a baby. I know your dad is being a bit selfish but I so wish my dad had seen my kids, I wish they hadn't grown up with no grandad. I would say don't fall out about it and if you need to miss a couple of weeks it isn't the end of the world.Sell £1500
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Thanks for all the replies, he phoned today at 2.30 and said he had been to Asda and came back and wasn't feeling well, so he wouldn't be coming up! I said that was fine and we would see him next week, when we go back to going to his. He phoned 5 minutes later and said he would come up after all, so he came up in the end.
Maybe he is a bit depressed, I'm not sure he always has been a bit moody and huffy even when my mum was alive. Anyway we will be back to normal next week as puppy has settled in nicely and he said we can bring her over to his house if we want to.0 -
TBH honest i think lot of parents are like that, well in my family they are anyway.
My nan and grandad always expected us to visit them, and my mum fell out with my nan for years over it, but now my mum is the same, expects me to go round to her, you can't win, i just do it now though as someone else said, they wont be here forever so need to make the most of them, even if they do drive you mad0
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