grrrr!!

pink_phantom

I think this is all a bit harsh TBH and I am disgusted someone would offer this advice. Getting revenge on someone on their big day? that's just selfish. I do sympathisewith you but if I were to get pregnant again I would want to get married ASAP before the babies born and you should be pleased you've given her the heads up and saved them time. I am appalled!

notsayingaword

pink_phantom wrote: »

I think this is all a bit harsh TBH and I am disgusted someone would offer this advice. Getting revenge on someone on their big day? that's just selfish. I do sympathisewith you but if I were to get pregnant again I would want to get married ASAP before the babies born and you should be pleased you've given her the heads up and saved them time. I am appalled!

It was a joke, you know sarcasm - haven't you heard of it?!! Lighten up, if you actually read my post properly then you would have seen that the second paragraph started off 'Seriously though, does it really matter?'

And quite frankly why should the OP do all the leg work just so a so-called friend can pinch all their ideas.

pink_phantom

notsayingaword wrote: »

It was a joke, you know sarcasm - haven't you heard of it?!! Lighten up, if you actually read my post properly then you would have seen that the second paragraph started off 'Seriously though, does it really matter?'

And quite frankly why should the OP do all the leg work just so a so-called friend can pinch all their ideas.

because some people are better than that and rise above uch pettyness. I'm sure they can find ways of making their days unique. The other party has got pregnant and has decided to get married. As far as I can see, this should be a cause of celebration! And in future years I'm sure both days will be looked back apon by the child with equal value! Surely that's more important!

emlou2009

it is a cause for celebration, but she doesnt need to use MY celebration lol

pink_phantom

No that's true. I just think life's too short to worry about it. I'm sure when we're old an decrepit it will seem trivial and not somethin to be bitter about.Just don't tell her anything else and personalise the days in other ways. Also maybe sending out the save the date cards is a good idea if it really bothers you. Is she doing the same colour scheme / theme?

notsayingaword

Well OP was making her day unique - until her friend came along and nicked her ideas. And like I said, I was being sarcastic in my first post:rolleyes:

emlou2009

luckily i havent shown her any dresses or flowers or anything i like, so i dont think i've told her my colour scheme! but mine is going to be pink and silver, and she doesnt like pink so i think i might just be lucky there! i think she held off telling me about her engagement so she could drill me for ideas knowing how much time i spent looking for a venue :mad:

pink_phantom

Well as far as i've read it's just the compnies and venue that they are using that are the same. I see nothing wrong with this. I fail to see how 'ideas' have been stolen? If they are marrying in a rush what's wrong with having suppliers already sourced? Sorry but it smacks of sour grapes and I see nothing wrong with them getting married in a rush if they are having a baby and want to marry before it's born! It is really petty that pregnant lady would be expected to run around finding our suppliers and venues independantly when they probably have enough to worry about! Expecially a member of your own family!

emlou2009

well for the first thing she isnt a member of my own family as the very first line of the first post states :rolleyes:

she has gone about it totally underhandedly, she was engaged a couple of weeks ago and listened to me say how important it was to me that i wanted to have my reception somewhere where none of my friends had used for theirs, and before telling me she was engaged grilled me and my h2b for every detail she could, she even came round to see the leaflet the venue gave me! then she didnt have the guts to tell me herself, she told my OH!! she has been a complete sneaky cow over this! i am a nice person, if she had come to me and said "look, this is my situation" kind of thing i would have done everything in my power to help her, but the fact is shes gone behind my back and then not even had the backbone to tell me herself what she's done!

please do not accuse me of having sour grapes, thats just rude tbh! sour grapes over what exactly? that she has less than half the time to plan her wedding than i do? that her wedding is going to be a rush job? that shes going to spend her wedding day tired with swollen feet?! <-- sarcasm, before someone accuses me of something :rolleyes: i couldnt give a rats about who gets married first, i just dont appreciate the underhandedness of it

clareyPINKfairy

hey emlou,

yeah - i'm a june 2011 bridetoo.
i'm guessing the other bride will be getting married fairly soon. hopefully everyone will have forgotten about her wedding by the time yours comes around in 2011. i know what you mean about wanting to find your own individual venue - i have 3 older cousins who are married already and i dont really want to look "samey" by using the same venues as they had.

i understand how annoyed you must be. you've obviously worked so hard to find all the things you wanted.
i'd be annoyed too.
but your ideas are all originals, and hopefully all your friends will know this.
me and OH are sending out Save the dates once we sort our venue out. hopefully all your friends will understand how long you've been planning yours, and when they get save the dates, they will see that yours isn't till 2011, so your obviously not rushing into things - unlike your friend who seems be rushing things - and all the guests will know the reason she is gettin married (the baby - i'm guessing thats why she's rushing to marry anyway )