Confused by teenage sons fibs...

Marcheline

I agree that this is not a big deal at all. It's just a white lie, for the reasons PasturesNew has outlined. If this is the worst youre getting from a 15 year old, be happy!!

ClareEmily

I fibbed all the time when I was that age and used my parents as excuses to get out of all sorts of things.

You are worried that his GF's parents will think badly of you which is understandable, if it does come in in conversation say that you are working but will see what you can do. Then have a quiet word with your son.

Maybe back off a bit from being so friendly with her parents, when I was a little older than your son my parents and my BF parents bonded then got upset when the relationship fell apart. He is 15 this relationship probably won't last forever.

Don't ever let him know that you have been through his phone he will never trust you again. My mum read my sister's diary years ago, well you know what they say you go looking for something you will find it.

TeetersOnHeels

Thanks everyone...and Marchaline, you're right -(touching wood as I type.) if this is the worst from a 15yr old boy then I should be relieved!!
Although if it does get mentioned by her mum & dad tonight I might just throw in that I've managed to get the evening off, and leave him to sqirm!!

SugarSpun

I'd leave his phone alone - and ask him to give you any more numbers that you might need from it.

I'd also not interfere with his love life. He can't tell his girlfriend he'd rather poke out his eyes than spend the day with her family, but he doesn't have the sort of excuses that grownups have so he's reliant on parents making things difficult, which is something that all other teenagers understand.

aliasojo

TeetersOnHeels wrote: »

........ if this is the worst from a 15yr old boy then I should be relieved!!

I've highlighted the most relevant part of your comments.

Seriously, leave the lad (and his phone) alone.

astonsmummy

I agree with the majority, I still lie sometimes to get out of things, bit of a cop out I know but sod it.

And never go through his phone!
I made the mistake of going through my OH's phone and regretted it, you always find something you dont want to, so best left well alone.

Gavin83

I agree with the majority, it's no major issue. He clearly has his reasons, whatever they are and they should be respected. It's easier using you as an excuse than anything else. To be honest though it's really none of your business what he chooses to do or not do with his gf.

I'd also be careful in snooping through his phone and don't tell him you've done so. He'll hold it against you for years and he'll become more closed off with you, particularly when it comes to his private life.

kingshir

My two daughters, when in their teens, used to use their 'strict' dad when they were invited to do anything they didn't fancy (ie camping, gigs, anything they considered boring:p). The funny thing is he wasn't strict at all :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: (I was the strict one:o) To be fair they did usually tell him when they were using him as an excuse:D

INT1

Leaveit, you will lose some amount of respect he has for you if he know you been reading his texts!

January20

My daughter (16 1/2) has used me in the past to get out of things because it saves her having to justify herself and being pressurised by friends when she says "my mum says no" or whatever.

She can use me as an excuse any time she wants because she understand the difference between a little white lie and a big nasty lie.

I don't really understand why you are so annoyed with your son. Don't we all do it to a point? You know: "I can't tonight I'm washing my hair" kind of thing?