Inappropriate???

Fire_Fox

Has your landlord ever let himself in or come over uninvited?? I think you should give him the benefit of the doubt and not assume it's harassment. He may be a genuinely helpful landlord for a pregnant tenant, who overstepped the mark a little due to cultural differences.

I would not ask him to do any further jobs and politely refuse if he offers. Perhaps try to bring your husband into every conversation. You should be able to get this relationship back on a fully professional standing without making accusations that may be unfounded and that your landlord cannot ever disprove.

PrincessPlaty

He has come round twice uninvited to have a look at repairs that need doing, no he has never let himself in uninvited well not that im aware of!!! :eek:

Agbe have PM'd you back thanks

McKneff

You must make it clear to him that you cannot have him just turn up on the doorstop. Be nice and ask him to ring you 24 hours in advance if he needs to be in the property.


Agbe and Welshwoofs, kissing cheeks is all very well, but would you let your landlord kiss you while he's doing repairs.
He wouldnt get over my doorstep again uninvited.

Fire_Fox

PrincessPlaty wrote: »

He has come round twice uninvited to have a look at repairs that need doing, no he has never let himself in uninvited well not that im aware of!!! :eek:

Agbe have PM'd you back thanks

That needs to stop. When you husband is home he alone should deal with the landlord, so he doesn't get too 'matey' with you. I would start putting requests for any essential/ urgent repairs into writing, that automatically puts things on a more formal level.

You will obviously be getting more tired as you get more heavily pregnant and more busy once the baby is born, so those are good excuses to have other people deal with him or be unavailable yourself.

PrincessPlaty

Right the landlord has just rang me, i didnt answer the call and let it go to voicemail.
I had mentioned to him previously about advertising one of his houses on gumtree because he had been having trouble renting one of his houses out.

In the voicemail he is asking for the website address which is no big deal but he then mentioned the text that he sent yesterday.

He stated that he sent me a text yesterday afternoon but he thinks he may have spelt knackered wrong (which he did but it was just the k missing off the beginning of it) he then said that he wasnt sure as he deletes all his messages after he has sent them but anyway he thought he would let me know that he had spelt it wrong.


A tad confused why he would have mentioned it tbh!

I will text him the website address for gumtree i think, he said he would call me back later so if i do that i guess he doesnt need to ring back later

Agbe

"He stated that he sent me a text yesterday afternoon but he thinks he may have spelt knackered wrong (which he did but it was just the k missing off the beginning of it) he then said that he wasnt sure as he deletes all his messages after he has sent them but anyway he thought he would let me know that he had spelt it wrong.


A tad confused why he would have mentioned it tbh!"

Maybe he was worried you thought he meant "naked"?

Batchy

On one hand I think he is being overly friendly (not necessarily a problem as long as long as its CLEAR its going NOWHERE)

On the other he could just be bored

Or he could be thinking you like him and want a play friend when hubby isnt there as he works away.

Either way... I wouldnt worry too much, we as a country like to blow things out of proportion sometimes.

Inappropriate... depends on your 'friendship'

My landlords just had the kays back and the husband and wife loved how clean the house was, and she kissed me and wished me good luck and even offered a reference if needed, couldnt have been nicer, i kid you not. It worked out well for both parties over the last 2 years, but it was professional all the way. I would say she was overly friendly, but I never had a problem with it. As it was just that!

PrincessPlaty

Agbe wrote: »

"He stated that he sent me a text yesterday afternoon but he thinks he may have spelt knackered wrong (which he did but it was just the k missing off the beginning of it) he then said that he wasnt sure as he deletes all his messages after he has sent them but anyway he thought he would let me know that he had spelt it wrong.


A tad confused why he would have mentioned it tbh!"

Maybe he was worried you thought he meant "naked"?

That did dawn on me as i posted it actually :rotfl:

Oh god what a pickle :rotfl:

poppysarah

Don't offer coffee, don't be alone with him etc.
Make sure your husband is there sometime when he comes round, or talk about your husband a lot to him perhaps (All positives obviously)

dizzybuff

freindly or not , it is unproffessional. Get your relationship back to a buisness level.
24 hours notice . Id check in your tennancy agreement about changing the locks

If he turns up unanounced , just open it say your busy at that moment and could he txt to0 arrange a day to come round.

On the whole you have alot on your plate , you dont need him making ur blood pressure soar with worry ..

Just lay the law down . remember you have as much say in this as him....