Engagement Rings (merged)

crazyscientist

ooh how exciting!

Has she got any rings already? Or even a diamond necklace will give you an idea about the shapes and sizes she likes (for example if she regularly wears a fine gold chain with a tiny stone on the bottom then you might deduce from that that she likes gold, finer things and not choose a big silver chunky ring)

Same goes for size. next time she takes off her rings, see which of your fingers it fits on and remember to check the fit when you buy it. Its not the end of the world if its a little bit out as most can be altered at a later date.

or, (this would get my vote) - buy her a plastic one to pop the question with and then take her out for a romantic day shopping to choose the real one and have a nice lunch together!

good luck!!

moggins

Depends completely on the girlfriend. I would have been gutted if my DH had chosen my ring by himself as I have very unusual tastes in jewellery.

Bogof_Babe

I agree with Moggins. This is a piece of jewellery that she will treasure for the rest of her life, and show off on any possible occasion, so it's only right that she has a say in the style of it.

How about getting a ring box but instead of putting the actual ring in it, put a beautifully written slip of paper saying "Would you do me the honour of becoming my wife?". While she is recovering from the surprise, tell her that you would love her to come with you as soon as possible to choose herself a ring.

However if you do want to do it the old fashioned way, a single solitaire diamond never really dates.

Philippa36

I would be thrilled if my o/h presented me with a ring he had chosen himself. Thought I should put forward my view, seeing as the other posts suggested you let her pick her own

My O/H picked out a gorgeous platinum ring for me a couple of Xmas's ago and I love it.

Check out her other jewelry and then pick something similar. Platinum is my favourite but then I don't wear any gold jewelry at all.

callansdad

My OH presented me with a ring from Argos. It was a cheap £10 one and then told me that that was a token (had a look at Argos and they don't do the same one anymore but have other ones) and i could pick my own ring. It wouldn't fit on my engagement finger but it fitted on the same finger on the other hand. I still wear them both to this day, the ring means as much to me as the one i picked.

sulliebear

Hi,
I don't ask that question to be critical but just realistic.

Now, here is my opinion (for what it is worth).
My (now) husband proposed to me just over three years ago and he had picked out the ring himself. I must admit when I first saw the box I thought oh my god what has he picked but it has to be said the ring was absolutely perfect and I loved it. It is a white gold solataire, OK to some people this would not be a difficult choice for a man to make but I disagree. I firmly believe that my husband went to a lot of trouble to find the perfect ring. He knew that I wasn't keen on yellow gold and he also new that big rings just look awful on my dainty fingers. He resisted the urge to buy the biggest in the shop (although it was one of the most expensive) it didn't need to look it. The ring is to show your love not to show off!

If you trully feel that you know your future wife, go for it, take the risk.

As for gold or platinum, what colour is her other jewellary? My wedding ring is two coloured so that it matches my engagement ring and other treasured yellow gold necklaces etc.

I know how men find it difficult to be spontanous and buy the "right" gifts but my ring is all the more special because he chose it for me.

As for her size, my bloke tried one of my other rings to see which finger it fitted on of his own, for example to the first knuckle of his little finger.

I think that your girlfriend will appreciate the moment all the more if she can see the "real" thing.

Good Luck!

shelly

I agree with the first few posters. I'd let her choose her own. My hubby proposed to me on our 10year "being together" anniversary, he didn't have a ring as he wanted me to choose my own. I didn't mind that he didn't have a ring I was just ecstatic that he'd finally asked me!! Anyway, when we went to the jewellers a week later I asked him what kind of ring he would have chosen for me, he pointed one out and I have to say it wasn't my taste at all, not for an engagememnt ring anyway. In the end I got a gorgeous yellow gold ring set with a decent size single solitaire diamond.

You have to get it right because if hubby had presented me with his choice I'd have kept it because he'd chosen it for me even though I didn't like it much. He was surprised when I told him this but he's glad he let me choose my own.


Oh and don't listen if anyone tells you it has to cost XX times your salary.



HTH and good luck together

Kaminari_2

I wouldn't want to pick my own ring. I've got confidence that my other half knows what i want. He pulls me to jewelry shop windows all the time and asks me what i think of the rings.

Rachie_B

we picked mine together

im sure hubby would have picked one id have liked but i think its nice to choose it together

Agutka

I'm getting married next month (I just realised this!! next month!! aarrgghh)
Anyway...
My fiancee bought my ring all by himself. I had no clue about anything at the time. I had just got myself this shiny costume ring (four square diamontees) in the sales, which I must have shown off to him. Unknown to myself, this ring was sneaked off to the shops one Saturday morning. That monday I was presented with a white gold, square diamond ring, which even fitted my finger. I was sooooo surprised and shocked. Never mind the engagement - I wanted to hear the ring story over and over again.


But I would have expected to go shopping for my own ring, so if you really want to buy it yourself, keep the receipt. I love the idea of the cheap starter ring. So romantic!

Also...platinum eh?:cool: