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Horace

Hi Lula

I admit that I overslept this morning - I switched my alarm off at 6.30am but I swear I was awake at 3am. I didnt do half of what I had planned to do yesterday and today is as bad although I have rung the council about the recycling bins that we have been given which have never been emptied since they were given to us 2 months ago - so I told them that it was pointless having them if they weren't going to bother emptying them and the driver of the disposal lorry using the excuse that there was a car parked on the carpark so he couldnt get the lorry in was too pathetic for words - it was my car and on the opposite side to where the bins are and anyway you get the titanic and the queen mary in the carpark and still have room to spare...sorry I have turned into grumpypants.

Best crack on - I have a fair bit to do today and I am hoping to go and sit in the sun.

Lula-Hula

Hello you gorgeous lot :wave:

Thanks for your quickies Buffy & Shoey :A

Horace - sounds like the council have a 'rubbish' ( ha ha, sorry ) excuse for not collecting :mad: hope you got to sit in the sun though ... after you planted your salad leaves, of course

Tixy- thanks for the Faith tips, I have been angelic & not been anywhere near the place as it would be just too tempting to stock up on fab shoes that I dont need. I'm ashamed to say that I still havent worn the ones I bought last time I went there . Not sure how much longer I can hold out, although Gwen80 has introduced me to the wonderful world of Dune & I think I could be very happy there too .

Onwards ... it hasnt been a great day here. I had all the towels on the washing line by 7.30 & was washing the floors by 8 which makes up for lack of chores at the weekend.

Work was annoying in that everything I had set up to run this week so I that I dont have to go in on friday, was overturned at the weekend & I'll struglle to regain the time needed. It wasnt helped by getting a call from the school at lunch time to say that DD was feeling sick so I rushe doff to pick her up & she was looking very sorry for herself, very hot & probably suffering from mild heatstroke.

Got her cooled down & settled on the sofa & hoping she'd sleep a bit but the noise from neighbours lawnmower was too loud :mad:. Went in my room to get change, heard a loud crack & looked up to see the window had a large chip & crack about 5 cm wide. Looked onto the flat roof & saw a large stone lying there & the chap mowing the neighbours lawn with big petrol mower which was spewing out stones left, right & centre. Spoke to the chap when he stopped & although he apologised he said he wasnt sure how it could have happened. Hmmmm maybe because you're driving the mower like its a sports rotivator :doh:. Rang the landlord & oh happy day, it turns out that glass repairs are down to me, so I got a couple of quotes - dismissed the first guy for having a bad attitude & then oh happy happy day, it's going to cost me about £90 to get it replaced :mad::(.

My first reaction was to lump the neighbour with the bill, but it's not that simple. For the 15+ years I've lived here,neither he nor his wife have worked ( I believe he has mental health problems, not sure why she doesnt though) they have 2 grown up daughters, neither of which live at home still. I think he does a bit of gardening for some extra cash. They are quite poor; as in no car or pc, never had a holiday & ride bikes & tow handmade trailers on their scavenging trips. They are harmless & kind & dont cause any trouble.

On the other hand they both smoke & presumably dont pay any rent or council tax & I doubt he has liability insurance to cover the cost of the damage.

I on the other hand, am definitely not poor in that same sense & have access to plenty of credit as well as having the cash avaialable to pay for the repair. In spite of the outward difference between our lives, i dint break the window & I dont want to pay the cost of the replacement & do work damn hard to ensure I can have access to that credit & also pay my rent & the other things we need/want.

My question is, would it be ok for me to ask him to pay for half the cost ?

Souk08

Lula, I think that's fair. You work hard for your cash and like you say, YOU didn't break it!

Lula-Hula

Morning all,

thank for your input Souk - although I have to say : what the 'ecky peck are you doing up at that time of the morning :eek:.

I checked my home insurance policy & even if I can claim there is a £50 excess. Will wait to get total cost from repairer before taking further action. I dont want to cause hardship or ill feeling but do feel that neighbour should pay something towards the cost ...

I've decided to keep DD off school again today as she's still very hot although she has managed to eat a bit of toast. I discovered a letter from her former Bessfriend in her bag & although it's not particularly nasty; merely going on about how she no longer wants to be friends with her & that DD shouldnt be angry, more upset & has brought it on herself :huh:, there is something rather underhand & a bit controlling about it.

I dont want to get this blown out of proportion, but am a bit miffed that DD is avoiding certain activites because of the ill feeling. I have instructed DD not to reply to this or write any of her own letters & to walk away from any potential arguments in school. If she can master that then she'll have achieved what I never could as a child, always had to have the last word .


I had a rummage in my inbox this morning & was rather depressed to discover that xbf has still not found anything better to do with his time. Another email saying that he doesnt understand why I wont talk to him & that if I'm going to ingore him then I should f*** off out of his country & that I cant ignore him as it will get much worse... I'm not sure whether that is a threat but have decided to ignore it but keep the email in case of further developments. Have been trying desperately to locate the paperwork & my witness statement from when I had to report his previous behaviour ( hence the decision to sort through paperwork) no sign of it. I am feeling slightly comforted by the fact that I now work with men, lots of them who could probably be very persuasive if necessary.

My plan for today is to sort through all my paperwork & get home-job work one then maybe I can get out in the garden & finish planting.

I have managed 12 NSDs already this month & today should be another.

Will probably return later due to excess boredom ...

Souk08

Hi love, Sometimes I start work at 7 so I'm up at half five!

Ex sounds nasty (and like a loon) oh dear!

Lovely mum being operated on on Sunday. She is however being frosty with me tonight as I am off for a mucky night in a hotel tomorrow with a guy I've just met!!! She only knows about it because I tell her all that I'm doing and we speak every day i.e if we had a crap relationship and I called her once a fortnight she could think I was an angel but as it's so good we know everything that's happening IYSWIM. As a mum lula, what would you rather have ie not close so get protected from the reality or very close and hear things you don't want to?

makeup

Souk - I keep things like that quiet from my parents. It was funny on Sat as they were down to see my new flat and my friend was over and twice she asked me what I was doing that evening. I had to keep lying that I was staying in but as soon as they left I shot over to see my FWB......

A couple of years ago I met a guy on holiday in Miami and went back to see him and I was seriously contemplating not mentioning it. I could have 'got away' with it but I thought it would be awful if something bad happened and my Mum didn't even know I was out of the country.

So I told her and it was never mentioned again.......

I get the feeling she is glad I keep that kind of thing to myself....although it would depend a lot on the type of relationship you have. It does seem like you are very close and speak a lot so it is a lot harder to keep that kind of thing out of the conversation.

Souk08

Ha! It's all okay, she just told me I was precious and agreed it was up to me but to take care. She laughed that she only knows cos we're so close. Being so close means knowing everything, good and bad that's happening.

Sorry for hijacking the thread, just wanted your take Lula and thanks Make-up. We're never annoyed with each other for long!

Lula-Hula

Souk,

you hijack away my lovely, if it wasnt for you & makeup this thread would be in serious danger of becoming a nunnery :eek: & that will never do. I am currently working on recruiting an FWB myself but keep it :shhh: for now ...

To answer your question, I would always prefer to know what my DDs are up to & that is a very conscious decision I made a long time ago largely due to having had a very non open relationship with my own mother about personal matters.

I'm not sure how that came about, maybe due to being at boarding school throughout my teenage years & never having had her around to talk to. I know that when I was released ( ok, politely asked to leave :rotfl:) & lived at home for year, I found my parents interest in my personal life both intrusive & frankly a bloody cheek after not having taken any notice for the last 6 years :mad:. It was no accident that they didnt even find out I was pregnant with DD1 until I was 6 months gone. I had accurately predicted their reaction & thankfully taken steps to move on with life without needing their input

Perhaps if I had led a typical married woman with 2.4 children + mortgage lifestyle then the DDs & I wouldnt be so open about things & the boundaries between adults & children would have been more defined but being the bohemian wannabe rebel that I am, I chose my own path & we have always practised free speech in our home, being a young mother probably makes it less daunting for DD1 to share info with me but she is less keen to know what I get up to ( clearly as I am still her mother & it's gross ). A prime example being when she came over at the weekend & on inspecting my newly decorated room she noticed that there is small bolt on the inside of my bedroom door. I said that of course there was as there are certain things that a child should never have to witness & she got all 'eeeeeeuuuuuuuw' y :rotfl:

I'm sure your mum is more concerned for your physical safety than your moral status, I would be & am now coming over all maternal & wondering whether any of your friends know which hotel & who with ??? I spent a few weeks dating 'plenty of fish ers' & I was given some very sound advice by eco :A about always leaving details with someone.

You really cant be too careful; the xbf I mentioned was originally a casual FWB & he never really accepted that & kept on trying to make it more than it was ... for a while I gave it a go but his freakishness & other things made me decide to opt out permanently & it's now over 18 months since it ended & still he wont let it go, what a loser.

Lula-Hula

Moving on from my previously saucy & now sadly staid sex life ...

today has been another NSD :j but there are more ebay bids in progress as I type . Being at home today proved lethal, there is just so much lovely stuff out there that peoples are willing to send to me in return for a few small pounds

As I was boiling the kettle I heard a noise & saw the posties arm appear through the catflap with a couple of parcels :rotfl: Fab pair of bronze wedge 'nothing to declare' sandals for me & also a 99p that I have already declared skirt which is just waiting for a new top to go with it ( hence the bids)

All this reusing other peoples unwanted stuff & having ti deliver by the postie on his bike is far more eco ('nomical & 'logical) than getting in my car & going to town to by something new so I believe it be totally justifiable if somewhat addictive & a habit I need to get over quick before the end of the month.

DD went to bed having finally managed to lower her temperature so I plan to send her to school tomorrow. Cant be doing with staying at home again; I ate cake & drank coffee which is why I'm still up now, the phone rang all day long ( work three times, people wanting my business & my blood) & I spent hours on ebay looking for things to buy .

I have done about 5 surveys though & redeemed another £10 voucher which I requested to be Amazon so I can preorder the latest club penguin ds game for DD which is due out in a couple of weeks, at a cheaper rate .

Dreading the fall out after a day off & the knowledge that I now have to work this friday .

Really need to go to bed now,

night night
xx

Souk08

Morning lady and thanks! Yep my friends know where I am and who he is, not actually a POF'er, I met him on the street a few weeks ago and he stayed with me then and took my number! May get there and not fancy him sober or whatever but think I will and going to take in a few galleries and what not while I'm through so all good.

Pay day tomorrow lady XXX