Please help!!! Boyfriend's dropped a bombshell

Bufger

Hi Cakey, get your boyfriend to come on here too and he will feel the benefit of the advice. He also wont feel so alone with his debt as we have all seen much worse on here!

May i also suggest that you should never look at a new build on a development as your first property. Its like buying a new car, you'll lose money on it immediately and often you'll get ripped off by the developer. When it does come to buying a house have fun and look around in the areas you like. You can get a much nicer older house with character for the same price

Good luck!

tizhimi

Not really much advice I can add to be honest, everyone has been really honest with you - but it should be HIM that they are been honest with, it should be him on here.

Like a few people have said, he needs to learn from his mistakes and progress forward with getting this sorted.

Don't spend you savings on him, it doesn't matter how much you love him, he'll always resent it somewhere at the back of his mind.

You guys will get there, but only if he wants to. All the best!

biggaz26

cakeywright wrote: »

I understand your concern - I've been burned once before by an ex - never again.
But my boyfriend, for all his faults, is one of the world's nice guys. We're totally comitted, and I want to fully support him, but i also think it's important he gets through this himself so he learns the lesson

Sorry dont have anything to add I just thought it was a nice thing for you to say and a good way to put it!

Good luck!

G